Conflicted
Sinisterly
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Have you ever been conflicted between choice A and choice B?
Or C or D or whatever else other choice there is?
Well, something's come up.. And I'm conflicted right now.
EXTREMELY conflicted. Feels as if the lines are blurred somewhere along the way and I just cannot, for the life of me, decide what to do!
How do YOU deal when you are conflicted about something that you just cannot shake?
What helps you decide which route to go?? What is your thought process like?
Just looking for some insight here.
:flowerforyou:
Or C or D or whatever else other choice there is?
Well, something's come up.. And I'm conflicted right now.
EXTREMELY conflicted. Feels as if the lines are blurred somewhere along the way and I just cannot, for the life of me, decide what to do!
How do YOU deal when you are conflicted about something that you just cannot shake?
What helps you decide which route to go?? What is your thought process like?
Just looking for some insight here.
:flowerforyou:
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Oh, and just wanted to add, not going to discuss what the choices are haha.
Bit personal, but hey.
Any input extremely appreciated, as I am going out of my wits end and have lost contact with most of my friends in town over moving away.0 -
I generally would choose the choice that I think I would regret more.
There is also that saying that basically says that you should throw a coin in the air, and you will know what side you want it to land - that's your choice.0 -
First gut instinct.0
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Right. This is me right there. I know I HAVE TO quite possibly make the choice I'd hate most. It eats me up inside.I generally would choose the choice that I think I would regret more.0 -
If your gut hasn't decided which is which, how do you choose it, then?First gut instinct.0 -
Its very hard to give advise on something that you don't know what it is your giving advise about, but with that being said... Sometimes I think I am conflicted and really I knew the path that I wanted to go the whole time. Take your time and think the whole thing through and I know that you will make the right choice FOR YOU. Whatever it is, I hope that you make the choice that makes you happy!0
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Don't over-analyze . Go with your gut feeling.0
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write out a pluses and delta / pros and cons list0
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I would spend some time thinking about the criteria for deciding first - what factors should I consider in making the decision and how important are they relative to each other. Then consider the options relative to the criteria.0
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time to play... rock, paper, scissors, lizard, spock.0
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Loltime to play... rock, paper, scissors, lizard, spock.
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Yes, sorry about the vagueness haha. Just don't want to get a ton of PMs about it.Its very hard to give advise on something that you don't know what it is your giving advise about, but with that being said... Sometimes I think I am conflicted and really I knew the path that I wanted to go the whole time. Take your time and think the whole thing through and I know that you will make the right choice FOR YOU. Whatever it is, I hope that you make the choice that makes you happy!
Just path 1 will take some time, path 2.. Shouldn't, but then path 1 will probably be very unhappy indeed.0 -
Don't over-analyze . Go with your gut feeling.
I wouldn't think I'm over analyzing, not in this case. However, choice 1 changes quite a bit and is driving this hangry bunny insane.write out a pluses and delta / pros and cons list
Very good idea! I will definitely try this. I love lists
lol :flowerforyou:I would spend some time thinking about the criteria for deciding first - what factors should I consider in making the decision and how important are they relative to each other. Then consider the options relative to the criteria.
Hmmm. With importance, yes. That's also true. Happiness doesn't always go hand in hand with something being important, as a any adult, I can see that.
Thanks for the perspective on that!0 -
I'd go with the flip a coin idea. You'll know what you really want when it's in the air
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If it's a life-changing decision, I wait until both my mind and my heart are going in the same direction. Sometimes causes me to stay in the same place longer than I should, but looking back, I have never regretted waiting and then moving forward, whereas I have regretted a few times where I've made a hasty decision.
Anything else? I go with the flip a coin decision making approach.0 -
Divination.0
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If it's a life-changing decision, I wait until both my mind and my heart are going in the same direction. Sometimes causes me to stay in the same place longer than I should, but looking back, I have never regretted waiting and then moving forward, whereas I have regretted a few times where I've made a hasty decision.
Anything else? I go with the flip a coin decision making approach.
I think I love you. :flowerforyou:
There's an answer I can go to bed with tonight! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
You are wise.0 -
sleep on it - your subconscious will do the work for you0
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If it's a life-changing decision, I wait until both my mind and my heart are going in the same direction. Sometimes causes me to stay in the same place longer than I should, but looking back, I have never regretted waiting and then moving forward, whereas I have regretted a few times where I've made a hasty decision.
Anything else? I go with the flip a coin decision making approach.
I think I love you. :flowerforyou:
There's an answer I can go to bed with tonight! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
You are wise. you to Sin! You'll come up with the right answer in time :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: 0 -
Usually I make a pros and cons list and try to make decisions rationally rather than emotionally. Although it depends on what the matter is being decided. The deciding factor is usually what will make me happiest in the long-term.
Other questions I would ask myself:
- will anyone get hurt by this decision
- who else will this decision affect besides me
- what is the worst case scenario for either choice / what is the best case scenario for either choice
- will either choice take a toll on my mental or physical health
- what would i advise a friend who was facing the same dilemma0 -
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lolwat
Edit: Doesn't have to do with marriage lmaoo
You's a funny orange! :flowerforyou:0 -
Have you ever been conflicted between choice A and choice B?
Or C or D or whatever else other choice there is?
Well, something's come up.. And I'm conflicted right now.
EXTREMELY conflicted. Feels as if the lines are blurred somewhere along the way and I just cannot, for the life of me, decide what to do!
How do YOU deal when you are conflicted about something that you just cannot shake?
What helps you decide which route to go?? What is your thought process like?
Just looking for some insight here.
:flowerforyou:
Joined Dec 2013
Posts: 8,929
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That wasn't the question, but hello again! :flowerforyou:Have you ever been conflicted between choice A and choice B?
Or C or D or whatever else other choice there is?
Well, something's come up.. And I'm conflicted right now.
EXTREMELY conflicted. Feels as if the lines are blurred somewhere along the way and I just cannot, for the life of me, decide what to do!
How do YOU deal when you are conflicted about something that you just cannot shake?
What helps you decide which route to go?? What is your thought process like?
Just looking for some insight here.
:flowerforyou:
Joined Dec 2013
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I generally take the path of least resistance, but I'm selfish and horrible, so I might not be a good person to listen to.
I do what I want, I sent Regret on a vacation with Guilt, I don't have time for either one.0 -
Usually I make a pros and cons list and try to make decisions rationally rather than emotionally. Although it depends on what the matter is being decided. The deciding factor is usually what will make me happiest in the long-term.
Other questions I would ask myself:
- will anyone get hurt by this decision
- who else will this decision affect besides me
- what is the worst case scenario for either choice / what is the best case scenario for either choice
- will either choice take a toll on my mental or physical health
- what would i advise a friend who was facing the same dilemma
1) Oh, yes.
2.) Unsure if the number is 4 or 3 at the moment, so quite a few people.
3.) Ditto.
4.) Definitely lol. The dread is huge with this one.
5.) Love this question, will think about it, also. Thank you for your input!! :flowerforyou:0 -
lolwat
Edit: Doesn't have to do with marriage lmaoo
You's a funny orange! :flowerforyou:
:smooched:
Well if this conflict has nothing to do with your love for me, I've got nothing. :grumble:0 -
Have you ever been conflicted between choice A and choice B?
Or C or D or whatever else other choice there is?
Well, something's come up.. And I'm conflicted right now.
EXTREMELY conflicted. Feels as if the lines are blurred somewhere along the way and I just cannot, for the life of me, decide what to do!
How do YOU deal when you are conflicted about something that you just cannot shake?
What helps you decide which route to go?? What is your thought process like?
Just looking for some insight here.
:flowerforyou:
If there's a gut instinct I would go with that :flowerforyou:0 -
Lol, I can't be selfish. I was never selfish, even as a child.I generally take the path of least resistance, but I'm selfish and horrible, so I might not be a good person to listen to.
I do what I want, I sent Regret on a vacation with Guilt, I don't have time for either one.0 -
1) Oh, yes.
2.) Unsure if the number is 4 or 3 at the moment, so quite a few people.
3.) Ditto.
4.) Definitely lol. The dread is huge with this one.
5.) Love this question, will think about it, also. Thank you for your input!! :flowerforyou:
Are these people you care about? Is their hurt something they can recover from? Obviously it's ideal to avoid hurting people where possible, but sometimes short-term hurt is inevitable and you just need to cause it and move on with things. Especially if it's something like ending a toxic relationship. Sure the other person will get hurt, but you the long-run positivity outweighs that imo. But, yeah, difficult to say without knowing more specifics (which I won't push for - sorry if that sounded like it!). Anyway, it might help you to make a decision tree listing potential outcomes and risks for each choice. Also be aware that dread is normal and feeling dread doesn't mean you're making a bad choice. Anxiety about big decisions is very common, so spend some time pondering if you have the luxury of time. Good luck :flowerforyou:0
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