Men... out of curiosity... why...

Much like people and government conspiracies, I think women give us too much credit sometimes. We either want sex, not to be bothered or sex...

LOL! Yeah, maybe I am putting to much thought into this. All men want is sex (most of the time) and everything they do is motivated by that.

Why would you play with a woman's emotions? What do you gain from it? Do you find that you do it unintentionally? Do you correct your behavior once you realized that you have inadvertently lead a woman on?

I suppose the same can be true of women who lead on men, but I'm curious about the male perspective of this. Women, being emotional creatures, have a tendency to be more susceptible to this.

In my experience, women are guilty of this far more frequently than men.

You know, honestly, I think most people are either guilty of it or vulnerable to it. If you are a man that is vulnerable to it, then you would think women are more guilty of it... and vice versa. But, women, by nature, are emotional so I think they are more likely to have their emotions used against them. I would suggest, to anyone, that if you find yourself consistently running into people who treat you this way, then you might want to consider what you might be doing to attract people like that to you. Identify the characteristics of those people, and learn how to recognize those characteristics in future potential mates.

Why would you play with a woman's emotions? What do you gain from itinadvertentlu find that you do it unintentionally? Do you correct your behavior once you realized that you have inadvertently lead a woman on?

I suppose the same can be true of women who lead on men, but I'm curious about the male perspective of this. Women, being emotional creatures, have a tendency to be more susceptible to this.

Most men don't do that, intentionally anyway. Yes. If we realize we do it inadvertently, we correct it. The people who do this intentionally, men and women, like the attention and having control. I believe those people can be sniffed out and ignored because playing games with emotiins is cruel. I don't like head games period. I stay away from that bologna.

Now that makes sense to me. I also have a tendency to attract the "controlling" type. So that makes absolute sense. Thanks. :flowerforyou:

Women, out of curiosity, WHY? Why do you put your emotions out there, knowing that the man you are interested in isn't interested in you? Why do you assume that just because a man calls you back one time, that he's planning marriage ceremonies in his head? Why, in the face of no evidence, do you y insist on misleading yourself and then blame your gullibility on outside parties?

Why?

Yeah, but that isn't always the case. I'm talking about mixed signals. If you aren't interested, then why wouldn't a guy just say so. Why would he be all wishy-washy about it?

Honestly, I see where you are coming from about protecting your own feelings. That is very important. But when you fall for someone, you make yourself vulnerable to them... that's just part of it. If they recognize that they aren't truly interested, why do they continue to instill hope where there shouldn't be any?

I think a lot of people have different experiences and perspectives. Odds are... no one person is to blame. But I think understanding someone's motivations goes a long way towards correcting behavior, if not for the offending party, then at least for the person that suffers the pain of the loss.

OP, I suggest reading the book Sperm Wars. It explains the evolutionary reasons behind the actions of both sexes. There is a lot of stuff happening subconsciously.

Thanks. I'll have to check that out. I believe there probably is a biological component to it, as well.