rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

Well, first of all, that's crazy because you're clearly gorgeous. She's obviously crazy jealous how incredibly awesome you are and is trying to find the one thing that you might be self conscious about to get at you. You should offer her some peanut butter to go with that jelly.

OMG I love that hahaha

Like I said I try to avoid her at all costs. Which sucks because my boyfriends family is very religious and different than me and my family so his brother was like the only one out of the family i knew liked me as a person. his mom and i fought so much because i was very secular and it freaked her out.

idk. I hate going to family events because i make it obvious that i dont want to be near her and everyone looks at me like im the *kitten*. No one knows half of the rude things shes said to me.

Well that's a treat [sarcasm]! I'm sorry you have to go through that, I can't begin to understand how that must feel. But I do know that her jabs at your are just to get under your skin. In a weird way.. sometimes I think it's kind of awesome that someone can only make fun of my weight.. it's so obvious and superficial. I must rock at life otherwise if that's all ya got!

Jeeze, people can be so rude! We can't all be born with amazingly fast metabolisms!

Most people don't make comments about my weight to my face, because people who know me know that I don't take that from people. Still, there were two times that really got to me.

The first was at a get-together with a few people I knew from high school. They were aware that I had gained weight recently and was trying to lose it (I went from being a 3-sport athlete to a 1-sport athlete, was diagnosed with asthma, and had that asthma progress pretty rapidly; I went from being able to play a fast-paced game of basketball to barely being able to run from home to second). Anyways, we were all hanging out and my friend had brought these AMAZING cookie dough brownies that she knew were my favorite. So, obviously, I went to grab one. One of the people stopped me and said "Maybe that's why you gained all that weight, eating too many of those brownies." They were kidding (I think) but it still stung.

The other was more recently. I have been at this dieting/working out thing for about 2 years, and I've lost a whopping .8 lbs. I'm trying, but not seeing a lot of results. So I bumped into someone I hadn't seen in awhile and they asked me why I gave up on dieting and working out.

People just say things and don't think them through. Just remember that this is a choice for YOU. Whether you started at the top of the scale or the bottom, you're here because you want to be healthier. Don't let anyone tell you that you aren't beautiful, handsome, smart, athletic, attractive, etc. just because someone thinks you don't weigh the "right" amount.

I think the worst was when I was grocery shopping and happened to be walking down the baking aisle and a girl turned to her friend and pointed me out saying that 'that is exactly why we need to get out of this aisle'. Apparently whatever her friend wanted out of the baking aisle would make her look like me. Completely idiotic. I guess some individuals think people who are overweight just eat cake and cookies all day.

I can relate to how that girl has tried to put you down...Guaranteed she is insecure and taking it out on you to make herself feel better. My aunt used to do the same with my cousin and I. She'd put me down about my weight saying my mom got the 'smart' (but fat) daughter, and she got the 'pretty' one. She was so insecure about my cousin 'not being as smart' or not going as far in school that she constantly tried to find a fault with me and that was always my weight. I finally realized how ridiculous she was and what a waste of time it was to even entertain her crap.

Don't let that little idiot push all her negativity and feelings of insecurity off on you. And I seriously hope your bf wakes up soon and realizes that kind of behavior (his and hers) is totally unacceptable

I feel like different cultures have a very different perception about what's rude and what's not. For instance I travel to Thailand a fair bit and people there will just straight out call you fat. That was quite offensive to me for a while, then I accepted it and used it as motivation.

The average American (US) is absolutely not equipped to deal with some of the cultural bluntness present in so many other kinds of people, particularly when it comes to being fat.

A lot of other people do not, and never will, have any sensitivity around fat. They'll call it like they see it. Hell that's also prevalent amongst a lot of OLDER Americans.

I work with a woman who is almost a foot taller than me (I'm only 5' 0"), and much larger than I am. She was constantly bring her old clothes to me and telling me that they were "too big for me, but they might fit you." Because I can sew, I took them home, but the alterations were so extensive that I ended up throwing most of them away. We had a conflict at work and now she doesn't do it anymore. Now she doesn't even speak to me!

inquiring about someones due date is always risky when you dont know if they are actually pregnant. just dont do it people!! lol

I have been overweight all my life. I am 5'4", and weighed 143 in 5th grade (may have been a little shorter then), 173 in 7th grade, and my all time high was 218 at age 36. Surprisingly and luckily, the only voice berating me for being fat was my own.

Except for this one time when I was, I don't know...in 8th or 9th grade, and my (skinny) sister's high school boyfriend pulled me aside and said, "Hey, I just wanted to tell you this because it might help you, and maybe you just don't know it, but you're fat. You're a nice and pretty girl, and I don't know, maybe you are just not aware of it, but you really need to lose weight." I was down to about 155 at that point, so YES, I was aware, and yes I had lost SOME weight anyways. It stung that he had said that. I knew I was fat but nobody had ever just point blank said it to my face. I told my sister later what he said, and she was like, he's just a jerk, and broke up with him. :laugh:

Even though I was always 'fat', I was never short of having great friends and a supportive family.

Amelie, you deserve to surround yourself with people that love you, and will defend you no matter what. And next time she says something out of line, don't be afraid to defend yourself if nobody else will. If she knows you aren't going to take her crap anymore, she might just shut her mouth. Till now, you've been an easy target. She needs to be called out. Since she is going to a 'bible'? school, ask her if she thinks Jesus loves the fatties too. I'd love to see and hear her and his 'religious' family's answer to that one. Seriously, what people say they are, and what they really are, really often don't match up.

Amelie, you deserve to surround yourself with people that love you, and will defend you no matter what. And next time she says something out of line, don't be afraid to defend yourself if nobody else will. If she knows you aren't going to take her crap anymore, she might just shut her mouth. Till now, you've been an easy target. She needs to be called out. Since she is going to a 'bible'? school, ask her if she thinks Jesus loves the fatties too. I'd love to see and hear her and his 'religious' family's answer to that one. Seriously, what people say they are, and what they really are, really often don't match up.

i agree with this. people will just keep going if you dont defend yourself, but if they get called out and stood up to they wont dare insult you anymore.

I think it doesn't matter if you are educated or not in the first place. manner is not related to education, unfortunately. I recently travelled to Egypt and in some cases uneducated people were nicer to me than educated ones in the UK... other cases i found them rude but then i modified my manner to match that rudeness and i did not mind being harsh and raw and honestly rather surprisingly i got on with them very well and i had much less problems afterwards.

it is a cultural thing and depending where you are coming from, you will find different things rude.

another example the other day the tutor interrupted a girl presenting at the board because her time was up but she just kept talking and the tutor politely said "I apologize but I have to interrupt you because your time is up" - as you see it was polite and kind, any European, would understand and would never perceive it as rude. however, this girl is originally from China, she got shocked and angry and she said "You are indeed very rude to interrupt me when i am not finished" and did not want to understand that she can't continue and would not be fair as it was a timed competition and would not be fair for the other students.

having said that, i think people when they move to another country they carry their culture with themselves. like in london, there are many Indians and Chinese and Polish and they actually live like in their own country, or look around, their food is everywhere, loads of Indian, Chinese restaurants... they eat their food, not English. and suppose they eat English food, it won't make them English. so i think in the OP's case, a child of 5 is heavily influenced by parents and they were not Canadians, they were Romanians.
I also think in many instances you can not know things like origin about people and you have to work with what they say. i think being honestly angry is acceptable if someone is saying something rude, whether it is your weight or something else you just tell them what you think. it is a 'western thing' you hide your feelings when you are hurt. there is no need to be so nice.
sorry about being off topic.