"You must STOP losing weight"

Do what you need to do, to make you feel good.

You know what they say about opinions and *kitten*... we all got 'em.

When people would ask inappropriate questions of my MIL (age, etc.), she used to smile and say, "I'll forgive you for asking if you'll forgive me for not answering." I always thought it a gracious way to let them know it was none of their business. She was a neat lady.

Gail

I keep getting told that I am gonna blow away with the wind..... I am currently 176lbs and my heatly range for my body height is between 145 and 185. I am doing what I want not what everyone else thinks I should do. My goal currently is 160 and I believe that is reasonable considering I am 6 foot tall. Just do what is best for you and I wouldn't hide it, tell them it's your decision not yours.

I always find it interesting when people offer their opinions about other's weight loss, such as saying you are going to be too skinny when you reach your goal weight. On the other side of the coin, if you were gaining weight, would those same people make any comments then? I seriously doubt it. If someone is not offering encouragement or support for YOUR goals and YOUR journey, they are not helping and you just have to let it roll.

Sometimes I really think that personal success just reminds people of their own lack of success. Stay on track and just let it roll off your shoulders.

I keep getting told that I am gonna blow away with the wind..... I am currently 176lbs and my heatly range for my body height is between 145 and 185. I am doing what I want not what everyone else thinks I should do. My goal currently is 160 and I believe that is reasonable considering I am 6 foot tall. Just do what is best for you and I wouldn't hide it, tell them it's your decision not yours.

The only wind is their Hot Air!..

If they were healthy, active normal weight folks then their opinions 'MAY' count for something .. otherwise, they are just seem to be spouting from a position if ignorance and being mean.

I got this a lot when I leaned out last year. Then I would tell people what I actually weighed and they wouldn't really believe me because I carry a good amount of muscle mass so I typically weigh more than I look like I do. I knew where I wanted to be BF% wise and wasn't super concerned what the scale said.

I think someone already said it, but I think sometimes the people we are around every day see the weight loss differently and it can seem like a drastic drop, but they have no perspective to determine what a healthy athletic build would look on us. So they hear that we are trying for x number of pounds more and they mentally over exaggerate what that would look like. Ignore them and listen to the people who you know you can get an honest opinion out of.

The assumption on this thread is that the nosy people are all insecure about themselves or are just gossips. But keep in mind that people have been bombarded for 3 decades about eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia, so when they see a lot of weight loss, their first thought is that they are seeing one of these disorders. They are concerned that I am manifesting a problem, rather than working toward a solution.

I use the question as a Teaching Moment. I explain to the person what the healthy range for my height is according to the BMI tables at National Institutes of Health. I point out that my current weight is 20 pounds above the top limit, so I am still officially overweight. I explain that I am not shooting for the bottom of the range; I just want to be a few pounds inside the top of the range. So if I lose 30 more pounds, I will be in no danger of being too skinny, and I will still be 20 pounds higher than my college weight.

I find that people quickly realize that I have a legitimate goal weight, and it is not too thin, and I am not suffering from any eating disorder.

Keep in mind that you can see more fat on yourself than most people can see. My belly used to stick way out in front of me (total apple body), so now that my belly only sticks out a little, people don't really see it as much as I do. I am the one who stands naked on the scale in the morning, so I can see the fat when I look down at the scale. In fact, I still need to suck in my gut and lean forward a bit just to see the scale, so I have extra confirmation about still needing to lose some pounds. But once I put clothes on, unless my shirt is really tight (and I have not traded to a smaller size in a few months, so they are all pretty baggy now), most of that remaining fat is just covered by clothes.

I have an aunt that when I was losing a lot of weight in college (I was a D1 diver so we worked out a lot) she kept asking me what I was doing what I was eating and stuff because she thought I was losing weight too fast. I just told her to MYOB and kept doing what I was doing. Now a days I don't tell people I'm losing weight, I don't tell them I'm working out (I don't check in at the gym, it annoys me when others do I feel like they're just trying to show off) and I don't tell anyone what my goal weight is. So long as my BMI is ok and my doctors aren't worried I'm going to do it my way.

people are weird. I think the biggest thing is they get used to you looking a certain way, even if that (in my case) is morbidly obese. So then to see you thinner weirds 'em out. I have already had a couple of comments along these lines. My stepmom asks me occasionally how low I want to go and reminds me that I am tall. Duh. I am 5'8" and weigh 187, still definitely overweight! (She is thin and petite herself). A friend's mom, who met me when I was 16 and around 220 lb, freaked out when she saw before/after pics of me on facebook and immediately called my friend to say that I need to STOP losing. What?! People are weirdos, don't listen to 'em.

I've started getting this as well, and I'm just barely inside a normal BMI.

I get it at work too. It's funny because I've only lost around 8-10 lbs. I started at 138, and last week I was 128 but this week I'm 131 (hence the 8-10 lbs. ). I'm 5'5.5", so 130 is smack in the middle of a healthy bmi for me.

But people still comment. Like often. It's weird.

I think my friend JoRocka put it best yesterday.

"I'm pooping at 3 PM this afternoon- if you could be there to add your comments in on that - it would be great- because I really do appreciate your input in my life!!!"

I don't know what it is about weight loss that makes people think they can start giving you unsolicited advice and opinions.

Imagine if it were the same way with weight gain? "Wow, you are getting WAY TOO FAT!"

Nope, that's "rude". People should just mind their own beeswax.

I haven't had people telling me to stop losing weight yet, but I have had people look at me like I'm crazy when I tell them that I want to lose 50 pounds. They're like "50? That's a lot! Are you sure? Maybe 20 is enough." Yes I'm sure, losing 50 pounds would put me in the middle of the healthy weight range for my height.

I fear that people will tell me to stop losing weight as well. But when that day comes, I will not fall victim to their stupid comments and opinions and do what I feel is best for me. Screw what they think, you are proud of your accomplishments, right? So you have every right to display those accomplishments.