Body changes = treated differently?

So a lot of you have read my success story over at http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234646-can-t-believe-i-made-it but here's my question..

How have you been treated since your body has changed, whether it be weight loss, weight gain, toning up etc?

I went shopping for a swim suit the other day, and I grabbed a one piece that I thought was very cute. My friend and the sales associate both asked me why I wasn't going for a bikini to show off my body more.

I'm young, and I like to dress nicely, but I'm also a mom, I'm not going to be one of the parents that shows up at their kid's school in club wear.

I'm really more of a skinny jeans, riding boots and fitted sweater kinda girl.

Unless it's summer, sun dresses all day ever day.

But I've noticed since I've lost weight, a lot of people ask, basically why I don't wear more revealing clothes now.

You really have to be perceptive and aware of your behavior, but I think much of the difference in how I am treated now has to do with the fact that I behave differently than I did before. I didn't like who I was before. I was shy and reserved and didn't think anybody wanted to talk to me or be nice to me, so I maintained a general "Don't talk to me" vibe in public. I dressed so as not to be noticed by anyone. It was a very depressing way to live, and I didn't even realize it until a year into the weight-loss process.

Now, I am much more likely to smile at a stranger and say hi when I pass him or her. I frequently tell strangers they look beautiful or handsome. I am a much more open and giving person in general than I used to be, and I think that's largely why I get treated differently. Now, I'm no fool; I know that my looks and the way I dress (skirts, dresses, high heels) have something to do with it. But the lack of a "F off" expression on my face and in my demeanor probably has more to do with it.

As far as being expected to wear more revealing things, do what you want and let others do what they want. I think you have to be who you are, without compromise, if you want to have more of the right people in your life and fewer of the wrong ones.

100% different in almost every aspect of life.

Couldnt of said it any better man. Complete 360 and some lol

I just don't understand why

In some areas, it's quite a negative difference. People make wild assumptions based on appearance. I really have to work hard to counteract some of the negative perceptions and reactions.

Yeah if one more person tells me i need to eat something ....ima lose it >.<

I went from obese to a very fit person. Naturally the response, and the way people treat me has improved. I get more attention than I used to, and the attitude of people has changed. I have experience cruel treatment, as well as elation.. I know how either side feels. But all in all is an experience I cherish, and an opportunity to know myself as well as others, and be able to relate to people and what they're going through. It definitely affected the way I treat others as well.

You really have to be perceptive and aware of your behavior, but I think much of the difference in how I am treated now has to do with the fact that I behave differently than I did before. I didn't like who I was before. I was shy and reserved and didn't think anybody wanted to talk to me or be nice to me, so I maintained a general "Don't talk to me" vibe in public. I dressed so as not to be noticed by anyone. It was a very depressing way to live, and I didn't even realize it until a year into the weight-loss process.

Now, I am much more likely to smile at a stranger and say hi when I pass him or her. I frequently tell strangers they look beautiful or handsome. I am a much more open and giving person in general than I used to be, and I think that's largely why I get treated differently. Now, I'm no fool; I know that my looks and the way I dress (skirts, dresses, high heels) have something to do with it. But the lack of a "F off" expression on my face and in my demeanor probably has more to do with it.

As far as being expected to wear more revealing things, do what you want and let others do what they want. I think you have to be who you are, without compromise, if you want to have more of the right people in your life and fewer of the wrong ones.

Honking? No. Inviting you into their freaking cars, going "hey girl, want a ride?".. Yes.
!@$#@#$ >:(

Yeah...I don't get that one, and gladly so! You should carry a knife if you don't already do!

Thinking about a second knife, not even lying.

just sayin'

I get hit on way more. I thought I'd be flattered but I'm actually disgusted at the men who couldn't appreciate me until I shed the weight.

Ok, I do not get this mentality, at all. It's human nature. Nothing disgusting about it. I went 20 years without being hit on. Now, well, I get a few looks from time to time. Those women would never have looked twice before. Am I disgusted by that? Saddened, mad? No. I look better now. So what? There is a difference between being appreciated for you who are as a person and being hit on, looked at, flirted with, etc.

I don't have this issue. Why? Because I'm a jerk who gives off jerky vibes and usually people who intend to approach me get within five feet, make eye contact, and then turn around.

-steals and learns-
Edit: Maybe they can tell it makes me paranoid >.>

I get hit on way more. I thought I'd be flattered but I'm actually disgusted at the men who couldn't appreciate me until I shed the weight.

Ok, I do not get this mentality, at all. It's human nature. Nothing disgusting about it. I went 20 years without being hit on. Now, well, I get a few looks from time to time. Those women would never have looked twice before. Am I disgusted by that? Saddened, mad? No. I look better now. So what? There is a difference between being appreciated for you who are as a person and being hit on, looked at, flirted with, etc.

Some of the guys who hit on me are guys that I've been friends with for a while now, we became friends before the weight loss. We've known each other long enough for them to know what type of personality I have. They only hit on me now because I'm a smaller version of the old me. It bugs me in situations like this, when guys who think I'm so funny/sweet and all of that have known me for years and know I possessed those qualities even when I was heavier, yet are only attracted to those qualities now that I lost weight. It doesn't offend me at all when guys who didn't know me previously hit on me.

Ok, I can understand it.

Uhm, yes.

The unwanted attention remains unwanted, though >.>
I've started yelling at idiots waving at me. Bet they weren't expecting to be yelled at.
(And by that I mean scrubs hanging out the passenger side of their best friend's ride).

Oh this wisdom of TLC.. I assume most of your negative attention has come from males?

Most? You mean all..

Can't go jogging/running here in California without the random dude hanging out his window .-.

I get hit on way more. I thought I'd be flattered but I'm actually disgusted at the men who couldn't appreciate me until I shed the weight.

Ok, I do not get this mentality, at all. It's human nature. Nothing disgusting about it. I went 20 years without being hit on. Now, well, I get a few looks from time to time. Those women would never have looked twice before. Am I disgusted by that? Saddened, mad? No. I look better now. So what? There is a difference between being appreciated for you who are as a person and being hit on, looked at, flirted with, etc.

Some of the guys who hit on me are guys that I've been friends with for a while now, we became friends before the weight loss. We've known each other long enough for them to know what type of personality I have. They only hit on me now because I'm a smaller version of the old me. It bugs me in situations like this, when guys who think I'm so funny/sweet and all of that have known me for years and know I possessed those qualities even when I was heavier, yet are only attracted to those qualities now that I lost weight. It doesn't offend me at all when guys who didn't know me previously hit on me.