rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

I was at work a few years back and we had an electrician on site doing some work. He came over to my teams area and in front of my entire team and the next team along said 'are you having a baby?' I had never met this man before so firstly how weird to just interact with a complete stranger who you haven't even been introduced to and secondly I wasn't pregnant, I'm fact I was smaller than I am now maybe a UK size 12, and to say it so loudly in an office in front of all my colleagues. It was horrible. The silence that descended over the office still haunts me.

I've also had a guy tell me when I was about 18 that, and I quote, 'you'd be really good looking if you weren't so fat'

Gah!!!

so i think in the OP's case, a child of 5 is heavily influenced by parents and they were not Canadians, they were Romanians.
I also think in many instances you can not know things like origin about people and you have to work with what they say. i think being honestly angry is acceptable if someone is saying something rude, whether it is your weight or something else you just tell them what you think. it is a 'western thing' you hide your feelings when you are hurt. there is no need to be so nice.
sorry about being off topic.

I'm not sure that her being Romanian had anything to do with this. I went to school with a Romanian girl and she was sweet as pie. I currently live in Europe, and my best friend is from Romania. She has never been critical of me ever. Also sweet as pie, And genuine. I think the girl OP is talking about is just a sour grape and not necessarily representative of her culture. I do agree with the westerners tending to react to such rudeness very delicately, but you are absolutely right! There is no need to be so nice in these cases!

I don't have very successful relationships with women as a general rule. Obviously I do have female friends, but I tend to get on a lot better with men. There is a certain percentage of women who are poisonous, life's just too short to waste time around such people.

I had one woman, a complete stranger at a party, express surprise that I was married because "real men don't like sticks, they like real women with curves". She couldn't seem to understand why I found that so funny, nor why my (very manly) husband found it so amusing either!

First of all, your weight is your business and noone elses!
Someone said to me after my recovery from anorexia (which lead to me being a little overweight), "Jheeze you looked better when you looked like death warmed up"!

'Well you know the next door neighbour, shes getting married, she used to be slim and shes trying to lose weight again for the wedding, shes huge now, she is even bigger than you'

The rudest thing someone said to me was in 6th grade, I was 11 and not even that overweight, just a little chubby and horribly unfit because I was that one kid that never liked exercising. I was the newbie in class and they gave me the nickname Clio. At first, I found it really nice, it sounded nice, so I asked a girl how they came up with it. She flat out said "We're calling you Clio because we're all sure that you weigh as much as a Renault Clio." and went away laughing. The thought of it still upsets me to this day because it marked the beginning of my eating disorder. Ever since, I would switch back between refusing to eat anything at all and binging on anything I could find.

Edit: thinking about that snide comment of my classmate actually reminded me of another thing. It wasn't exactly a comment, but something that would happen all the time in my teenage years. My grandmother and mother would argue about my weight and how the other one needs to give me less food. In my presence. Discussing my weight usually was one of their favourite activities. Yet they both were really big (my grandmother still is, my mother lost tons of weight because she started smoking like crazy when she broke up with my dad)

Reading some of this is heartbreaking. Sounds to me like this is not a cultural thing with your partners SiL - it's a mean, nasty, jealousy thing. I would take that with the teeniest pinch of salt it deserves.

I have been asked when the baby was due, although in all honesty the lady was as mortified as me when I said No.

My Mum can be annoying. I get a lot of 'But you're so small boned' 'You used to look like a ballerina' etc. That can wear thin after a while. Considering I was under 100lbs at the time she's referring to I actually have no mega desire to get back there.

My sister made me a card for my 6th birthday saying Happy Birthday Meatball on it - with a lovely picture of a meatball on it. Considering she's 7 years older than me I think there was a little bit of 'intention' there.

'You look like a man' has also been leveled at me by my sister. That was nice.

Going back to your original post...I am married to a Malaysian, I have three very close friends, one is Czech, one is Portuguese and one is Serbian (I don't know how that happened) and they all know that calling someone fat would be an insult. They have been here ranging from 1 - 3 decades and they all know that it's a sensitive subject.

Going to see husbands family a few years ago the older relatives all kept saying he looked 'prosperous'. In the end I had to ask him what they meant by it as we certainly weren't feeling prosperous after paying for the flights and he said 'They're saying I'm fat'. :laugh: Apparently it's about having enough money to get fat in the first place.

Similarly my Mum kept mentioning his 'corporation'. I had to look it up and she was referring to his belly!

Now you've got me thinking - those that have mentioned my weight and/or looks most are actually those that are most preoccupied and dissatisfied with themselves. Isn't projection and transference great!

My doctor said my weight was fine, then he added "Your height is the problem you are about 5 feet to short!"

Have only had a couple (they still stick though!):
"You're our little fat friend"
"Come with me, you make me look good"

I have been fat since I was a kid and have heard all sorts of things that people can say , from name calling to making fun of you at every instance that they get. The most annoying has to be when people think that fat people can't be active and cannot take part in physical activities. you go for a hike and someone will ask "Will you be able to do that?".

My (VERY overweight) Sister said "Finally you LOOK like one of us!"


I come from a family that were all skinny kids but got fat in their 20's it was a pattern I didn't want to follow, so I didn't. For years when I would come home on leave from the military they would all make excuses to why I was fit and they weren't "Well the Military keeps you fit"
"If they paid me to work out I would too" BUT the military didn't pay me to work out, I had to do it on my off time, also there were plenty of people (and still are) in the military who struggle with weight. Oh AND they accused me of using steroids and "cheating" when I was muscular.Their favorite line was "When you hit 25 you'll see, it won't be so easy to be all muscles" when I didn't get fat it then turned to 30, then 35 then 40. When I got injured (and lazy) in my early 40's they were almost OVERJOYED I had finally got fat. Last year my sister dropped by on her way down south. She hadn't seen me in a few years. She was angry! Her first words to me were "Why do you always have to waste time with this fitness crap!?"

I mean the only reason I mention she is not native to where we are from is because she does say a lot of rude things about Americans in general and i'm not generalizing any groups of people by saying this i just think that she thinks her culture is Superior so she is quick to put down other peoples cultures.

i mean...for the love of God at her own wedding her cousins from Romania openly called my boyfriends grandmother/aunts fat Americans ..( they are over weight but still)

They said this to there faces too so it was very rude and it hurt a lot of peoples feelings and it ruined the mood of the reception.

idk.. it just blah

She is not being a b**** to you because she's European - she's being a b**** because she is one...

I live in Switzerland and other than kids being rude to me in school (up to about the sixth grade), the only other people I can currently remember being mean to me about my weight are my dad and one tamil lady I used to work with.

My dad is like that with all people he considers fat or "chubby", but at least he also gives compliments when he sees that someone's lost weight. He's just not one to mince words...

The tamil woman surprised me though - I always used to think she was really nice, kinda the mother-type. Then I bumped into her a couple of years or so after I'd stopped working there, and she was being all sweet and kind, then suddenly she said something along the lines of: "You became fat - what happened? You used to look good."

Anyhoo... I just wanted to let you know that her rudeness is not cultural. Comments like the ones she's made to you would be considered just as rude here. I think it has a lot more to do with upbringing and character than where you are born...

By the way, you are absolutely beautiful!! Just ignore the idiotic things she says and know that she is alone in her opinions. Also, the more things like that she says, the more she's digging her own "grave", so to speak; I mean, who would want to be friends with someone like that? And when she makes those anti-American comments, you could remind her that she CHOSE to move to the States...

A part of me is spiteful and I want to lose weight because of a rude women who makes snide comments at my weight.

This women is European and she thinks all Americans are fat lazy and uneducated. She married my boyfriend's brother and she would constantly talk about my weight.

One of the craziest things shes ever said to me was when I told her I got a second job. I was so excited to have another source of income because I was really struggling for some time.

instead of congratulating me she said " that's good..gives you less time to eat"

She said this in front of my boyfriend and her husband and they didn't think anything of it. I felt like i had gone insane.

That's horrible. But please do it because you love yourself, not because you hate yourself, or someone else.
I stopped eating at 14 because of someone's comment and struggled with myself for years and years. Don't let your self worth become dependent on your size, or weight loss become some form of punishment.
Positive things not negative things

How's this for rude. I was doing a 5k walk with some friend's and one of them said" Just hang a donut in front of her and she'll keep moving"

Needless to say we are no longer friends.