rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

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  • LauleaAliyah
    LauleaAliyah Posts: 35 Member
    "you would be pretty if you lost all your weight"
  • Pretty_Little_Nobody
    Pretty_Little_Nobody Posts: 626 Member
    During this Summer, my dad said, and I quote, "No one will like you, people don't like fat people. I'm just being honest with you." It was incredibly hurtful, and it still makes me cry to this day. This was when he was preparing for his gastric bypass and was much bigger than I am. He says he doesn't want me to get like him but everything he says to me about the subject just brings me down and makes me want to give up. My mum said she would throw him out if he ever said anything like that again.

    When I was about eight or nine years old, my mum used to take me to church with her every week. I was supposed to go up to the front and read a passage one week but I couldn't make it last minute because I was pretty ill that day. They found another girl to cover for me, and, as she walked up to the pulpit, the pastor commented, in front of everyone, "Wow, you've lost a lot of weight!" I didn't know about it until I was a bit older but it was humiliating. My whole family left that church because of that comment, amongst other things.

    When I was at secondary school, I was beat up because my skirt was `too long`. I wore it to my knees because I was conscious about how big my thighs were. These two girls cornered me and started hitting me after taunting me half the way home. When I finally told them to back off they started beating me. I tried my best to fight back, but, to add to my humiliation I had to go into school the next day with a black eye. So not only was I obese, but I also had to deal with that.
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member


    I have a theory that this same car of guys just travels the countryside yelling this. So we've all been yelled at by the same cursed individuals. They have no other purpose in life, but to yell horrible things at people out their windows. It's their curse. I am hoping Supernatural does an episode where Sam and Dean have to put them to rest for good.

    The best part is when you can't understand them so it's just a loud "WERVEQGBWRRFG FG" as they drive by. It makes me chuckle.

    This is actually not a bad idea. lol
  • I was obese as a teenager and had all the taunts daily...I was talking about going ice skating with a friend and someone said something about me being a fat hippo who would break the ice. Teens can be cruel haha.
  • IcanIwill1
    IcanIwill1 Posts: 137 Member
    It's ridiculous that no one told her that was inappropriate - I think your argument should almost more be with them than with her.

    I'll agree that different cultures have different norms (when I visited China and would jog, little kids would follow me and yell that I was so fat, ha), but I think it's on the person engaging in the majority culture to learn the norms, and I think other people should have your back on that. You're definitely not crazy for being upset.
    I see you got the Chinese 'treatment' too.
    I went to Shantao and they would congregate and and stare, some would point. I had never seen a thing like that before.
    Even in supposedly professional settings, I was not spared the stares...I still shudder when I think of that experience.

    A really toxic colleague once offered me a ride in her car...I declined because I parked further away so I could walk.
    she said "Are you worried you may not fit in my car?" she is not exactly twiggy.... I just thought how tactless could anyone be? guess who is at least 4sizes smaller than she is now?
  • hedpe70
    hedpe70 Posts: 24 Member
    Have been big all my life, so I've heard it all at this point — from being a kid and hearing the ruthless taunts from my classmates to being an adult and having a fellow "adult" tell me that I should be fired from my job simply because of how I look.

    The most hurtful stuff, however, comes from people who probably don't intend their comments to be hurtful, like when a friend recently used me as a size comparison to describe someone he was telling a group of people about. "This guy was real big," he said before looking right at me. "Bigger than you, but maybe a bit taller." As if being bigger than me was some kind of feat in itself.

    Working to make sure I'm no one's size comparison anymore. So far, so good.
  • shapefitter
    shapefitter Posts: 900 Member
    Nobody makes comments about my weight, as I distribute it fairly well...well, not untill yesterday at work, that is. Have noticed you're getting bigger. Are you planning on loosing weight? he asked. Well, I'm just starting a new weight loss programme, and hope to see some results by summer, I said. I'll take you out for a drink in the summer, he said.
    All I could think of all day, was that he had called me fat.
    Then, later when I was offered a lift, by a friend, and a co worker was sharing, so that one of us had to get in the back, of this 'tin can'. I'm not kidding, it was smaller than a mini a la cooper, and this guy exclaimed, I was so big! looking horrified.
    I did get in the back, with my knees, up to my chin. Banged my head, on the 'car' interior, every time there was a bump in the road, and as much as I tried, I had difficulty in trying not to laugh at the crazy situation. What a carry on!
  • shapefitter
    shapefitter Posts: 900 Member
    "you would be pretty if you lost all your weight"

    And?
  • kk_140
    kk_140 Posts: 518 Member
    Mine actually came after weight loss when someone said, "you used to be on the big side, you look better now."

    It was meant in kindness, but I wasn't overweight to begin with. Hurt my feelings a lot.
  • SpicesOfLife
    SpicesOfLife Posts: 290 Member
    Mine actually came after weight loss when someone said, "you used to be on the big side, you look better now."

    It was meant in kindness, but I wasn't overweight to begin with. Hurt my feelings a lot.

    yeah i can relate to that, mine was similar.. -_-
  • izu87
    izu87 Posts: 267 Member
    Oh... wow... I can relate to so many of those stories.

    For me... I think it was in my mid-teen years - so around 15-16. I used to be an active athlete - soccer, volleyball, going out for long biking sessions and so on, but after an injury I had to drop sport. I started gaining weight and by the age of 15-16 I was at 80+kg at 171cm. And in my country this was and is considered obese. :/ If you are 171cm tall and you weigh more than 60kg you are fat. End of story. So for a girl my height and my weight there were no available clothes. We had XSS, XS, S, M and L and L was at the time equal to a US size 8-10? :/

    So, I remember that one week just before the beginning of 10th grade my mother and I went to a shopping center, looking for a couple of new pair of jeans. So we walk in that one store and we ask what they would recommend to us. And the dumb saleswoman goes like 'Oh. No. We have nothing for someone like her' - a mild disgust on her face as she sizes me up. Then my mother nods and agrees and ask what we can do for me. And I end up being pushed to the men's side of the store where I get a pair of horribly baggy jeans (which is normal I don't have a package to fill the front) :/ So... yeah... And it wasn't the only time I've got that reaction in stores.

    Even now when my country has somewhat progressed (10 years later) and stores do now stock up on bigger sizes (due to overweight tendencies among most of the kids and older women and men), I still get anxiety attacks when I go shopping. :/

    This along with my mother's non-stop chanting when I was a teen about how 'no one will ever love me the way I am' has seriously affected my adult life so far and all the body image issues that I have. :/
  • Trad_Barbie
    Trad_Barbie Posts: 166 Member
    A part of me is spiteful and I want to lose weight because of a rude women who makes snide comments at my weight.

    This women is European and she thinks all Americans are fat lazy and uneducated. She married my boyfriend's brother and she would constantly talk about my weight.

    One of the craziest things shes ever said to me was when I told her I got a second job. I was so excited to have another source of income because I was really struggling for some time.

    instead of congratulating me she said " that's good..gives you less time to eat"

    She said this in front of my boyfriend and her husband and they didn't think anything of it. I felt like i had gone insane.

    :( Your boy needs a reality check.

    Meanest thing anyone has ever said to me...

    When I was a healthy weight? My Brother Oinked at me when I went to get a second hot dog to eat, and then asked "Should you be eating that? Shouldn't you be eating tofu dogs or something?" 5'5'' and 135 pounds. This effectively triggered an eating disorder I've struggled with off and on ever since. I STILL hear the devil in my head to this day.
    I've had a 'friend' look at me at 5'5'' and 125 (current) after a few months of not seeing me at all, and say "you need to eat like five cheeseburgers!" ... I lost about ten pounds over the winter (eating right, working out, on my feet at work, rock climbing, ect.)
    When I was 5'5'' and 155? No one said a damned thing. It was a look I got from my dad. His eyes bugged out of his skull when I took my swim-suit coverup off to jump into the pool a few years ago. I mean wow, like he hadn't seen me at that weight for a year by that point? OK.
    I've also had people swear I was on drugs (recently, in fact) because I was so thin. I've had people (like my friend) tell me to 'eat a cheeseburger.'

    People are just weird about appearance. Who knows why. It's never mattered to me- mine or anyone else's, unless that other person had a problem with themselves and was awkward about it... in which case I usually felt.became awkward. I feed off energy like that.
  • Trad_Barbie
    Trad_Barbie Posts: 166 Member
    A girl I considered a very close friend made a scene in front of a large group of our friends that no one should hug me because I'd break in half and went on to loudly comment that she didn't understand why I always had dates because who would want to date "a twig." I later came to realize it was a product of her own insecurity, but at the time it was incredibly hurtful.

    If I had a dollar for every time I've been called "skinny b!tch" by a total stranger I could take us all out for milkshakes :noway:

    Try to let the comments roll off your shoulders OP, people can be nasty but it's up to us to rise above that.

    I want a milkshake! I'm sorry for your experiences, all of that was so uncalled for on your 'friends' part.
  • vermillionlove
    vermillionlove Posts: 37 Member
    I can't really remember if I was picked on for my weight in school. But one instance comes to mind from my Aunt's boyfriend, who I've known since I was a child. He has always been one to comment on how i'm looking, for example he pointed out that my acne was clearing up when I had it badly. In reality, it was makeup covering most of it.

    Anyway, my family had went over to my grandma's house, my aunt and her boyfriend live a few houses away. My dad and I went to the car to get something when he came walking down the street. He shouted "HEY [dad's name], WHO'S THAT FAT LADY WITH YOU?!" I was mortified, looking around hoping no one else heard. We just kinda ignored him and walked back in the house.

    Later inside, he somehow managed to shoehorn in other rude comments about my weight, which I have forgotten for the most part, one I can remember was something like telling one of my other family members to not eat too much "or you'll end up looking like Amanda!" Ha ha ha! -_-

    I don't know what he was thinking or if he would make those kind of jokes with anyone else. word got back to him that I was uncomfortable with what he was saying, and he said sorry and sounded sincere, but damn.

    Also my grandpa "affectionately" calls me ugly, which has always bothered me, everyone insists he's not serious, but I don't believe them.

    Now I'm sad :(
  • Trad_Barbie
    Trad_Barbie Posts: 166 Member
    A few years ago, I was dating this really attractive and fit guy who was sooooo critical of all women's weight. He probably had a lot of insecurities.

    We were at the beach and I had finally reached my lowest weight and finally felt comfortable in a bikini. I bent over to pick up a towel, and he took a picture of me from the side (no one looks good from the side bending over - I don't care how fit you are). And he showed it to me and circled all of the places where i was fat. He literally said "omg look how fat you are here and here and here and here."

    So that felt great.

    Gahhhh you just reminded me of the jiu-jitsu master I dated a few years ago, at my highest weight. (5'5'', 155 NO muscle tone whatsoever.)
    He literally looked me in the eye and said "You are the thinnest girl I've ever dated."
    Honestly I didn't know how to take it. Still irks me to this day.
  • A part of me is spiteful and I want to lose weight because of a rude women who makes snide comments at my weight.

    This women is European and she thinks all Americans are fat lazy and uneducated. She married my boyfriend's brother and she would constantly talk about my weight.

    One of the craziest things shes ever said to me was when I told her I got a second job. I was so excited to have another source of income because I was really struggling for some time.

    instead of congratulating me she said " that's good..gives you less time to eat"

    She said this in front of my boyfriend and her husband and they didn't think anything of it. I felt like i had gone insane.
    Wow! I'd probably punch her in the face lol
  • 1ZenGirl
    1ZenGirl Posts: 432 Member
    My mother..."Nobody is ever going to love you because you are too fat. I'm so embarrassed by you".....I was 12.
    .
  • KimiSteinbach
    KimiSteinbach Posts: 224 Member
    A former boyfriend's daughter used to jokingly refer to me as a skinny biotch. Really *kitten*? I held my lip but in retrospect I should have called her a fat biotch. Discrimination goes both ways and now I"m overweight.
  • vaishnavijayasankar
    vaishnavijayasankar Posts: 33 Member
    i m fat
    i know that
    and my name is 'vaishnavi' nick name vaish and i m from india and what some ppl cal me here is a word called 'bhains' meanin buffalo!!!!! and the funny part is my name sounds same similar to that sick word!!!
    and when i travel some of the asholes pass lewd comments which is tooooooo rude and they cal me fat and that i must be eating a loads and al!!!!!!!
  • dscookrph
    dscookrph Posts: 1 Member
    Two years ago on Christmas Day, my Dad told me I needed to start throwing up after big meals!!
  • Lifelink
    Lifelink Posts: 193 Member
    it is still insulting when someone claims you are/were larger than you really are/were.

    Here I was thinking that my situation was trivial, but here is someone going through something similar.

    Had an "old friend" who has always been holocaust-victim skinny recently mutter, "I didn't know you got THAT fat!" When put that way, it's like, "Woah! What's THAT supposed to mean, dude?!" Only thing I could do to keep composure was to cool-face it and say, "Yup. **** happens."

    Outside of that, it was my step-father constantly calling me "slim", like it was some nickname, when I got up to 279 lbs. It resonated in my mind for the longest time... and in a way, it still does.
  • Trad_Barbie
    Trad_Barbie Posts: 166 Member
    Last night after I read this post I went to bed actually thinking of all the time kids got on to me about my weight.
    So much of it I had blocked out over the years.

    Oofy. I just remembered another one. When I was in 5th grade I was a couple inches below the 'normal' height percentile, and very obviously under weight. I was also battling level 3/4 Kidney Reflux in both kidneys, hence the small stature and low weight. Right after lunch one day at recess a 'friend' of mine told me I was "fat" and needed to 'suck in my stomach.'
    Anything I ate made it look like I had a distended stomach simply because I was so tiny. Had noticed it in the past, but never thought anything of it.
    Know what? I unconsciously flexed my stomach every day after that for close to ten years.

    Right before that (HA) I had a 'friends' mom exclaim that I had 'put on weight!' and then go on to look me in the eye and say 'thats a good thing, Honey! Right?' Uh... I was like eight. So. Lol. Plus my parents were trying not to give my condition any power, so I could at least try to have a normal childhood amid tests, medications, and doctors visits. Way to project your insecurities onto someone else, 'Honey.'

    People are just mean. It isn't just kids, it's in general.
  • scorpiophoenix
    scorpiophoenix Posts: 222 Member
    Worst I got was in high school the snooty girls asking if I was pregnant. I was only 135 and even then a lot of that was boobs. Since graduating I'm glad to not be stuck around people like that. All of my friends and family are super awesome. My hubby NEVER comments one way or the other, treats me like I'm gorgeous no matter what and I've even had people say how good I looked after I gained a few lbs back! o_O That's a mind-blower.

    Try to remember that people who throw negativity your way only do so because they feel so badly about themselves. If they matter so little to themselves then they shouldn't matter at all to you. I know it's hard, but that's what I got.
  • Trad_Barbie
    Trad_Barbie Posts: 166 Member
    "You've just always been tiny, you don't get it."

    I may have a small frame but I've not always been fit. Comments like this always undermine the fact that I work really hard to be healthy and be fit and it is a conscious choice I make at every meal, at every chance I have to work out. People assume the way you look right now, whether big or small, is the way you've always been.

    This.
    So this.
    Or when you carry your weight proportionally and YOU know your measurements and weight and people don't believe you, or agree with your opinion, or think your feelings are valid because you're not them, because you're YOU.
  • Trad_Barbie
    Trad_Barbie Posts: 166 Member
    I always remember a doctor who I had never seen before went

    'Just forget it, you're way to fat to even bother losing weight, you won't do it without surgery. Let's face it, you're already fat, miserable and going to be a very lonely woman, that I can gurantee'

    Well doc, this first 10kg is for you..... and the last 10kg will be for you too :P

    Good lord, I'd find something weighing 65kg to smack them round the head with it when you've finished.

    Ugh. What a tosser.

    I may just do that :P along with my after pictures :)

    Nab his little reflex testing thing and get creative with it! :D
  • Trad_Barbie
    Trad_Barbie Posts: 166 Member
    \Funny ones: My 5 yr old son told me mom I found some sunglasses I think there yours. I said no those are guy sunglasses I like the bigger, round glasses. He said mom when your face was skinny they would of fit you lol. Best one ever: Mom your so lucky your butt is so big because you never fall in the toilet.... I love my little big mouth kid lol

    But seriously the toilet one! So precious! I love kids and their brutal honestly. I had my older nephew tell my younger one that oreos would "make my butt fat!" when I bit into one (cookies, chocolate, brownies, and devils food cake are my WEAKNESS. Ugh.) I just laughed and shrugged. They're my brothers boys. This is the same brother that "Mooed" at me in a previous post.
    Brothers wife is a professional model. So, I'm usually not surprised when one of them tries to make me feel bad about my weight.
  • Trad_Barbie
    Trad_Barbie Posts: 166 Member
    I used to be 355... and when I started working out, I would get stares from people at the gym.

    Once, when I was doing a core workout, I had a trainer come over and stare at me, arms crossed, hip cocked to one side.

    After watching me for a few minutes, she responded with "Wow, you must have some muscle under there somewhere."

    She then offered to train me. I declined. Hmmm, I wonder why?

    I respect anyone at the Gym!
  • serafinelaveaux
    serafinelaveaux Posts: 45 Member
    Once when I was younger, maybe 13 or so, I was going for a walk on the beach and someone drove by and yelled out "Keep walking, fat *kitten*!"

    I have a theory that this same car of guys just travels the countryside yelling this.

    LOL this made me remember something. About fifteen years ago I lived in an apartment and there were these four guys in the unit just above me. We pretty much never spoke to each other beyond the occasional mumbled "hey" when passing by on the stairwell. Well one day I'm coming home from work, million degrees outside and my car didn't have air conditioning. To make things worse, heat was just boiling off the motor through the floorboards, so I'm just sitting there sweating and wondering how much a/c would cost to install. I come up on a stoplight and am sitting there minding my own business, when I hear "hey fat b$I#(, fat b*(#*& fatty fatty fat bi$(#!" I look over, and it's the jerks from upstairs, and one is leaning out of the window just screaming "hey fat b$*#" over and over. I didn't say a word, just returned my gaze to the bumper in front of me. Light changes and I punch it, hoping to get well away from them before the next light.... turned red. Stuck again, and them right next to me, yelling like a stuck record. Now my temper is starting to rise almost as much as the mercury. Hot car, hot day, crap day at work, and now these jackholes won't STFU. Even worse, we're going to the same place so every stop light there they are, and most of the way home they managed to stay right beside me, except for when I pulled in to park. Then they decided to take off, not coming back until late that night.

    Oddly enough, every tire on their car was flat the next morning when I came out to go to work.
  • kikityme
    kikityme Posts: 472 Member
    I have to say, I never really went through a lot of teasing growing up. I'm from a small tight-knit community, anything said always got back to the parents and that was the end of that.

    My parents were fairly supportive, and then my mom would go shopping.

    She would be so proud of herself as she handed me the elastic waisted 4XL pants. I was a size 14 at the time. We seriously fit me and 4 of my girlfriends into those damned pants!
  • GC527
    GC527 Posts: 272 Member
    Wow, let's see.

    Was it the man in line behind me at Target that told my father it was a shame I was so chubby because I had a beautiful face.
    Or was it the girl in my middle school gym class who constantly made fun of me with remarks about my weight
    Or was it my husband who told me that I looked like the ham-burglar?

    There are a million and one who have made fun of me about my size for one reason or another but those are the ones that really stick out. The look on my fathers face at the store when that man said that broke my heart. He was mad, sad, and didn't know what to say. So he put his hand on my shoulder and just told the man that yes, I was beautiful.

    The girl from middle school is now even bigger than I am and has been divorced 4 times (we are in our mid twenties) so I feel bad for her now I guess.

    And well, my husband says stuff all the time, maybe accidentally or to hurt my feelings... I'm not sure.
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