10 Things YOU Hate About Being Overweight
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1) hating being on top, self conscience about all positions
2) feeling uncomfortable
3) bad example for my kids
4) tired
5) depressed
6) unhealthy0 -
For one hunny, if you're doing it with someone that makes you feel self conscious about yourself, there's a problem. To all of the ladies out there that are self conscious about that part of their life, DONT BE. Just please stop it. If your man loves you and actually wants to love you don't let something so foolish hold you back.0
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Hon, I just want to hug you.
Don't be self conscious about it. It is best to lose the weight for your health, rather than doing so because you want to look good. Although, the latter isn't bad for some people (confidence does come for some), it's still risky ground. I'm not overweight anymore, but I will make a list of the things I hated when I was.
1) Clothes shopping was so hard. Most stores in the mall didn't carry my size (I was about a size 20 because of my wide hips). I spent hours in hot topic once, trying to find my size. Ended up leaving with just a shirt and a bracelet.
2) My thighs get big when I gain weight. I used to hate wearing shorts or skirts because they'd rub together and get sore.
3) My boobs got so big that when I would sweat, they'd get sore, too. (Baby powder helped, but not much)
4) I hated not being able to walk far without running out of breath.
5) Using the stairs made me run out of breath, too.
6) I would sweat all the time. I'd have to apply deodorant several times a day.
7) My knees started to hurt. It sucked having joint problems at 19.
8) I hated having no energy.
And those are all I can think of.
I'll be honest. Some of these replies concern me. It is good to want to be healthier, but having low self esteem - no matter how much you weigh - is not fun. I'd encourage all of you to find a way to work on that, too.0 -
1. I haven't worn shorts in 13 years, summer therefore sucks.
2. Bathing suits....NO. I refuse to go swimming.
3. Shopping, jeans in particular make me cry
4. Cottage cheese thighs and butt
5. I won't go to certain places because I feel like I look too ridiculous
6. Pictures......selfies are fine but when other people take them...nooo.
7. too self conscious for sexy time
8. have to move the foopa when you drop something in your lap
9. Can't wear knee high shoes
10. feeling like there's always eyes on you judging you
I'm getting better about some of these, I just can't wait to see what's under all this flub!0 -
I hate clothes shopping, be scared that I will have to buy the next size up.
Also, I find it uncomfortable to sleep sometimes in certain positions, it feels like my rolls are rubbing together.0 -
Forget ten things, there is only one thing that every fat guy hates and it is the biggest killer of confidence and self-esteem.
Ahem....
Man Boobs.
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:grumble: all of the above!0
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1. Other girls laugh at me because they weigh 47-50 kg but are taller than me
2. People assume I'm single because no one is attracted0 -
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I only have two reasons.
1. I never thought I would get Diabetes, but here it is.
2. My nephews are the lights of my life, and I don't have one single photograph with us together. I will only accept photographs that consist of head shots. I want a photo of us *playing* and doing all the things that make them remember me. A little selfish I know.0 -
Love this one....
Hate that I still have a fat roll on my sides although better
Hate looking in the mirror
Hate clothes shopping.
Hate how I dislike myself0 -
Wow!! I'm a 100% sure that most of you need to start focusing on the positives! All this negativity isn't helpful for anybody! Chin up everybody and try to come up with a list of 10 things you can change!
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1. Terrified of summer cookouts because I'm afraid my hips won't fit in the lawn chairs.
2. When dining out I feel like everyone is staring, thinking " she know she doesn't need that".
3. Being naked in front of my boyfriend.
4. Low self esteem.
5. Lack of self control.
6. Trying on clothes can be really depressing.
7. Buying clothes with stretch material.
8. Terrified of amusement park rides.
The good thing is I'm more determined than ever to get the weight off this year.....We'll add progression pics as time goes on...Happy losing or maintaining everyone!!!!0 -
I am still overweight and probably always will be, technically speaking, as my goal is 170 (I am at 186 now).
But having been 307 at one point and 240+ for about 20 years...a lot of this stuff named below has gone away or very drastically improved :-) OP, it takes time - less time with the advantage of MFP as a tool -but it can be done!!
1) spilling food/drink on my chest every time I ate
2) uncomfortably fitting into office chairs, bath tubs, booths, airline and movie theater seats
3) being very nervous around little kids and very old people because they often fail to censor their "wow you're fat!" comments
4) thigh chafing
5) having to pay more for a stepstool or ladder to get a higher than average weight limit
6) feeling awkward if I went shopping with smaller friends/family members and I always had to go to a different section, sometimes even a different store
7) terribly swollen ankles on random days in the spring/summer, and never knowing when it would happen so I had to strategically plan my wardrobe to avoid capris etc.
8) avoiding theme parks because I was afraid of not fitting on rides
9) cutting tags out of my clothes because I didn't want to see the biggest available sizes on the labels.
10) overcompensating for my size by being a super people-pleaser0 -
10 things I hate about being overweight...
1. Being afraid to eat in front of new people, in fear they'd judge me. "Oh she's eating AGAIN/THAT?! No wonder she's fat!" >_<
2. My knee problems. They will still be there after I lose weight, but after it's lost and getting surgery it'll be significantly less. Maybe I'll even be able to dance again....
3. Clothes. Trying to find something that looks decent and fits is beyond a chore. Some of my clothes are 5+ years old due to this. (Try being a college student wearing clothes you did as a freshman in high school! Yikes!)
4. Rides, and things with a weight limit in general. I'm always so afraid they'll tell me I can't go on because of my weight.
5. Shaving. I've got to contort myself in so many different ways and even then I still miss spots.
6. Feeling like every weight comment is aimed at me. A kid will be doing a presentation about obesity/eating disorders/needing to be more active and I feel like they wrote it to take a jab at me.
7. Taking pictures. I've gotta take like 20 of them before I'm at least semi-happy with it. Never mind when OTHER people are taking the pictures. ohy vey. untag! untag!!
8. The rants. The long hour-long rants my doctor gives me every time I see her (no joke). I've actually stopped going to the doctor because of this.
9. Sex. It's so awkward and uncomfortable. Fat jiggling, can't get comfortable, out of breath, squishing. I've almost stopped having it altogether which only results in endless fights with the boyfriend....
10. The job market. Because as sad as it is, people who are overweight/less attractive have less of a chance of being hired. Most people won't take you seriously just because you're overweight.
(bonus!) 11. Desks. Trying to fit into the desks that have the attached chairs in school (almost all of them!). I can never get comfortable.0 -
1.experiencing fat shaming on a daily basis
2.not feeling beautiful ever (but even when I am smaller I never do anyway soo )
3.shopping
4.pictures
5.double chin my face just cannot handle a double chin
6.even more depression...still depressed no matter how small I get though lets be honest
7.not feeling like myself is the biggest one0 -
Zero self esteem, and I mean zero. I know that means I've bought into society's 'be thin or be worthless' body image messages. I know that makes me brainwashed and stupid, but it doesn't matter. I can't shake it. Even though I admire other people who haven't bought into it, even though I encourage others not to buy into it, I have bought into it.
That said, if I knew gaining weight to say, a size 16, but never bigger than that, would be healthy and would be easy and dieting-free and that's where it would stop, I believe I could shake society's messages and be that size and free up all this energy for something more constructive. But I know the weight gain won't stop at size 16. I know I'll just keep on gaining until I actually make an effort to cut calories. So maybe even more than I hate the self-esteem issue, I hate the fact that I have yet to reach a point where I can eat what I want and not gain weight. As far as I know, there is no ceiling, and I could eat my way fairly quickly into a bed-bound state if I let myself.0 -
1. I used to be in decent shape, so seeing old friends or visiting relatives is really uncomfortable and awkward. I can't have a single visit to my parents without my weight being discussed. They're always suggesting new diets fads/pills or saying,"Oh, I can tell you're getting smaller!"
2. I feel offensively massive, as though I need to apologize when I'm around people. I hate going out because I feel as though I'm in the way or an eye sore.
3. Fitting rooms make me cry. No,seriously, I come out with red teary eyes, an arm load of jeans that wouldn't fit above my knees, and loss of hope. haha
4. Random strangers offer me weight loss advice
5. Random strangers touch my belly and ask me if I'm having a boy or girl, when I'm due, how far along, is it my first, et cetera. This has happened more often than I can care to count. One woman was mortified whenever I told her I wasn't pregnant and attempted to cover by saying, "Well, baby weight is hard to lose." Guess what...I have zero children.
6. I have so many cute clothes that I could wear 2 years ago,now my size had doubled. WTH!? How is that possible!?
7. Health problems. I have arthritis( hips, back,and neck), diabetes,and hypothyroidism. My physician decided that they're not severe enough to absolutely require medication,and I should combat them on my own with a regulated diet and daily exercise. So...freakin...difficult.
8. Vanity. I never look good because I have no idea how to dress around my weight. I've always been a plaid pants and band shirts kind of girl,but nothing I like fits me anymore. I just wear tshirts and jeans everyday. I feel like I look like a slob, which makes me feel hopeless and lazy. Vicious cycle.
9. Sweaty....geez everything makes me sweaty. It's so embarrassing.
10. My siblings and friends that are a size 4,but always complain about their bodies. Don't send me a photo of you trying on a bikini saying, "ZOMG, I'm soooo freakin fat!" I will not shower you with assurances....my clothes are 4 times bigger than yours.
Ah....venting made me feel a little better. 0 -
10 THINGS I HATE ABOUT BEING OVERWEIGHT
1. Not lasting long enough on top, my legs are heavy (yes just like you)
2. Not feeling attractive or sexy to my boyfriend....seems like the compliments have stopped as well
3. I don't enjoy dressing up because I don't feel confident
4. My stomach sticks out, makes me look 7 months preggers
5. You can't see my hourglass anymore
6. Back fat
7. Love handles
8. cellulite on my legs and butt
9. Seems like I'm retaining a lot of water
10. Having to lose the weight.0 -
Not being able to live a normal life because I was always huffing and puffing everywhere I went.0
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1. Seeing my double chin in the mirror or photos.
2. Seeing my gut in the mirror or photos; I feel like i am still 18 and thin when I don't see myself. my mental picture of myself does not match reality.
3. Squeezing into trousers.
4. Unable to button shirt collars.
5. Refusing to buy clothes that fit because it means I accept my obesity.
6. Craving crap food, and eating it knowing I am committing suicide on the installment plan.
7. Seeing and hearing the opinions of others expressing their disappointment that I have not taken better care of myself.
8. Understanding that being overweight for so long means I have little to no self esteem or self-preservation instinct.
9. Using a CPAP to treat the symptoms of apnea; most likely caused by obesity.
10. My wife will not have sex with me because she finds me unattractive. This pisses me off because it means her affections are conditional.
Here's what I like about being overwieght: I can stay this way by not having to make an effort to change my lifestyle or anything.0 -
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1) i didnt have cute pregnancies. i was a fat whale. i just wanted to feel beautiful.
2) sex. i hate the jiggle.
3)nothing fitting
4)shopping sucks. IF they carry my size, nothing is cute.
5) i feel ugly.
6) i hate going out into public.
7) i have no friends. because ive closed myself off- not because people judge me. but its just my own insecurities.
8) i have a very short attention span so staying focused to lose the weight has been hell.
9) health problems that run in my family. im terrified that ill get them because they can be weight related.
10) the guilt i feel when im at the store. i feel like everyone is judging whats in my buggy.0 -
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PERFECT! Well stated.0 -
10 things I HATE about being overweight:
1. Almost everything that everyone said; I can relate to them all!
2. That I don't have enough pictures with my kids or my grandson's
3. I don't feel worthy of being with my very fit hubby (even though he loves me for me no matter what size I am)
4. Pain everywhere!
5. No matter what I do; I cannot lose the weight
6. Shopping for clothes, it just makes me cry
7. Being judged for what my body looks like & not for who I am as a person
8. Not being able to have that sexy nightie for my hubby (although he would love me it anyhow I feel uncomfortable wearing such a thing)
9. Not being able to enjoy the summer; swimming, shorts, parties, BBQ's, that summer dress
10. Other people saying "I'm getting as big as you, I better go on a diet"0 -
There are lots of things I hate about it. Worrying about airplane seats (although my most recent flight was just fine, it really depends on the airline and plane), and my feet hurting all the damn time are the two worst things.0
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1. Not being able to shop in normal stores.
2. Being afraid of not fitting on rides at amusement parks with my kids.
3. Not being able to wear sleeveless tops in the summer.
4. Not having enough energy to play a full game of tennis with my daughter.
5. Feeling out of control around food.
6. Having nothing to wear in my own closet.
7. Bathing suit season.
8. Being self-conscience ordering anything unhealthy in a restaurant - as if I'm not entitled to an indulgence because I'm fat.
9. Being the less attractive spouse in the marriage :-/
10. Being uncomfortable in my own skin.0 -
The 10 things I hate about being fat
10. Feeling like if I wore shorts and a tank top and happened into walmart, I MAY end up on the "peopleofwalmart.com"
9. Sweating for no apparent reason/having sensitivity to any heat
8. Tiring out so quickly, not keeping up with the kids
7. Always feeling tired..and in constant need of naps
6. Feeling too lazy and fat to take the steps to change
5. Feeling judged for enjoying an ice cream cone w/ my son
4. The fact that I haven't rode a roller coaster in over 7 years, out of fear that the harness won't click down
3. Hating the limited (an old person looking) clothing that fits me appropriately
2. Dreading taking photos w/ family (especially with kiddos....they are only little once)
1. SEXY (feeling sexy, looking sexy, dressing sex, sex with the lights on,...you get the idea)
I am bringing Sexy back!! Next year I'm taking the Family to the closest amusement park, for lots of rollercoasters and
lots of pics!0 -
1. Hurting so badly I can hardly get out of bed some days (I have fibromyalgia and osteoarthritis so weight makes it worse)
2. Being fatigued as hell. (it interferes with enjoying about anything)
3. Having a hard time breathing when I exercise or even just at all. (this sh** is ridiculous)
4. Not fitting into any of my nice clothes...(what a waste of money that seems to be when they fit me 2 years ago)
5. Looking good in a sundress until I look at my fat arms...-_- bingo wings...
6. Having a muffin top when I wear jeans...this one I really hate.
7. Having stretch marks...(Yeah I gained about 90 lbs really quickly after having a surgery so this happened and I've never had a baby...)
That's all I've got.0 -
I can relate to just about every one of these (ok, maybe except the man boobs)
1. Diabetes that the way I was going, shouldn't have been a surprise
2. Sleep apnea/snoring so loud that I swear is going to drive hubby into the guest room one of these nights (and oh, yeah, the part about worrying that I might not wake up one morning.)
3. My family recently acquired a couple of jet skis. I am tired of sitting on the pier pretending I'm not interested in taking one for a spin as my brothers and sister have a blast zipping merrily around out on the water. (Not because I'm going to sink them, they can hold me just fine, but if I wipe out in deep water I do not have the strength to right myself and climb back on.)
4. My sister has a canoe, she insisted we go out in it and I spent the whole time frantically trying to balance it and not let my weight tip us over. That also meant staying embarrassingly close to shore.
5. Life jackets. Ain't happenin. So kind of a problem even if the jet skis and canoe were doable.
6. Clothes shopping in general but especially when it's for a special occasion, like when I need a dress for a wedding or graduation, etc. (in that boat right now.)
7. When I'm going out and I do my hair and makeup and look in the mirror and think it's not too bad and I at least look cute from the neck up... then I catch a glance of myself in the bar mirror or someone snaps a pic and I'm horrified to see a huge moon face and my eyes all squished up in my fat cheeks because I tried to smile and appear I was ok with having the pic taken.
8. I own a '79 Super beetle convertible. I don't know if you are familiar with the seat belts in those things, but all I will say is that I have to sit so close to the steering wheel (I'm short) that my only option is to wrestle the lap belt across my belly and I have to put the shoulder strap behind my back, to avoid being strangled because it is just too tight. (And I then have to pray I don't get pulled over and ticketed for it.)
9. Spraining and re-spraining my ankles just from walking around on all of this weight.
10. Food spots on all of my shirts because it all hits my chest and belly if I spill.0
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