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I see dating advice on this forum, so here goes! What would you do if your significant other was caught on a dating site multiple times and you found out every single time and it happened again afterwards? Even if there was no real activity besides answered questions? Oh and constantly clears out history and changes passwords non-stop. AND we have children.
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  • sentaruu
    sentaruu Posts: 2,206 Member
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    move on
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
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    How do you know there's no activity? He's looking for a hook up.
  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
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    move on

    This. Duh.
  • Sunbrooke
    Sunbrooke Posts: 632 Member
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    Immediately stop sleeping with him, and leave him.
  • thankyou4thevenom
    thankyou4thevenom Posts: 1,581 Member
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    Leave him.
  • AJ_G
    AJ_G Posts: 4,158 Member
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    Get outta there, can't trust em...
  • sentaruu
    sentaruu Posts: 2,206 Member
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    AND we have children.

    move. on.
  • TitzMcGeez
    TitzMcGeez Posts: 104
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    aaaaaaand yet another vote for MOVE THE HELL ON!

    Get outta there! If you think he isnt looking for a hookup somewhere you're mistaken.

    He's just going to keep doing what he is doing, no offense men, but ya'll seem to find a niche way of scouting hookups (bars, dating sites, picking people up off forums, ect) and stick with it.


    Why would you post something like this and expect anything but the GET OUTS and LEAVE HIMS.......
  • Rlyxpop
    Rlyxpop Posts: 6 Member
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    Look at yourself in the mirror and decide what you are willing to live with and put up with and listen to what your heart says. I honestly think you already know the answer but you want validation that you are doing the right thing. Good luck to whatever you do decide. :)
  • 33Freya
    33Freya Posts: 468 Member
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    aaaaaaand yet another vote for MOVE THE HELL ON!

    Get outta there! If you think he isnt looking for a hookup somewhere you're mistaken.

    He's just going to keep doing what he is doing, no offense men, but ya'll seem to find a niche way of scouting hookups (bars, dating sites, picking people up off forums, ect) and stick with it.


    Why would you post something like this and expect anything but the GET OUTS and LEAVE HIMS.......

    ^Because sometimes you need others' point of view.

    OP if you want to stay, stop sleeping with him or at least make him wrap it up. get yourself tested for STDs and require him to go to counseling with you. OR take the easier route and get out. Either way, they are both tough roads and I don't envy you. Good luck.
  • ashandstuff
    ashandstuff Posts: 442 Member
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    I agree with the previous responses.

    Either agree to a polygamous relationship or move.
  • Madame_Goldbricker
    Madame_Goldbricker Posts: 1,625 Member
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    Yep time to kick him to the curb sorry. I'd also be pretty concerned about the times you haven't caught him out.
  • Macgeek74
    Macgeek74 Posts: 298 Member
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    I think you know the answer to this. Unless you are cheating too then you deserve better than him. Now if you keep staying with that person then you deserve it. SOrry you are even having to deal with this and its sad that cheating is normal now but I say move on.
  • TitanGM
    TitanGM Posts: 1,161 Member
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    Cut that damn internet :smile:
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
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    I'm assuming this isn't an open marriage, I would of moved on the first time...
  • Sovi_
    Sovi_ Posts: 575 Member
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    Move on
  • KarmaKills
    KarmaKills Posts: 99 Member
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    I'd kick him to the curb and move on with my life. What total disrespect!!!
  • MissyMissHotPants
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    SO more info to clarify. I found out there was no real activity on his dating profiles, because well, I found them and accessed them and looked around, he had 2 profiles in the span of our relationship that appeared to have just answered questions, everything else was blank. Another one was the same account we met on years before, I found that profile and it showed his last log in was about a month after one of our children was first born. I confronted him about it, said I wanted the password - he gave it to me after he already accessed it first (he was at work), it seemed messages were deleted...He also has an issue with watching porn, I know most men do, but I discussed this with him that I was not okay with it, and he agreed not to, and still went along with it behind my back. I do know he never physically cheated on me - but I do want to make things work, but at times I feel like it is beyond repair. Thank you for the advice.
  • TitzMcGeez
    TitzMcGeez Posts: 104
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    I hafta say this. YOU NEVER KNOW for sure if he hasnt cheated on you. I hate to be that jerk that says it, but someone has to. I feel as though dudes never really change unless they want to. You'll probably never get him to stop watching porn but the OK cupid stuff? Even the fact that he's making multiple profiles on there just screams SHADY CHEATER to me. :-(

    I hope whatever you decide to do works out the way you want it to.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
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    Porn would be far more ok with me than interacting with real people on a dating site. If he is deleting messages, he's hiding things from you. As soon as there is hiding, it's cheating, IMO.