Very Discouraged and still FAT! ( a Tuesday RANT)
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The only way I get exercise in is if I get up and do them before I start my day. Since that is a sacrifice of sleep I can commit 30 minutes. I chose a 20 minute work out (5 min warm up and 5 min cool down). I use Jillian MIchaels DVD's but there were others. It is truly only 30 minutes since I don't have to leave the house. As a busy mom I find the weekends one of the most difficult times to exercise because I want to sleep in (which is 7:30am, haha) and be lazy in the mornings and once my day gets rolling - very hard to stop and exercise. I usually manage it once and use the other day as a rest day.
That burn makes me feel overall healthier (not while I'm doing it - I actually hate exercise, lol) but in general - which helps with my motivation to calorie count. I really think you'll find your biggest results in weighing and measuring your food though and being extra aware of hidden calories. I can eat 300 calories off my kids' plates (or down the end of their OJ - it is what moms do) when I clear the table or while I'm standing there fixing supper if I don't watch it. I still catch myself especially when I'm going 3 directions at once. Last night the kid didn't want frosting on his cake - I sliced it off and popped it in my mouth without thinking and then I promptly licked the whip cream spoon and THEN did a face palm, lol.
YES THIS^^^^^^^^^ thank you!0 -
Hey, i think what also makes a major difference is what TYPE of food you're eating. It could be 1000 calories but it may something that bloats you. I am with you on the same boat actually - i have been trying for literally, forever now. i try i lose a little and then fall off because i love food.
But one day, a friend said to me "what can you NOT do for 60-90 days?" if you think about it, thats really nothing., Stick to something long enough and you will see results. I was so fed up with myself that I decided to stick to my program! I am now on my third week and feeling good. Not even looking at the scale to be honest.
Remember its 80% what you eat and 20% workout.0 -
1. Buy a food scale
2. Weight and record EVERYTHING
3. Find the time for some kind of exercise everyday...this will be HARD
4. Stop making excuses... GEZZ yet again this will be HARD
now to figure out my true calorie needs, and not necessarily what MFP says either.. I do wear a fitbit. Think I'll start there.
THANK YOU ALL!!!!
Sounds like a good plan to me.
I get where you're coming from. I'm a full time working (desk job) parent with a very busy lifestyle too. Honestly you just have to fit it in. I meal prep on Sunday nights so I just grab my lunch out of the freezer in teh mornings. I keep oats, yoghurt, nuts, protein powder, protein bars etc at work. As for exercise my week looks like this:
Monday - 30min run at lunch. Lifting at night (arms & chest)
Tues - 30min run at lunch, Lifting at night (legs)
Wed - 30min run at lunch
Thurs - 5am gym circuit. Lifting at night (back & abs)
Fri - rest or 30min run at lunch
Sat - 6am bootcamp
Sun - rest0 -
everyone is busy. It's about choices. Being busy does not mean eating unhealthy. You. An just as easily make healthy choices. I'm a busy working mom too, many are. You are making excuses.Yeah you're right. Alot of excuses... busy mom of 3 ,that works a full time desk job. I have TONS of excuses, also tons of reasons to lose the weight. Now to find what actually works and that I can find in between work, kids, soccer practices, household duties and life in general. Like I said earlier busy life.0 -
you don't need to exercise every day. You just need to eat right.1. Buy a food scale
2. Weight and record EVERYTHING
3. Find the time for some kind of exercise everyday...this will be HARD
4. Stop making excuses... GEZZ yet again this will be HARD
now to figure out my true calorie needs, and not necessarily what MFP says either.. I do wear a fitbit. Think I'll start there.
THANK YOU ALL!!!!0 -
Thanks for all the advice from everyone. Yes I've been making poor choices all across the board....excuses, junk and too much food. Time to change that !0
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Yeah you're right. Alot of excuses... busy mom of 3 ,that works a full time desk job. I have TONS of excuses, also tons of reasons to lose the weight. Now to find what actually works and that I can find in between work, kids, soccer practices, household duties and life in general. Like I said earlier busy life.
I'm a busy mom of 3 that works full time as a triage nurse doing back to back 12 hour nights. You have to accept that YOU are the only one accountable for your actions or inaction, not the other busy factors in your life. If you don't want it bad enough, the excuses will keep coming.0 -
Tried to view your diary, and it's closed.
In my *humble* opinion, losing weight has more to do with what you put in your body rather than what you do with your body.
I've lost my weight without doing really any sorts of exercises. So, it can be done.
You have to be really diligent about what you're eating, portion control, making sure you log the condiments, making sure you drink enough water, keeping an eye on sodium intake, making sure you get enough fiber, etc.
I've noticed that when I get really lax about the way I'm logging on my food diary, it shows on the scale. So I go back to "counting down to the condiments"....the mountain of ketchup with the fries, the dipping sauce for the chicken nuggets, the ranch dip for the veggies or for the salad, etc. When I log everything down to the condiments, again, it reflects on the scale, only this time in a more positive way.
A lot of people tend to think that the more they workout, the more calories they burn....and justify going to the gym, then getting a dairy queen blizzard. Fact of the matter is, the blizzard actually has more calories than what you just burned off. There's no way to get around that kind of deficit either. You'd have to work out 24 hours straight to "undo" that kind of damage.
Just be mindful (or "be real") when you log your food, and it'll get better.0 -
I hear a lot of excuses. Fix those, and I bet you start losing weight.
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Also, to the OP -- how much have you lost? I understand if you are frustrated that you are still above a weight that is considered healthy for your height and so on. But patience is key. I have lost 120 lb total but it started back in 2008...that's a long time, but worth it. Some years I lost like 5-7 lb IN A YEAR...progress is still progress.0 -
tell em :drinker:I hear a lot of excuses. Fix those, and I bet you start losing weight.0 -
Well, for me focusing on the health aspects of eating right and exercising helps. Ultimately, though I'm vain and unhappy with my weight/size, I know that I don't want to be stuck riding around i a scooter when I'm 60. I want to be able to climb mountains instead. So it has a dual purpose and at least one of them is working.What do you do when it all fails? When you've been at this weight loss thing for years and yet your still right where you started? No I don't have a thyroid problem,I've had that checked... twice. I constantly stay around 1200-1500 depending on the day and I've tried every variation I can think of. Nothing seems to work. I have a busy life just like everyone else and I've done all kinds of different forms of exercise and yet.... I'm still FAT!
But I also changed up my routine and have started seriously and regularly lifting (working with a trainer to get started and then I'll do it all on my own). I started in February and I've noticed (despite the fact I haven't lost weight and have actually gained) improtant changes in my body. The saddle bags I had in January are gone. I know it's only a matter of time and work before everything else catches up.0 -
I have 4 kids, 2 are home with me all day (under 5 yrs old). I use my elliptical when they are watching cartoons or napping. Or when husband gets home, I pack them all up and go to the park. They play, I walk!! Being busy, we all are. But when you want it that bad.....you make the time!
Youtube vids help when you can't go to a gym and work out DVDs.0 -
Um ...Yeah you're right. Alot of excuses... busy mom of 3 ,that works a full time desk job. I have TONS of excuses, also tons of reasons to lose the weight. Now to find what actually works and that I can find in between work, kids, soccer practices, household duties and life in general. Like I said earlier busy life.
I'm a mom, fiance and friend. I work full time, help a friend with her fuondation that she runs, do freelance work and am writing a novel. I still find time to workout and eat healthy. It really doesn't take that long. You just have to set your priorities and stick to them. If you aren't willing to do that, this isn't that important to you.
Soccer practice? Go for a run while they practice. When my daughter rode horses, that was what I did. She rode, I ran for that hour.0 -
I'm not a parent, but I remember my mom used to have "dance party" time with me and my sister when we were little. She did her aerobics while we danced around, and we had the best time while she got her workout in. Idk if your kids would like it but just a thought!
Also, try drinking a full 8 oz of water before you eat, and start your meals with fruit/vegetables. It might help you get full on the good stuff so you're less likely to eat the other stuff later.
All the best!
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Hello, maybe you could walk while the kids are at practice, that's how I got started. Also, maybe you could walk during your lunch. For example, if you have a 30 minute lunch walk 15 minutes of that. It will help/make a difference. Good luck !Yeah you're right. Alot of excuses... busy mom of 3 ,that works a full time desk job. I have TONS of excuses, also tons of reasons to lose the weight. Now to find what actually works and that I can find in between work, kids, soccer practices, household duties and life in general. Like I said earlier busy life.0 -
Yeah you're right. Alot of excuses... busy mom of 3 ,that works a full time desk job. I have TONS of excuses, also tons of reasons to lose the weight. Now to find what actually works and that I can find in between work, kids, soccer practices, household duties and life in general. Like I said earlier busy life.
I'm also a busy mom of 2 year old twins and work a full time desk job. As you can probably relate, our schedules are pretty strict which leaves tiny windows to get in a work out. I chose to only take a 30 minute lunch because my nanny is already at my house for 10 hours a day while my husband and I work. EVERYDAY, during that short 30 minutes, I go walking no matter what the weather and just eat my lunch at my desk while I work. I have an extra pair of clothes, an umbrella, sunglasses, and so on so that I don't have an excuse not to walk and I walk year round not matter what the weather. Some people at work think I'm crazy but those are the same people who are over weight and can barely walk up a flight of stairs. They are the ones that are looking outside when it's pouring down rain eating whatever dessert someone brought in while I skip out on that and I walk 2 miles a day. That's the only time of the day where I take time for just me. I've never ever regretted going for a walk.
My husband is also very support of me working out and will usually entertain our kids so that I can get in another 30 minutes of working out every day but sometimes that just doesn't happen because he works late. On the days that I'm unable to work out I'm always thankful that at least I got in a good walk during my lunch. Do you have someone who can watch your kids for 30 minutes while you work out or go run? I've tried waking up early to work out but I already get up at 5:30am for work and getting up any earlier just isn't going to happen. It doesn't work for me, I like my sleep too much
Good luck and don't give up!0 -
Thanks for all the advice from everyone. Yes I've been making poor choices all across the board....excuses, junk and too much food. Time to change that !
This is a good response, and I'm glad you've taken our responses well. There's NOTHING wrong with acknowledging that you're making excuses...we've ALL had to wake up and say time to change. I made excuses for a very, very long time...it's in my genes, I'm not meant to be small, working out hurts, I don't like veggies, I'm depressed, etc etc. When I realized the only thing holding me back was my attitude, my body started looking very different.0 -
Yeah you're right. Alot of excuses... busy mom of 3 ,that works a full time desk job. I have TONS of excuses, also tons of reasons to lose the weight. Now to find what actually works and that I can find in between work, kids, soccer practices, household duties and life in general. Like I said earlier busy life.
It is ok to put yourself first sometimes. Really. And a dirty house or eating out once in a while never killed anyone.0 -
You have not tried everything because if you had you would of found what works, so keep trying. I joined mfp back in June 2010 and floundered horribly so. I finally got my mental game together in December right before Christmas and just made a decision to do it. I went back to basics counting my calories by weighing my food and being real honest with every single thing I put in my mouth it got logged in mfp even if it was a single cookie, it got logged. I have been able to lose 35 lbs in 4 months without exercise because I had some medical issues and also needed surgery which I had a week and half ago. So despite all that if I can do this at over 45 years old, you can do it also. Just be brutal with yourself when it comes to logging and get a heart rate monitor for your workouts to be near logging the right burn or give yourself low estimates if you use mfps numbers. You can do it. Just see the small increments on the scale adding up to big health benefits in the future. That's my motivation now.0
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Most likely, you are eating more than you think you are and/or not burning as much as you think when you do work out. I would start with a food scale, then go from there.0
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Walk around the soccer field when your kids are practicing. Get up away from your desk. Take the long route around the office. Take the stairs.0
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