What is "the thing about" you?
_lyndseybrooke_
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Last weekend, my husband and I were at my parents' house sitting around talking with my mom and sister. My mom is a very fragile person, and she made the comment that I can "cut her heart with a knife" just with the things I say to her. Now, you'd have to understand the "off" relationship I have with my mother, but I don't walk on eggshells around her and her feelings are hurt very easily. That comment by her spurred this conversation...
Sister: That's just how Lyndsey is. She's going to be honest and tell you like it is.
Me: I just look at things from a logical perspective, not an emotional perspective.
Mom: Well maybe you should look at it from my perspective.
Me: I'm pretty sure I don't know how to do that.
Sister: No, but that's one of the things I love about her. If I want to know the truth, she's the person I go to. It makes her who she is.
Mom: Okay, but it comes off as mean and uncaring.
Husband: The way I see it is...if you have a question and there's a possible answer that you don't want to hear, don't ask Lyndsey the question.
Me: I tells it like it is. Sorry, but not sorry.
Apparently, the "thing about me" is that I'm going to be brutally honest with you whether you like what I'm saying or not. And also, I'm not an emotional person, so I'm not going to tip-toe around your feelings. If that makes me a b!tch, so be it, but I don't say things to purposefully hurt people, so it's not my fault that you're hurt by the truth.
So, what's "the thing about" you?
And refrain from saying generic things that apply to everyone - "the thing about me is, you don't talk *kitten* about my momma." Really? Because I love when people do that. *eye roll*
Sister: That's just how Lyndsey is. She's going to be honest and tell you like it is.
Me: I just look at things from a logical perspective, not an emotional perspective.
Mom: Well maybe you should look at it from my perspective.
Me: I'm pretty sure I don't know how to do that.
Sister: No, but that's one of the things I love about her. If I want to know the truth, she's the person I go to. It makes her who she is.
Mom: Okay, but it comes off as mean and uncaring.
Husband: The way I see it is...if you have a question and there's a possible answer that you don't want to hear, don't ask Lyndsey the question.
Me: I tells it like it is. Sorry, but not sorry.
Apparently, the "thing about me" is that I'm going to be brutally honest with you whether you like what I'm saying or not. And also, I'm not an emotional person, so I'm not going to tip-toe around your feelings. If that makes me a b!tch, so be it, but I don't say things to purposefully hurt people, so it's not my fault that you're hurt by the truth.
So, what's "the thing about" you?
And refrain from saying generic things that apply to everyone - "the thing about me is, you don't talk *kitten* about my momma." Really? Because I love when people do that. *eye roll*
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I'm with you on the brutal honesty. Also I don't like to talk a lot and I've been told I have a "zone-out" face when people keep talking and I'm done listening.0
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I'm pretty much the opposite. I cater to everyone else. It kinda sucks, but that's just who I am. I put everyone else before myself.0
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The thing about me is I can not stand people who are not honest with themselves and others. If you are a bullsh**ter I will cut you off like the Cancer that you are.0
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Don't deal with negative energy well, am very upbeat, can't deal with death or sadness because I'm too busy being in a good mood. Can't stand it when people say in their whiny voice "i'm sick" or "my back hurts". uggghhh0
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I tend to see the negetive in stuff.
It actually is quite helpful.
When writing a program or doing design work, I am the guy who looks at it and thinks:
"How can this fail?"
When I am rebuilding a car, the same thoght happens "What can go wrong?"
People think I am negetive but in reality, I am just ultra careful.0 -
Last weekend, my husband and I were at my parents' house sitting around talking with my mom and sister. My mom is a very fragile person, and she made the comment that I can "cut her heart with a knife" just with the things I say to her. Now, you'd have to understand the "off" relationship I have with my mother, but I don't walk on eggshells around her and her feelings are hurt very easily. That comment by her spurred this conversation...
Sister: That's just how Lyndsey is. She's going to be honest and tell you like it is.
Me: I just look at things from a logical perspective, not an emotional perspective.
Mom: Well maybe you should look at it from my perspective.
Me: I'm pretty sure I don't know how to do that.
Sister: No, but that's one of the things I love about her. If I want to know the truth, she's the person I go to. It makes her who she is.
Mom: Okay, but it comes off as mean and uncaring.
Husband: The way I see it is...if you have a question and there's a possible answer that you don't want to hear, don't ask Lyndsey the question.
Me: I tells it like it is. Sorry, but not sorry.
Apparently, the "thing about me" is that I'm going to be brutally honest with you whether you like what I'm saying or not. And also, I'm not an emotional person, so I'm not going to tip-toe around your feelings. If that makes me a b!tch, so be it, but I don't say things to purposefully hurt people, so it's not my fault that you're hurt by the truth.
So, what's "the thing about" you?
And refrain from saying generic things that apply to everyone - "the thing about me is, you don't talk *kitten* about my momma." Really? Because I love when people do that. *eye roll*
I've known many people who say the same thing. "I'm just brutally honest," but I think you can be honest, and still have tact. You don't have to hurt the person to get your point across. With that being said, yes there are those that really need a good kick in the *kitten* sometimes. lol..
The thing about me, is I lack confidence in myself, but always more than willing to cheer and encourage others. But that's why I'm on MFP to get my confidence back.0 -
The thing about me is I hate when people say hurtful things because apparently they're just being honest.0
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The thing about me is I hate when people say hurtful things because apparently they're just being honest.
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Apparently I am just too negative and bring others down.
Also, I comment on how some children behave in public and since I don't have children I know nothing and therefore should keep my mouth shut.0 -
The thing about me is I don't stand for manipulative, bullying, abusive behavior. I see lots of people stuck dealing with nightmare relatives, putting up with terrible crap because "it's family!" I don't care if you're "family" or not - I won't be around it. I will cut you off if you're a harmful presence in my life. No hard feelings, I just don't need the negativity. :drinker:0
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I will use a filter so as to not hurt someones feelings and if that does not work I'm straight to the bottom line.
The "thing about me" is that people still like you when you do it that way.
I dont like bull**** and I dont like hurting other people either. Balance.....0 -
I'm the same way...
I don't like to sit there and try to sugarcoat stuff to not hurt people's feelings.. They either want to know, or they don't.
And if I know it's something that they probably won't want to hear, I warn them a few times before I even let it out..
I do try not say it, but it comes out as hurtful.. Hey, they wanted to know. Don't want to know, don't ask.0 -
The thing about me is I hate when people say hurtful things because apparently they're just being honest.
WORD!
Bingo. I truly hate all the ecards that circulate on facebook and pinterest that celebrate being b!tchy and "honest." Honestly, being cordial and sensitive is what makes me an adult, not a 6-year-old with no filter.0 -
The thing about me is that it is part of my job to share information with people that they may not want to hear. It is my job to share my thoughts even though they may be painful to hear.
If my mantra was to walk around saying "I don't sugar coat things" or "I say it how it is" without regards to feelings, then I'd be pretty bad at my job. It would be a pretty lazy way to do things as well.0 -
I don't really think that you have to sugarcoat something to say something tactfully. Being blunt is always the easiest, but if you care about someone, you're not going to just blurt whatever comes first in your head.
"Honey, do these jeans make me look fat?"
"Yes, like a F8cking blimp, babe."0 -
The thing about me is that I'm kind of annoying.0
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I don't really think that you have to sugarcoat something to say something tactfully. Being blunt is always the easiest, but if you care about someone, you're not going to just blurt whatever comes first in your head.
"Honey, do these jeans make me look fat?"
"Yes, like a F8cking blimp, babe."
THIS - and haha blimp...0 -
I don't really think that you have to sugarcoat something to say something tactfully. Being blunt is always the easiest, but if you care about someone, you're not going to just blurt whatever comes first in your head.
"Honey, do these jeans make me look fat?"
"Yes, like a F8cking blimp, babe."
That would be exaggerating unless she really did look like a blimp.0 -
The thing about me is...most of the time people do not know if I am being sarcastic or not. Oh and mistaking my sensitivity for weakness, I'm more sensitive to others feelings than my own.0
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The thing about me is...most of the time people do not know if I am being sarcastic or not. Oh and mistaking my sensitivity for weakness, I'm more sensitive to others feelings than my own.
I'm feeling hungry. :frown:0 -
The thing about me is, I am too optimistic and positive for people to handle. Too many just WANT that drama and hate when I can negate it.0
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I have a big heart0
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Last weekend, my husband and I were at my parents' house sitting around talking with my mom and sister. My mom is a very fragile person, and she made the comment that I can "cut her heart with a knife" just with the things I say to her. Now, you'd have to understand the "off" relationship I have with my mother, but I don't walk on eggshells around her and her feelings are hurt very easily. That comment by her spurred this conversation...
Sister: That's just how Lyndsey is. She's going to be honest and tell you like it is.
Me: I just look at things from a logical perspective, not an emotional perspective.
Mom: Well maybe you should look at it from my perspective.
Me: I'm pretty sure I don't know how to do that.
Sister: No, but that's one of the things I love about her. If I want to know the truth, she's the person I go to. It makes her who she is.
Mom: Okay, but it comes off as mean and uncaring.
Husband: The way I see it is...if you have a question and there's a possible answer that you don't want to hear, don't ask Lyndsey the question.
Me: I tells it like it is. Sorry, but not sorry.
Apparently, the "thing about me" is that I'm going to be brutally honest with you whether you like what I'm saying or not. And also, I'm not an emotional person, so I'm not going to tip-toe around your feelings. If that makes me a b!tch, so be it, but I don't say things to purposefully hurt people, so it's not my fault that you're hurt by the truth.
So, what's "the thing about" you?
And refrain from saying generic things that apply to everyone - "the thing about me is, you don't talk *kitten* about my momma." Really? Because I love when people do that. *eye roll*
I've known many people who say the same thing. "I'm just brutally honest," but I think you can be honest, and still have tact. You don't have to hurt the person to get your point across. With that being said, yes there are those that really need a good kick in the *kitten* sometimes. lol..
The thing about me, is I lack confidence in myself, but always more than willing to cheer and encourage others. But that's why I'm on MFP to get my confidence back.
Some people are not capable of tact. Your baby is adorable, by the way. :flowerforyou:0 -
Don't deal with negative energy well, am very upbeat, can't deal with death or sadness because I'm too busy being in a good mood. Can't stand it when people say in their whiny voice "i'm sick" or "my back hurts". uggghhh
Me too, I hate when people die and it causes other people to be negative and sad. They're so selfish, going around mourning loved ones. :grumble:0 -
Don't deal with negative energy well, am very upbeat, can't deal with death or sadness because I'm too busy being in a good mood. Can't stand it when people say in their whiny voice "i'm sick" or "my back hurts". uggghhh
Me too, I hate when people die and it causes other people to be negative and sad. They're so selfish, going around mourning loved ones. :grumble:
No time for compassion, duh. :smokin:0 -
I don't act as if my phone is one of my appendages and have it with me all of the time. Sometimes I will leave it in another room or upstairs for a couple of hours or more. People get super pissed if I don't text them back immediately, as if I sit there all day just waiting for texts and calls to come through. Also, I never answer if I don't know the number. Anyone who knows me well knows this about me, but some people get really upset and take it personally. Oh well.0
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The thing about me is that I'm kind of annoying.I don't really think that you have to sugarcoat something to say something tactfully. Being blunt is always the easiest, but if you care about someone, you're not going to just blurt whatever comes first in your head.
"Honey, do these jeans make me look fat?"
"Yes, like a F8cking blimp, babe."
That would be exaggerating unless she really did look like a blimp.
You are annoying! LOL.. just kidding.0 -
The thing about me is... I'm Saintly.0
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Last weekend, my husband and I were at my parents' house sitting around talking with my mom and sister. My mom is a very fragile person, and she made the comment that I can "cut her heart with a knife" just with the things I say to her. Now, you'd have to understand the "off" relationship I have with my mother, but I don't walk on eggshells around her and her feelings are hurt very easily. That comment by her spurred this conversation...
Sister: That's just how Lyndsey is. She's going to be honest and tell you like it is.
Me: I just look at things from a logical perspective, not an emotional perspective.
Mom: Well maybe you should look at it from my perspective.
Me: I'm pretty sure I don't know how to do that.
Sister: No, but that's one of the things I love about her. If I want to know the truth, she's the person I go to. It makes her who she is.
Mom: Okay, but it comes off as mean and uncaring.
Husband: The way I see it is...if you have a question and there's a possible answer that you don't want to hear, don't ask Lyndsey the question.
Me: I tells it like it is. Sorry, but not sorry.
Apparently, the "thing about me" is that I'm going to be brutally honest with you whether you like what I'm saying or not. And also, I'm not an emotional person, so I'm not going to tip-toe around your feelings. If that makes me a b!tch, so be it, but I don't say things to purposefully hurt people, so it's not my fault that you're hurt by the truth.
So, what's "the thing about" you?
And refrain from saying generic things that apply to everyone - "the thing about me is, you don't talk *kitten* about my momma." Really? Because I love when people do that. *eye roll*
I've known many people who say the same thing. "I'm just brutally honest," but I think you can be honest, and still have tact. You don't have to hurt the person to get your point across. With that being said, yes there are those that really need a good kick in the *kitten* sometimes. lol..
The thing about me, is I lack confidence in myself, but always more than willing to cheer and encourage others. But that's why I'm on MFP to get my confidence back.
Some people are not capable of tact. Your baby is adorable, by the way. :flowerforyou:
Thank you.0
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