looks like this yesterday...so what I'm doing wrong

Just flipping through this thread OP (original poster) it seems to me like you have picked up a lot of wrong-headed ideas about what it is to diet and lose weight.


First I'd like to ask you a question and I want you to give this serious thought before answering:

What is your ultimate goal? Is your goal to look aesthetically pleasing, meaning fit, trim, toned while improving your health? Or is your goal solely and only to make the number on your scale decrease?

Here is an allergy tip - it takes a while - but does help. (and it'll get you some extra calories too)

Find a source of LOCAL honey - use a tbsp a day - the pollen in the honey helps your body become immune to it and it helps your allergies, because the pollen in no longer 'foreign' Kind of like allergy shots help you build immunity too. and a TBSP will give you about 64 calories. You can add it too tea, or oatmeal or something if you like - I add it to PB toast. (which is also calorie dense and good for you) during the worst seasons of the year. Since doing this, I've had to buy way less Claritan in our house!

To anyone who may have an issue with what I said...I was not telling her to eat under 1200 calories. I was simply stating what works for one person may not work for another. I know people who have found great success meeting their goals eating back calories from exercise, while I on the other hand have not found success doing that. This is why I said this is a subjective question. It's all a learning process for everyone. Cycling whether it be calories or carbs or whatever your heart desires was a SUGGESTION. Of course, it depends on your level of activity and intensity. But I was looking at this purely for what the question was, should she meet her calorie intake goal of 1200. The answer is YES and do not go under it. You can't fuel your body to work for you if you do not put gas in the tank.

Again, sorry if anyone was confused with what I was trying to say. With that said I am exiting this conversation, because unlike some of you I can look at it with an open-mind as there is no right or wrong answer to this question. Have a great day all!

I would try and get as close to your goal as possible without going over, to included eating back your exercise calories. This was my day yesterday;

Totals 2,250
Your Daily Goal 3,374
Remaining 1,124
*You've earned 1,924 extra calories from exercise today

I recently upped my caloric intake from a beginning goal of 1250 to 1450; at first I was dropping nearly 3 pounds a week and then I slowed down to about 1 pound weekly. I was starting to feel tired all the time so I upped my calories and I may even up it a little more yet. For the first week that I upped my calories I actually gained a little but now I’m starting to go back down. I try and get back to my goal but yesterday was a big burn day for me and by time I got home after running a 2.5 hour practice for a U-12 team that I am very active with, I was just too tired. I ate and then fell asleep.

I try not to leave more than 200-500 calories on the table (so to speak) but sometimes I just can't eat it all back.

This is what has worked for me (23 pounds since 6 Jan), there’s no guarantee that it will work for you but I bet it would. ;-)

Best wishes and good luck. And just remember "Never give up, never surrender!"

V/r,
DW.

and goal to lose 2 lbs a week... I got a fitbit bracelet that sink all my exercises to MFP for me.

If you're using a FitBit, and it syncs to this website, then I suggest (1) changing your settings to "lose 1 lb per week" and (2) eat exactly what MFP is telling you to. So, net whatever it is it's telling you to. It may give you more calories when you change the setting. And that's ok. You're not obese enough to lose weight as fast as 2 lbs per week in a healthy manner.

ok... but I do feel obese trust me... I not happy that I need to get different clothing for the summer because those one are too tight... :blushing: I'm ashamed that I let myself go that way I sometime make excuse its because of I broke up a 26 years relationship and I was stress out but its not an excuse.

If I set 1 lbs a week It will be like next summer before I lose 40 lbs and fit in my clothing...

An other questions.... I notice that my arm ouff... the way bigger and :blushing: flabby will they get more flabby once I lose weight or will the skin go back to where it was... or I really need to do some exercises to firm that up...

I know you want to lose weight as quickly as possible, but please understand that one of the keys to effective and long-term weight loss is reasonable expectations. It is not reasonable for someone who needs to lose around 40 lbs to lose 2 lbs per week. Your calories will be so low that it is not sustainable - too big a caloric deficit will mean that you don't just lose fat, you lose some fat and some muscle and some bone tissue; that's unhealthy! And when you get closer to the point at which you have hit your weight, you won't be in good shape to maintain your weight loss because you have been eating too few calories and the adjustment will be much harder. Additionally, you won't look fit and healthy because you will have lost muscle, not just fat.

1 to 1.5 lbs is a much more realistic goal for weight loss. Age won't have much impact, and it doesn't matter so much what you eat (some sugar is ok! fats are healthy! breads/pasta is yummy!) so long as you stay in your calorie range for the day.

GL - you've got such a great attitude, I really want you to succeed.

and goal to lose 2 lbs a week... I got a fitbit bracelet that sink all my exercises to MFP for me.

If you're using a FitBit, and it syncs to this website, then I suggest (1) changing your settings to "lose 1 lb per week" and (2) eat exactly what MFP is telling you to. So, net whatever it is it's telling you to. It may give you more calories when you change the setting. And that's ok. You're not obese enough to lose weight as fast as 2 lbs per week in a healthy manner.

ok... but I do feel obese trust me... I not happy that I need to get different clothing for the summer because those one are too tight... :blushing: I'm ashamed that I let myself go that way I sometime make excuse its because of I broke up a 26 years relationship and I was stress out but its not an excuse.

If I set 1 lbs a week It will be like next summer before I lose 40 lbs and fit in my clothing...

An other questions.... I notice that my arm ouff... the way bigger and :blushing: flabby will they get more flabby once I lose weight or will the skin go back to where it was... or I really need to do some exercises to firm that up...

I know you want to lose weight as quickly as possible, but please understand that one of the keys to effective and long-term weight loss is reasonable expectations. It is not reasonable for someone who needs to lose around 40 lbs to lose 2 lbs per week. Your calories will be so low that it is not sustainable - too big a caloric deficit will mean that you don't just lose fat, you lose some fat and some muscle and some bone tissue; that's unhealthy! And when you get closer to the point at which you have hit your weight, you won't be in good shape to maintain your weight loss because you have been eating too few calories and the adjustment will be much harder. Additionally, you won't look fit and healthy because you will have lost muscle, not just fat.

1 to 1.5 lbs is a much more realistic goal for weight loss. Age won't have much impact, and it doesn't matter so much what you eat (some sugar is ok! fats are healthy! breads/pasta is yummy!) so long as you stay in your calorie range for the day.

GL - you've got such a great attitude, I really want you to succeed.

I fully agree with this post. Frenchmaid don't rush this, take it slower and eat more so you can be healthy in addition to losing fat.

wow really... but I'm not hungry at all....

If I don't eat enough is this possible that it make me gain weight...

Because I really don't eat that much but I gain weight... I do eat junk tho...I am very bad for that.... I love to bake its funny but it relax me I do bring most of my baking to work I love to try to do different stuff like decoration on muffins, try new cookies and stuff.... I eat some of it but most of them I bring to work....

I sometime bring a lunch to work but end up not being hungry so I don't eat....

Sometime I eat just a 2 pm no breakfast its like I don't feel hungry and when I do feel hungry well I'm too tired to cook something good or its too late ...

This sounds like you need to retrain yourself to eat. Yes, not eating enough will slow down your weight loss. In simple terms, if your body is not getting the fuel it needs (enough food in the right balance of macros), then it starts hanging on to the fuel available (fat stores) and uses it sparingly. When you give yourself enough fuel (fruits, veggies, grains, proteins, even fat), then your body is more willing to let the available fuel go (ie it's getting fuel regularly and doesn't have to make what it has last).

If you've dieted enough in the past, then like the anorexic person, you've learned to ignore the hunger signals. So yes, depending on how often you've lost and possibly gained the same 10, 15, 20 or more pounds, your hunger signals may not be working.

And yes, you can lose weight on "junk food" but honestly, you're not going to like the results. So if you can afford one (or somehow get insurance to pay for one), you probably would benefit from a dietician or nutritionist suggested menu and eating plan.

You need to get 1200 calories in daily at a minimum (this is the average acceptable amount, you can be a little less or a little more usually 100 to 200 calories). That means net calories (so calories eaten less exercise calories should = 1200).

To increase calories without necessarily eating "more", eat things like nuts, avocado, full fat yogurt, cheese, etc.