I seriously need some good advice, not bs criticism please!

lift weights (heavy ones) and eat at a slight deficit, very slow fat loss, e.g. aiming for 0.5lb a week, and be patient

regards your weight jumping up if you increase your calories - over what time scale are you monitoring this? You can expect a water weight gain when you increase your calories due to your body storing glycogen. This is a good thing, and it's not fat, and won't stop you from losing fat, in fact you may find you feel more energetic. You need to let your body store more glycogen, ignore the scale, then once your body's finished storing the extra glycogen, if you're still in deficit, the weight will start going down again as you lose fat. If you're at maintenance, then after the glycogen/water weight gains finish, your weight will be stable. If you do turn out to be at maintenance, then subtract 200 or so calories and eat that amount, for slow fat loss.

Water weight gains happen quickly, e.g. overnight or over a few days. Fat gains happen slowly. You have to eat 3500 calories over and above your TDEE to store just one pound of fat, so if you're seeing the scale go up by a couple of pounds overnight or over a few days and you're eating a normal amount of food, then it's not fat gain. Even if you are slightly over your maintenance calories, it'll probably take about a month to gain 1lb of fat, so there's plenty of time to monitor what's going on with the scale and adjust your calorie goal accordingly.

It is impossible to spot reduce; you can't choose where it comes off when you lose weight.

Strength training and a calorie deficit is the best way to reduce fat while retaining as much lean body mass as possible.

Strength training doesn't eat fat; it simply helps you to retain muscle while losing fat.

Cardio can help you burn fat because it increases your calorie deficit, but it's not magic either.

Bottom line? Keep eating less that your TDEE and keep exercising, and eventually it'll go away. I know it's not the answer you want, but it's true.

I am sure people will tell you that you cannot "spot reduce" 'cept for lipo but I have been looking at strategies for losing fat when you are close to goal and there are things that can help.
You should join our group-not that heavy girls:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/391273-not-that-heavy-girls-links-to-great-resources

Intermittent fasting can be really effective for fat loss, and Intervals training, calorie and carb-cycling.

good luck with your goals!

Weight will come off wherever it damned will pleases, though you can do certain exercise to build muscle in say the arms, stomach or legs. If you lose weight at some point it will come off where you want it too.

Well abs are made in the kitchen...it's all about the deficet.

I have to agree I am surprised by the amount of calories you eat.

I am a bit older and not as active (I only lift 3x a week, HIIT 2x a week) but am heavier and I eat 1700 a day and I lose 3/4lb a week.

Best advice is lower calories and up protien and do Heavy lifting 3x a week. Keep doing some cardio but perhaps give yourself 2 days off instead of just 1...

Find your TDEE from various websites (average at least 3 as I find they are a bit off most of the time) and work with those calories.

Or do this calculation based on your won intake in 3 consecutive weeks

total calories consumed +(pounds lost x 3500)/21

My question is, what are you eating? Sugar turns directly to fat.. almost every processed food has sugar in it. I would try to avoid sugar the best you can. Remember that carbs turn to sugar as well. Good luck

If you've been weighing in and recording, you should notice a trend in scale weight. If your weight has stayed relatively stable, then cut your portions by about 300 calories worth. You should also use a digital scale to be as accurate as possible since it's easy to erase a small deficit.

neandermagnon did a great job commenting on and having some good questions on your diet and weight.

I've got some comments on the exercise routine.

You seem to have proven that more doesn't accomplish what you want, for a very good potential reason.

Frequent intense exercise without proper recovery is just plain old stress to the body. Stress that keeps cortisol elevated (spikes are beneficial, not elevated), and guess where cortisol encourages fat to be stored.

So anyway, taking in to account this fact.

Exercise if done right tears the body down.
It's the rest for recovery and repair that builds it back up, stronger if diet allows.

Where is your rest?

And in a deficit, if you are in one, it's even harder to recover.

Have you even done a week with only the SL5X5 without that high carb burning muscle loading other workouts in between?
I really bet you've never been able to compare, or it's been a long time, see how the SL's feel when you can do them on rested muscle.

Why comment on this about fat loss in the stomach?

Because I'll bet the workouts are not actually causing the body to need to repair as much because they can't do as much with tired muscles. And the cortisol fact.

If you feel you are at healthy weight already, just not liking the fat where it's at, then eating at true maintenance will give your workouts (with proper rest) the best bang for the buck.

Oh, if you are eating back exercise calories for SL's based on the HRM - badly inflated if you are lifting correctly, which again, at this point I'll bet not as good as you could.
But HRM calorie estimates are inflated for anything besides steady-state same HR for 2-4 aerobic cardio only.
Everything you listed is opposite of steady state, and a bunch of anaerobic stuff - so really inflated to varying degrees.

So probably good, that may have helped recovery at tad eating close to maintenance.

Though your answers to Neandermagnon will highlight if eating at deficit or not.

My question is, what are you eating? Sugar turns directly to fat.. almost every processed food has sugar in it. I would try to avoid sugar the best you can. Remember that carbs turn to sugar as well. Good luck

umm no...

I got rid of my by running and pilates Lean protein and low gi carbs such as quinoa and sweet potato.