Question for the single ladies of MFP

Sorry Im not single, but with my husband non of those mattered I knew he was a hard worker who was just a little down on finding a job, that was 7 years ago we are married 5 with two beautiful kids and happy to say he has been working in the lab at a hospital for over 5 years now.

Nope, but i met him at work, i was a bartender and he was taking over my shift, i also saw him take any jon(Mainly condtruction and painting) until he found something more stable.

I'm not single nor a "lady", but I don't like that this is only for single ladies because rules are stooopid.


I don't think I would ever ask these questions. It seems offensive to ask something that everyone should already have. I think they would reveal themselves quickly if they didn't have any of these things, but I could be wrong.

Whew, I'm glad I'm married and don't have to deal with this crap. Oh, and he has a car, job and a place to live. He just doesn't know how to use our washing machine yet. I should have asked that question.

You are terrible with rules.

Whatever, you love it.

Single lady here! I don't ask those questions point blank. However, during the early conversation, I do manage to find out what type of work he does and in what general area of the city he lives. I never ask about his car. I always ask if he's married though, because anything other than single *is* an instant deal breaker!

I am not single yet but will be as soon as my divorce is final.....the first thing I would ask is "WHAT IS YOUR CREDIT SCORE" I really just need a manfax (ya know instead of a carfax)

Just curious, when dating, how many of you need to ask your potential suitor if they have a job/car/place to live?

Are any of those a deal breaker?

I am not single, but if for some reason my boyfriend and I broke it off, I think I would ask now. We've been together 5 years, and he actually didn't have a job at the time. He lived in his parents house, and his dad had bought him a hooptie to get him to the store and back. 5 years later, he has a job, bought a new car and give me half the rent money, so... yeay? Lolz.

But, I'm 32 now, and I don't think if I went back in the dating world again, I'd be so romantic about it? IDK if romantic would be the right word. I think now, at 32, it'd be more of a business transaction. You pay half the bills, and do the man-fixing stuff around the house and I'll pay the other half and take care of the pets/kids. Deal? Let's bang.

I'm not single nor a "lady", but I don't like that this is only for single ladies because rules are stooopid.


I don't think I would ever ask these questions. It seems offensive to ask something that everyone should already have. I think they would reveal themselves quickly if they didn't have any of these things, but I could be wrong.

Whew, I'm glad I'm married and don't have to deal with this crap. Oh, and he has a car, job and a place to live. He just doesn't know how to use our washing machine yet. I should have asked that question.

In his defence it is women's work. Do you expect him to learn to cook too?

Yes, he at least needs to know how to make me a sammich. I mean 19 years with no sammich. How long do I allow this nonsense to continue? I'm gonna starve in my dirty clothes and no sammich in my tummy.

I wouldn't immediately turn him away. I live with my parents while I'm finishing college, so it would be a double standard for me not to date someone who was in the same position or down on luck at the moment. However, if after a few months of dating I could clearly see that he was in that position just because he has no drive to succeed in life, I'd be going my separate way.