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TheGoblinRoad
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I notice a lot of people, myself included, often seem to be in such a hurry to lose the extra weight that we ultimately sabotage ourselves with negativity disguised as motivation.
I'd rather be positively motivated than negatively motivated. I don't want fear to drive me. I don't want shame to drive me, like the way I DID feel knowing that I'd have to wear a tux for a wedding this past weekend, as a groomsman. That fear of how others would see me, and shame for how I looked, didn't actually help me lose any weight.
Seems like the only time I actually lose weight and keep it off is if I both track what I eat and I eliminate the negative motivation. We weren't meant to live our lives obsessing over the calorie content, etc and then guilt-tripping any time we went over.
As I sat at the wedding table at the reception, feeling quite large in my ill-fitting tux, I looked over at my friend with (as he told me) 11% body fat and three times the amount of food. He had zero guilt about chowing down, and rightly so, because he is always an active guy. That's how I think we are meant to live. Enjoying life and also enjoying food--and if we want to eat a lot of it, then we must also be very active people, no guilt is needed.
So, being one to love food, I want to become more active with fun things to do, like disc golf or hiking, not gym trips where I obsess over whether I've burned enough calories to justify having an ice cream sundae.
I think we can shift our thinking, given practice. That's what I'm aiming for. How about you?
I'd rather be positively motivated than negatively motivated. I don't want fear to drive me. I don't want shame to drive me, like the way I DID feel knowing that I'd have to wear a tux for a wedding this past weekend, as a groomsman. That fear of how others would see me, and shame for how I looked, didn't actually help me lose any weight.
Seems like the only time I actually lose weight and keep it off is if I both track what I eat and I eliminate the negative motivation. We weren't meant to live our lives obsessing over the calorie content, etc and then guilt-tripping any time we went over.
As I sat at the wedding table at the reception, feeling quite large in my ill-fitting tux, I looked over at my friend with (as he told me) 11% body fat and three times the amount of food. He had zero guilt about chowing down, and rightly so, because he is always an active guy. That's how I think we are meant to live. Enjoying life and also enjoying food--and if we want to eat a lot of it, then we must also be very active people, no guilt is needed.
So, being one to love food, I want to become more active with fun things to do, like disc golf or hiking, not gym trips where I obsess over whether I've burned enough calories to justify having an ice cream sundae.
I think we can shift our thinking, given practice. That's what I'm aiming for. How about you?
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I notice a lot of people, myself included, often seem to be in such a hurry to lose the extra weight that we ultimately sabotage ourselves with negativity disguised as motivation.
I'd rather be positively motivated than negatively motivated. I don't want fear to drive me. I don't want shame to drive me, like the way I DID feel knowing that I'd have to wear a tux for a wedding this past weekend, as a groomsman. That fear of how others would see me, and shame for how I looked, didn't actually help me lose any weight.
Seems like the only time I actually lose weight and keep it off is if I both track what I eat and I eliminate the negative motivation. We weren't meant to live our lives obsessing over the calorie content, etc and then guilt-tripping any time we went over.
As I sat at the wedding table at the reception, feeling quite large in my ill-fitting tux, I looked over at my friend with (as he told me) 11% body fat and three times the amount of food. He had zero guilt about chowing down, and rightly so, because he is always an active guy. That's how I think we are meant to live. Enjoying life and also enjoying food--and if we want to eat a lot of it, then we must also be very active people, no guilt is needed.
So, being one to love food, I want to become more active with fun things to do, like disc golf or hiking, not gym trips where I obsess over whether I've burned enough calories to justify having an ice cream sundae.
I think we can shift our thinking, given practice. That's what I'm aiming for. How about you?0 -
Completely agree with you!!! Good post!!
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I notice a lot of people, myself included, often seem to be in such a hurry to lose the extra weight that we ultimately sabotage ourselves with negativity disguised as motivation.
I'd rather be positively motivated than negatively motivated. I don't want fear to drive me. I don't want shame to drive me, like the way I DID feel knowing that I'd have to wear a tux for a wedding this past weekend, as a groomsman. That fear of how others would see me, and shame for how I looked, didn't actually help me lose any weight.
Seems like the only time I actually lose weight and keep it off is if I both track what I eat and I eliminate the negative motivation. We weren't meant to live our lives obsessing over the calorie content, etc and then guilt-tripping any time we went over.
As I sat at the wedding table at the reception, feeling quite large in my ill-fitting tux, I looked over at my friend with (as he told me) 11% body fat and three times the amount of food. He had zero guilt about chowing down, and rightly so, because he is always an active guy. That's how I think we are meant to live. Enjoying life and also enjoying food--and if we want to eat a lot of it, then we must also be very active people, no guilt is needed.
So, being one to love food, I want to become more active with fun things to do, like disc golf or hiking, not gym trips where I obsess over whether I've burned enough calories to justify having an ice cream sundae.
I think we can shift our thinking, given practice. That's what I'm aiming for. How about you?
Right on.
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You are exactly right.
Love the sleazy dude next to the saguaro Sgtinvincible.0 -
lol~love the pic!
I totally agree. Before I never had to worry about what I ate and I did so many different types of activities. It is all a mind thing, and how you think about yourself and what you need to do to change yourself to what you want. I am on a mission to change my life back to the way it was. Unfotunatly I do feel like I am rushed, but somehow that helps me. I have noticed that the harder I am on myself, not in a mean way, but in a motivating goal oriented way, the better I do.0
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