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I've been there done that and found out in the end he was cheating on me with 6 other women. I'm sorry to say it but move on. There are better people out there as hard to believe as that is. I know from experience it's true. It will hurt at first but you will feel SO much better in the end! I had a lot of health issues and soon after it was over I realized all of them were being caused by the worry stress and upset I felt knowing he was lieing to me. :flowerforyou:

Porn would be far more ok with me than interacting with real people on a dating site. If he is deleting messages, he's hiding things from you. As soon as there is hiding, it's cheating, IMO.

This and I don't care for the porn watching, but it would be a far more forgivable offense.

If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about.

Disagree completely with this statement.

My husband watches porn by himself sometimes on his computer. He most certainly doesn't cheat nor does he have an 'F'd up idea of what sex is about".

Absolutely stunning that someone with Ron Jeremy as their profile picture would feel this way.

If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about.

Disagree completely with this statement.

My husband watches porn by himself sometimes on his computer. He most certainly doesn't cheat nor does he have an 'F'd up idea of what sex is about".

Absolutely stunning that someone with Ron Jeremy as their profile picture would feel this way.

Ohhhhhh. So that right there tells you what kind of person I am.

Gotcha.

I don't presume to know anything about you. Just thought it was funny.

If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about

I disagree with this as well. I am not opposed to watching it when my boyfriend is out of town or if the mood strikes me. It can be a safe way to experience a fantasy or spice up a night with your partner, in my opinion.

I'd kick his azz to the curb.

If it was me I would leave, (but as amicably as possible for the sake of the kids as they look up to both of you) you've already given him a second chance to change his behaviour (one more chance than I'd give lol) and no matter what any of the unsympathetic knuckle draggers say, do not change yourself and this is not your fault. Take it easy hun xxx There's plenty of good eggs out there. x

Leave him.

If you talk to him, and he says he's sorry, leave him anyway.

If he says it's okay, cause he doesn't have any activity, leave him.

If he says it's just all fun and games, leave him.

Just in case that is confusing, I will summarize: Leave him.

Run

I found out there was no real activity on his dating profiles, because well, I found them and accessed them and looked around,

he had 2 profiles in the span of our relationship that appeared to have just answered questions, everything else was blank.

Another one was the same account we met on years before, I found that profile and it showed his last log in was about a month after one of our children was first born.

I confronted him about it, said I wanted the password - he gave it to me after he already accessed it first (he was at work), it seemed messages were deleted.

He also has an issue with watching porn, I know most men do, but I discussed this with him that I was not okay with it, and he agreed not to, and still went along with it behind my back.

I do know he never physically cheated on me

but I do want to make things work

hes a lying cheater, leave his *kitten*

I don't think your guy's problems are sexual addiction or a problem with your sex life or anything like that. I think the fact that he is surfing that particular web site talking to women, but apparently not meeting them, is fulfilling a need for attention. For validation. For self esteem.

I think he has some issues. If you really love him, you may decide that it is worth it to work through them with him. If he doesn't have a willingness to admit that he has a problem and get some counseling, it will never work.

There is a lot of black and white with this crowd.

hes a lying cheater, leave his *kitten*

Totally off topic, but love the Abita Beer shirt.

Leave him.

I was dating this guy for about a year, met him on a dating site. Thought he was being honest when he told me he deleted his profile and told me we were monogamous. Introduced me to the parents, family etc...

My co-worker was on the same dating site and she accidentally came across his profile and emailed me like "hey isn't this your boyfriend?!"

Well, I asked him about it again and he blatantly lied and said he completely deleted it and we were monogamous. So, I set him up. I made a fake profile with a cute girl's photo, he actually initiated the meeting (and said he'd be bringing a condom), and I sent him to my guy friend's house (he was in on it)

My guy friend opened the door when he came in and he asked for the girl in the fake profile. He looked mortified! Haha!

When the guy got back home from being confused/mortified about meeting a guy who he though was a cute girl (who he had exchanged several explicit fantasies with over instant message), I instant messaged him and told him we were over and to never contact me again.

Yeah, I could have just broken up with him when my coworker emailed me with his profile and he lied about it, but it was WAY more fun to mess with his head! And, I was bored...

A year later he came back to me apologizing for lying, and I admitted that I actually set up that entire scenario and the guy whose house I sent him to was a friend of mine. He was shocked, but somehow still wanted to get with me again. HA.