Motivating my husband

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  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    I've been trying to motivate my husband to go to the gym with or to,do some other form of exercise to stay healthy, but he keeps making excuses. He isn't overweight, just not in the best shape.

    Today my daughter joked that I look buffer than him when we were alll working outside while he went into the house to get some drinks.

    Any idea how I can make him change to suit my needs?

    Pixie

    FIFY
  • Pixie1076
    Pixie1076 Posts: 20
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?
  • Walters2487
    Walters2487 Posts: 2 Member
    Have to agree with your husband. Working out is over-rated. Most americans just eat too much; and spend most of their day sitting at their desk or on their couch. Thats why have to exercise so much. And its not working for most americans.

    Here's the secret: appetite control; avoid sitting too much; walk or take your bike for errands, eat lots of fruits and vegetables; avoid junk food; get sufficient sleep.
  • PJPrimrose
    PJPrimrose Posts: 916 Member
    Mine had to twist my arm to get me to help him. I have always exercised and been in fairly decent shape. I made him swear he wouldn't get ticked at my advice about 50 times before I agreed. People are sensitive about this subject and I didn't want it to lead to marital problems! He's going really slow and I'm so OK with that! I would really think a long time before pushing this issue.
  • Pixie1076
    Pixie1076 Posts: 20
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.
  • PennyVonDread
    PennyVonDread Posts: 432 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.
  • Pixie1076
    Pixie1076 Posts: 20
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?
  • Pixie1076
    Pixie1076 Posts: 20
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Glorious.

    Now let's revisit part of my original post in this thread:
    (Now for bonus points, everyone reread OP but reverse the genders...and then imagine how the responses would have differed. Hint: poor guy would have been absolutely crucified.)
  • PennyVonDread
    PennyVonDread Posts: 432 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Glorious.

    Now let's revisit part of my original post in this thread:
    (Now for bonus points, everyone reread OP but reverse the genders...and then imagine how the responses would have differed. Hint: poor guy would have been absolutely crucified.)

    This is beautiful. This is art. hahaha
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    Don't push him. That will just lead to resentment. He has to want this and until then you just have to keep doing what you do for yourself and no one else.

    It just feels weird that I may be physically stronger than my husband.

    Sometimes I pick up my husband and carry him to bed. He seems to like it and I like getting the chance to show off my hard work.


    So. yeah. If he doesn't see it as a problem then maybe it's time for you to work on your perception.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Wait, wut?


    Ignore my advice. Keep doing what you're doing.













    In the meantime I'm starting a fund to save the OP's husband. Donations can be sent to my paypal.
  • Pixie1076
    Pixie1076 Posts: 20
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Wait, wut?


    Ignore my advice. Keep doing what you're doing.













    In the meantime I'm starting a fund to save the OP's husband. Donations can be sent to my paypal.

    Lol. It sounds worse when I said it than it was.
  • Pixie1076
    Pixie1076 Posts: 20
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Wait, wut?


    Ignore my advice. Keep doing what you're doing.













    In the meantime I'm starting a fund to save the OP's husband. Donations can be sent to my paypal.

    Lol. It sounds worse when I said it than it was. Nobody got hurt.
  • ihad
    ihad Posts: 7,463 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Glorious.

    Now let's revisit part of my original post in this thread:
    (Now for bonus points, everyone reread OP but reverse the genders...and then imagine how the responses would have differed. Hint: poor guy would have been absolutely crucified.)

    I salute you sir.
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    Don't push him. That will just lead to resentment. He has to want this and until then you just have to keep doing what you do for yourself and no one else.

    It just feels weird that I may be physically stronger than my husband.

    Sometimes I pick up my husband and carry him to bed. He seems to like it and I like getting the chance to show off my hard work.


    So. yeah. If he doesn't see it as a problem then maybe it's time for you to work on your perception.
    Couldn't have said it better myself.
  • Fullsterkur_woman
    Fullsterkur_woman Posts: 2,712 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Wait, wut?


    Ignore my advice. Keep doing what you're doing.













    In the meantime I'm starting a fund to save the OP's husband. Donations can be sent to my paypal.

    Lol. It sounds worse when I said it than it was. Nobody got hurt.
    Oh. Well then, it's all ok then.

    :huh: :noway:
  • Pixie1076
    Pixie1076 Posts: 20
    Don't push him. That will just lead to resentment. He has to want this and until then you just have to keep doing what you do for yourself and no one else.

    It just feels weird that I may be physically stronger than my husband.

    Sometimes I pick up my husband and carry him to bed. He seems to like it and I like getting the chance to show off my hard work.


    So. yeah. If he doesn't see it as a problem then maybe it's time for you to work on your perception.

    Neither of us realized it until today. It's something new to us and we need to adjust to it. He doesn't seem to mind though.
  • jayliospecky
    jayliospecky Posts: 25,022 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Wait, wut?


    Ignore my advice. Keep doing what you're doing.













    In the meantime I'm starting a fund to save the OP's husband. Donations can be sent to my paypal.

    Lol. It sounds worse when I said it than it was.

    Oh really? Let's ask your husband if he agrees, shall we?

    *looks around*

    Oh, right.
  • Fullsterkur_woman
    Fullsterkur_woman Posts: 2,712 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Glorious.

    Now let's revisit part of my original post in this thread:
    (Now for bonus points, everyone reread OP but reverse the genders...and then imagine how the responses would have differed. Hint: poor guy would have been absolutely crucified.)
    Holy mother of Atheismo, Batman!
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Wait, wut?


    Ignore my advice. Keep doing what you're doing.













    In the meantime I'm starting a fund to save the OP's husband. Donations can be sent to my paypal.

    Lol. It sounds worse when I said it than it was. Nobody got hurt.

    Sure.


    If the OP's husband is somehow out there, observing this: 1-800-799-7233

    Seriously. I'm not joking. Women who lose control during 'playful' activity and back their SO into a corner? Not normal.
  • Fullsterkur_woman
    Fullsterkur_woman Posts: 2,712 Member
    Don't push him. That will just lead to resentment. He has to want this and until then you just have to keep doing what you do for yourself and no one else.

    It just feels weird that I may be physically stronger than my husband.

    Sometimes I pick up my husband and carry him to bed. He seems to like it and I like getting the chance to show off my hard work.


    So. yeah. If he doesn't see it as a problem then maybe it's time for you to work on your perception.

    Neither of us realized it until today. It's something new to us and we need to adjust to it. He doesn't seem to mind though.
    You really need to realize that this is so not the issue here. At all.
  • Pixie1076
    Pixie1076 Posts: 20
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Wait, wut?


    Ignore my advice. Keep doing what you're doing.













    In the meantime I'm starting a fund to save the OP's husband. Donations can be sent to my paypal.

    Lol. It sounds worse when I said it than it was.

    Oh really? Let's ask your husband if he agrees, shall we?

    *looks around*

    Oh, right.

    He is fine. He said he didn't know what to expect and that I caught him off guard.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    Don't push him. That will just lead to resentment. He has to want this and until then you just have to keep doing what you do for yourself and no one else.

    It just feels weird that I may be physically stronger than my husband.

    Sometimes I pick up my husband and carry him to bed. He seems to like it and I like getting the chance to show off my hard work.


    So. yeah. If he doesn't see it as a problem then maybe it's time for you to work on your perception.

    Neither of us realized it until today. It's something new to us and we need to adjust to it. He doesn't seem to mind though.
    You really need to realize that this is so not the issue here. At all.

    Seriously. I'm just trying to picture a post with the reverse story from a woman.

    I'm not really into working out. I'm not overweight or even unhealthy but my husband things I should be stronger. He recently revealed he's been taking kickboxing classes for a while; I knew he went to the gym but I didn't know he was into kickboxing. He wanted to show me what it was all about and it was fun at first but he kind lost control and hit me and punched me and in the end he had me backed into a corner. What should I do to be more motivated?


    And then MFP explodes into an outraged frenzy.
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Wait, wut?


    Ignore my advice. Keep doing what you're doing.













    In the meantime I'm starting a fund to save the OP's husband. Donations can be sent to my paypal.

    Lol. It sounds worse when I said it than it was.

    Oh really? Let's ask your husband if he agrees, shall we?

    *looks around*

    Oh, right.

    He is fine. He said he didn't know what to expect and that I caught him off guard.

    did you take his lunch money too?
  • Fullsterkur_woman
    Fullsterkur_woman Posts: 2,712 Member
    We talked about what I enjoy at the gym as well. He seemed to be surprised that I have been doing kickboxing for a while and wants me to show him what I learn there.

    That didn't go well. It was all playful. He was very interested at first but then acted intimidated. :(

    I'm more shocked that you've been kickboxing for a while and your husband just now learned about it tonight. Do you two not talk about your day?

    He knows that I go,to the gym a few times a week and when i go, but doesn't have much interest in talking about what I do here. Of course we talk, but not about my gym activities. That's what my girl friends are for.

    Then it sounds like he's really not into gym life. It's not his thing. He doesn't like it, he doesn't care. He's glad you like it, he's not sabotaging you. Just leave him be, it's not for everyone.

    Exactly. I never felt like he is sabotaging me. He has always supported me in doing what I enjoy and he knows I enjoy the gym. He just isn't interested in it.

    I should probably apologize for getting carried away when I showed him the kickboxing. Not sure what got into me.

    Did you kick or punch him?

    More or less. It was all fun and game and nobody got hurt or hit very hard. I took it easy at first but then got carried away and stopped moving slow and he ended up backing into a corner.

    Wait, wut?


    Ignore my advice. Keep doing what you're doing.













    In the meantime I'm starting a fund to save the OP's husband. Donations can be sent to my paypal.

    Lol. It sounds worse when I said it than it was.

    Oh really? Let's ask your husband if he agrees, shall we?

    *looks around*

    Oh, right.

    He is fine. He said he didn't know what to expect and that I caught him off guard.
    Said every battered husband.
  • 120by30
    120by30 Posts: 217 Member
    You have said that he is not overweight and has no interest in working out. What is there to motivate? Leave the guy alone.
  • MuseofSong
    MuseofSong Posts: 322 Member
    Seriously Pixie, you're being a total jerk to your husband. Back off. If you want to be the man in the marriage, have a nice time, but don't try to make him your b-word just because you can physically beat him up.

    If you are this unhappy, get divorced and marry a jock.

    If I was interested in my spouse's kickboxing and asked him to show me a few of his moves, but then he came at me so fast I had to back away and got cornered by him, I'd be freaking pissed at him for scaring me and physically dominating me. You're hurting him, whether he says it or not (and he probably knows better than to share feelings with you by now because you're mean), and you're being selfish and cruel.

    I'm embarrassed and sad for you. I'm embarrassed that you think any part of your behavior towards your spouse was a good idea, that you encourage your daughter to 'out man' her dad, and sad that you actually do these things and then brag about it on a forum.

    You might need some counseling to find out what's really going on in your head that you are displacing your sense of dissatisfaction onto your husband. Maybe you're just looking for an excuse to have an affair. And then you can admit how you're ashamed of that too, but at least then there's grounds for getting that divorce rolling along.
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