My husband cheating

sorry to hear about the loss of your son. what happened???

I'm soooo sorry sweetie!! What a difficult time - I'm praying for you and sending you hugs!! We're here for you!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

*mello gathers all MFPers in a HUGE circle for a HUGE group hug for annmarie*

I'm sorry to here about your loss with your son. Also about your hubbs. Just thinking about your son dying I'm assuming that is hard on the both of you and just maybe he was being completely outside his body and was using the computer as a release. Not excusing the fact that he had ideas of cheating. That's just wrong. Maybe you two should try some therapy. I hope it works out for you both!
GodBless! :flowerforyou:

First off and most importantly I am so sorry you lost your son I can't imagine how you must be feeling so my heart goes out to you


Well my only advice to you and this is my personal opinion that if he tried it's not going to change. And this is just by my experience my ex husband (divorce was final last week) did it 3 times each time I forgave and we worked on it. I finally realized it wasnt going to get any better. I am so sorry this has happened to you I wouldn't wish this feeling on anyone

I know that only you can make the decision for u and realize what is best I know when I was going through mine my friends and family kepted saying why dont you do counseling why dont you do this or that....they didnt know the whole story or the number of times and how it hurt and took a strain on me and my health. You make the decision for you, please don't listen to others literally.... you know you.... that is why I said that the above is my personal opinion. I just know what i had to do and I am sure you will too.

Lots of love and thoughts of you today I hope you make a decision you are happy with

Your family has been under a great deal of stress it sounds like, not taking up for hubby AT ALL:noway: , but from a psychological standpoint it's common that he might try to reach out to someone outside of your family troubles.....but he needs to turn to you, not away from you right now. Don't boot him just yet, try to work it out.

Ooof, what a year. :brokenheart: :brokenheart:

Hugs to you! :flowerforyou:

:brokenheart: My heart breaks for you, honey! I'm so sorry. No one should have to bury a child. No one should lose a child. I think a lot of this is stress on both parts. Counseling may help. You may want to ask him about it. Talk out what you can. Communication is key. I'm thinking about you. ((HUGS))

I find it very difficult to comment on others lives but I do know the pain of 'young' lost lives and my heart goes out to you and yours. We all grieve in different ways, however I don't think that planned infidelity is an acceptable one. It would be too sad if you lost each other as well.

Keep you chin up and your path clear

Your family has been under a great deal of stress it sounds like, not taking up for hubby AT ALL:noway: , but from a psychological standpoint it's common that he might try to reach out to someone outside of your family troubles.....but he needs to turn to you, not away from you right now. Don't boot him just yet, try to work it out.

I was thinking the same thing, it may be his way to "escape" the pain of losing a child.
I'm sure there is additional stress in your relationship now and maybe the communication and sex life is not what it once was but that is understandable after what you are going through.
You definitely need to talk to him before it gets worse and find out what things you can work on together.
I would advise counseling and I find that the best counseling comes from a pastor and the bible if you attend church.
Good luck to you!! :flowerforyou:

At first when I read the subject of your post I thought he must be cheating on his diet or something....but whoa! I'd say leave, but thats easier said than done....I know that from experience! Prehaps he is acting out due to the death of a son...there is no way to tell...It's hard to give advice about a relationship when you don't know much about the couple. TRY to stay calm....fighting isnt going to fix anything. Try to get him to open up and be honest about whats going on with him emotionally. Counseling wouldn't hurt, but both have to be willing to listen even if you don't want to hear what the other is saying. My heart goes out to you...if he doesn't want to get help with you at least get some for yourself. You have a lot on you right now just dealing with the death of a child...and now this! :brokenheart: I'm very sorry. If you ever want to just chat one on one, my yahoo screenname is brokensoul376

Toni D:flowerforyou:

I am so sorry to hear about your son, and now this with your husband? Not to excuse his behavior AT ALL, but I do think sometimes people do crazy things when racked with grief. I know when my mom died, as much as I wanted to rely on my family for support, it was hard because they lost her too, and my grief brought up their grief....my dad lost his wife, my grandparents lost their daughter.....it was very hard to lean on someone who was just as debilitated by the loss as I was.

I think counselinig is defintely a good place to start, to help save your marriage and also help you deal with the loss of your son. My heart goes out to you, you'll be in my prayers.

Wow, I'm so so sorry to hear about everything that has been happening....(((HUGS)))
This must be such a hard time for you....
I hope that some how things work out.

So sorry you are going through so much right now.
No advice, just my support and good wishes.