How do I respond to my husband?

He probably won't even notice much difference when another 10 pounds comes off. I don't think a lot of men have a strong concept of what different weights look like on different women. Hell, i don't think a lot of WOMEN have a good concept of that.

Just keep doing what you're doing.

Exactly what did he say that made you think "sabotage?"

It sounds like to me that the man simply gave you a compliment. Let's not go over-analyzing things.

Ah the voice of reason, apparently any act has become an act of sabotage according to a large proportion of threads...

Offering somebody food, complimenting someone's current physique, inviting someone to a restaurant that isn't subway, providing food at social events that hasn't been meticulously weighed and portioned out, eating around your significant other, the presence of birthday cake at a birthday (OMG), public holidays, advertising etc etc

Sabotage used to have a different meaning but now it seems to be the replacement for lack of willpower, a scapegoat for lack of self-control.

Part of developing good eating habits is learning how to control yourself in real world situations, as you are not vacuum sealed in an underground bunker away from the rest of humanity...well I hope you aren't.

Yes we are influenced by the people that surround us and our environment but I would like to think people are committing to more than just strengthening their physical being but also their mental fortitude.

Let me start by saying that my husband is VERY supportive. He saw me lose about 40 lbs before, gain it all back and then some, and this time around he's my number one cheerleader. However, last night he said something to me that made me take a pause:

"I don't want you to get down to 140 because I'm afraid you won't have any curves. If you lost 10 more pounds, I'd be fine with that."

My goal weight is 140. I am currently 178 and I'm 5'4". I am by no means happy with myself yet. I reassured him that, based on my other family members, I will always be thick in the thigh and booty department, even if I am 140 lbs. I also told him that this is not about him, it's about me. I want to have a fit physique, not a skinny one.

What do I say to him that will keep him from sabotaging my weight loss?

Ask him if he thinks Marilyn Monroe didn't have curves. She was 5'5" and her weight fluctuated between 118 and 140 pounds, give or take.

My fiance is the same. It's funny because I was pretty thin when we met and gained some weight after and as I was losing it, he was upset because he likes my body shape and thought being thinner would mean no curves. Well, I'm an hourglass (same dimensions as MM, actually, only shorter and fatter. lol), so no matter what I weigh I will ALWAYS have curves -- boobs and hips and a relatively tiny waist.

Just say "sure honey" and do what you want anyway.

exactly

Tell him no SEX until your reach your goal weight!! He'll change his tune! LOL:smooched:

LOL!!!! Great response ^^^^

I am 132 right now and 5'4 and there are still PLENTY of curves and junk in the trunk...

I had a former BF like that. I think you need to feel good about you. And when you feel good, they will too. They just don't know it yet .

Tell him you can discuss your final goal as you get closer. I'm ~15 pounds from (perhaps) my goal and won't know what I think of it until I get there...

I am sure your weight, whatever it is or will be, is not so important that it would ever be a deal breaker. People say things sometimes about our weight or looks that causes us to derail or limit our success or change our course of action. Be aware of that and don't let what your husband says derail you. If you would be happy and healthy at 130, I don't see why he wouldn't he happy with you at that weight. Body types can get bigger or smaller but the shape doesn't change all that much.

As a man who loves curves, I would heed the advice of not telling him your weight. Keep doing it, and doing it right and you should have plenty of curves for him.