Feeling really guilty

Hi Hun , I'm Casey don't feel bad or guilty just take it as lesson learnt and Denver tomorrow is another day, so lift your spirits up an keep looking an focusing on the change you are wanting every one fails at times but the people that pick them self back up have the determination to succeed

Its not about perfection its about persistence! Don't worry just stay on track and you'll be fine! Its not about what your weight will be today or tomorrow its about the change that happens over a year! focus on your successes and move on from the setbacks :flowerforyou:

As the others have said, just keep going and try not to feel guilty. Real life happens! Use it as a learning opportunity.

I signed up on Saturday and was all set for a "good" beginning as my fiance is away for the week and I had planned a quiet weekend of healthy eating and catching up on jobs around the house. Then a friend who is moving away soon invited me out for a meal, and I didn't want to pass that up as it will be the last time I see her until June. I made my usual choices at the restaurant and yes I drank too much wine, but I still tracked everything as I thought it would be a good opportunity to see how it all added up. I felt a little annoyed with myself for sabotaging myself so soon, but I had a good time, saw my friend and next time I go out for a meal or drinks I'll be better informed.

Good luck in your journey x

he problem is you feel guilty, don't. We are all human and make mistakes. Just get back on that horse and keep trying.

Everybody had lapses now and then it's what makes us human , just start afresh and make today a good day

so what you're saying is ....

you got to spend some quality time with your dad and share a meal??? must have been a very enjoyable evening.. :bigsmile: :drinker:

Know what you are feeling. I went away for the weekend and had no access to MFP. I was scared of going over my calories, which I'm sure I did. I felt guilty when I ate, even though I passed on desserts and the like. It was the first time I was unable to log before I ate. Now that I am back, and I can log again, I am feeling much better about it. Just have to start again and continue with better choices. Every day is a new day, and its what we make of them that matter. Keep up the hard work, it is worth it!

The loudest part of your post to me, OP, is this feeling of "guilt." You may want to check in with yourself and your expectations of weight loss, how you view yourself, what you assume behavior change must look like, and your internally-held sense of punishment. Many heavy people have internalized messages about shame, and we can allow the punishing voice inside our heads to drown out both hope AND reason. It's best to check in with those inner messages early on and find a kinder way to handle the many hiccups that will accompany any behavior change efforts.

To me, here's a reasonable approach to your perhaps unintentional calorie splurge. Account for it. Document it in your food tracker, knowing that you can't be precise about what you ate. Resist the urge to low-ball your numbers--you'll find a wide range of calories and macros in the many "burrito" entries on MFP. If you knew your burritos were pretty cheesy, or smothered with guac and sour cream, do your best to account for those calories and fats. Put it all in your tracker.

And do it again the next day.

Behavior change is an ongoing process, and it starts with choosing which singular behavior you're going to change and a means to document that behavior. One of the easiest entry points for behavior change tracking here on MFP is dutiful use of the food tracker. Whatever you eat, however you feel about what you ate, document it. Every single day.

Over time, you'll find yourself more aware of your food choices BEFORE you eat. You may even start testing out what you'd like to eat by putting it into the tracker FIRST, and go from there.

But be a little gentler with yourself. Be firm in your commitment to track your food, and more realistic in your expectations of your behavior change. Stick to tracking as your first step, and you will likely add in additional changes as you go along.

Hang in there.

Aw. Real normal life is about sensible eating peppered with treats and social events - this was one of them.

Most of us have had to learn not to hide from these things otherwise it's a diet not a lifestyle change. The day after is what counts, that is getting straight back to normal eating, no need to overcompensate etc, just resume the norm.

Aw, I know how you feel. But if you recognize that it is ok and you can still continue on this journey then you won't quit. For several months, I would have a cheat day and end up having a cheat week. Now I do not feel as guilty about what I eat even if I do fall off the wagon so it usually just a cheat meal or a cheat snack. Usually they are not even as bad as I would think they would be either.

Hey there! I have changed my diet and exercise over a year ago!
I have really great weeks, and not so great weeks! I have spent a lot of money on a nutritionist and one of the things he mentioned is don't call it a 'cheat' day. That implies that you are doing something bad ... and you actually are doing something good for your body! Call it a treat day Also, if you are starting a new program, I would suggest trying to go 14-21 days without a cheat to really get yourself in the routine of clean eating and feeling so great that you wont want to go overboard when you allow yourself the treat! Good luck!!

Hi Hun,

Don't panic, you haven't failed, let yourself down, screwed up or even gone off the rails.... You've only just started on your journey and that means everything is a learning curve....

So you ate a bit more than your calorific allowance, but tomorrow is another day, therefore counteract today's over eat, by eating less tomorrow.... People put way too much emphasis on the "perfect calorie balance" and then panic when their numbers don't add up....

Take it from someone who has lost 62kg (133lb) that calories are not an exact science, they are just numbers that give us an indication or how much nutrition we are putting in our faces, sometimes my calories are way under and I gain a weight, and other times I can eat too many calories and lose weight.... Your body is a machine, but it is not a perfect machine, your calorific usage with be determined by hormone levels, time of day, water intake and other environmental factors.

Just chalk this down to experience, you cannot fail at weight loss as long as you're still trying, the only time your weight loss endeavor will fail, is when you quit trying....

xXx

We learn and grow from every step, whether forward or backward.

Over my life (53 years) I have learned that feeling guilty is only beneficial for about 5 minutes.

It is an emotional flag that helps me recognize I need to do something different and make amends if my poor decision harmed someone else in any way. Beyond that, feeling guilty is unhelpful. And if it insists on persisting I ignore it until it slinks off into a corner and leaves me alone. I forgive myself, rededicate myself, and keep going.