Feeling really guilty

Hi Hun , I'm Casey don't feel bad or guilty just take it as lesson learnt and Denver tomorrow is another day, so lift your spirits up an keep looking an focusing on the change you are wanting every one fails at times but the people that pick them self back up have the determination to succeed

Its not about perfection its about persistence! Don't worry just stay on track and you'll be fine! Its not about what your weight will be today or tomorrow its about the change that happens over a year! focus on your successes and move on from the setbacks :flowerforyou:

As the others have said, just keep going and try not to feel guilty. Real life happens! Use it as a learning opportunity.

I signed up on Saturday and was all set for a "good" beginning as my fiance is away for the week and I had planned a quiet weekend of healthy eating and catching up on jobs around the house. Then a friend who is moving away soon invited me out for a meal, and I didn't want to pass that up as it will be the last time I see her until June. I made my usual choices at the restaurant and yes I drank too much wine, but I still tracked everything as I thought it would be a good opportunity to see how it all added up. I felt a little annoyed with myself for sabotaging myself so soon, but I had a good time, saw my friend and next time I go out for a meal or drinks I'll be better informed.

Good luck in your journey x

he problem is you feel guilty, don't. We are all human and make mistakes. Just get back on that horse and keep trying.

Everybody had lapses now and then it's what makes us human , just start afresh and make today a good day

so what you're saying is ....

you got to spend some quality time with your dad and share a meal??? must have been a very enjoyable evening.. :bigsmile: :drinker:

Know what you are feeling. I went away for the weekend and had no access to MFP. I was scared of going over my calories, which I'm sure I did. I felt guilty when I ate, even though I passed on desserts and the like. It was the first time I was unable to log before I ate. Now that I am back, and I can log again, I am feeling much better about it. Just have to start again and continue with better choices. Every day is a new day, and its what we make of them that matter. Keep up the hard work, it is worth it!

The loudest part of your post to me, OP, is this feeling of "guilt." You may want to check in with yourself and your expectations of weight loss, how you view yourself, what you assume behavior change must look like, and your internally-held sense of punishment. Many heavy people have internalized messages about shame, and we can allow the punishing voice inside our heads to drown out both hope AND reason. It's best to check in with those inner messages early on and find a kinder way to handle the many hiccups that will accompany any behavior change efforts.

To me, here's a reasonable approach to your perhaps unintentional calorie splurge. Account for it. Document it in your food tracker, knowing that you can't be precise about what you ate. Resist the urge to low-ball your numbers--you'll find a wide range of calories and macros in the many "burrito" entries on MFP. If you knew your burritos were pretty cheesy, or smothered with guac and sour cream, do your best to account for those calories and fats. Put it all in your tracker.

And do it again the next day.

Behavior change is an ongoing process, and it starts with choosing which singular behavior you're going to change and a means to document that behavior. One of the easiest entry points for behavior change tracking here on MFP is dutiful use of the food tracker. Whatever you eat, however you feel about what you ate, document it. Every single day.

Over time, you'll find yourself more aware of your food choices BEFORE you eat. You may even start testing out what you'd like to eat by putting it into the tracker FIRST, and go from there.

But be a little gentler with yourself. Be firm in your commitment to track your food, and more realistic in your expectations of your behavior change. Stick to tracking as your first step, and you will likely add in additional changes as you go along.

Hang in there.

Aw. Real normal life is about sensible eating peppered with treats and social events - this was one of them.

Most of us have had to learn not to hide from these things otherwise it's a diet not a lifestyle change. The day after is what counts, that is getting straight back to normal eating, no need to overcompensate etc, just resume the norm.