What if I don't really care?

Why are you here, then? :huh:

IF someone was really happy with the way they are, they wouldn't bother with weight loss or change their eating. If someone is attempting it, then somewhere in them, there's a desire to change in some manner.
The problem that most people have is they have been misinformed about "good" and "bad" food, "healthy" and "unhealthy" food.
Food basically is just fuel for energy and rebuilding. Some food is calorie dense, while others aren't. Some food is nutrient dense and some aren't.
The struggle with everyone who's overweight is learning how to balance the foods they like to eat that are high calorie and low nutrient with ones that are lower in calories and higher in nutrients.


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Why are you here, then? :huh:

She's trying to figure it out. Sometimes getting it out and rereading it makes it easier to do that. That's what this forum is for, support.

Hey all!
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?

I was most of my adult life between 46 and just under 50 kilos (101-110 pounds ). Both were a little bit on the high normal range for my height. I did not care, because I was in excellent shape. I still was in excellent shape in my 40's and early 50's, because of my job and because I was a very serious weight lifter. Then came menopause, health problems, more serious health problems, cancer and after cancer recovery I was all of a sudden 135 pounds, because among other things I had to stop serious exercise.. I did not care, because I was alive !
My health problems turned chronic and I took ( and still take ) mega doses of cortisone. I gained more weight, I did not care, because after all, things could be worse. For emotional reasons I started self pity eating and still gained more weight......and all of a sudden I did care, because 80 extra pounds made a difference and made life difficult for my joints, heart, lungs.......and now I have to make a real effort each and every day to lose weight. I have lost 50 pounds in the last year and have to lose another 50 pounds to even get to those 135 when I really did not care.
I am convinced that if I had cared enough to lose those first 10-20 pounds I would not be where I am today as far as my battle with weight is concerned. But that is just me.....your mileage probably varies.
Good Luck !

As long as you have a healthy bmi, I say good for you. It's really Madison Avenue that says you should be a size 2 and look a certain way. All that matters is that you are healthy and happy with yourself. You don't need to live up to anyone's preconceived notion of who you should be on any level. Be your own person and have no regrets.

You don't care and you're happy where you are.

OR

You can't be bothered and don't feel like making the effort anymore.

I don't mean to sound harsh, OP. In my case every time I told myself I was happy with my weight I was saying I don't want to do this anymore, I don't feel like it. A few weeks later I'll catch somebody at my old size or the size I want to be and it will make me realise, no I don't WANT this body. I'm settling for this body. I want THAT body.

Hey all!
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?

I don't think a size 2 is healthy or attractive!!

I can totally relate... during my weightloss journey I lost 20 kgs, started exercising, and gained a lot of strenght I never had. I can't lift heavy, I can't run lots of miles without stopping... but I've still improved a lot. I can walk, I feel less tired, I can easily find my clothing size in shops, and I am overall not disappointed in how I look. I started losing weight because I couldn't stand it anymore and I didn't like myself. Losing weight improved my health but also had the side effect of improving my confidence. I am not perfect now, I'm not at the ideal weight for my height... but I don't care! I've been in manteinance recently and I'm now back on track to get rid of a few kgs gained during the holidays. It's a life-long process so I know I'll always be changing and improving, but I have reached my own "goals" and even if they're different from other people's goals, I'm happy. I'm quite healthy and still working on it. No need to get thinner just for the sake of it, I love being a chubby girl.

I felt a little deja vu reading your post! For many many many years I was in the healthy BMI range - right at the top, but still in the range - and I was a liitle bit annoyed about my weight, but not enough to motivate me to do anything.

It was only when I put on another stone and realised that I was technically "overweight" that I suddenly thought: FFS, you need to sort this out now.

I started MFP and it worked, and it was easy. So when I got back into the "normal" BMI I kept going and now I'm in the middle of that healthy range.

(before anyone says "Rahh RAHH BMI" - I know it's a tool used for judging the weight of populations etc, but paying attention to it was the thing that woke me up in the first place AND gave me the motivation to keep going).

Now I'm just so pleased I did it - finally - and wish I'd done it before it got that far (as someone else said).

I can't remember where I read this, but it rings out in my mind whenever I feel like giving up: "You are never again going to be as fat as you are today". Downwards and onwards!

For one year, I challenge you to get in the best shape of your life. Exercise, get a lower BF%, stop any vices (like binge drinking), and surround yourself with like minded people.

Dollars to donuts, you will NEVER go back to what you are now. It's THAT good being above average...and being the best you can be.

Try it, it may change your entire life

Best Post Ever! Words to live by. Challenge accepted!

For one year, I challenge you to get in the best shape of your life. Exercise, get a lower BF%, stop any vices (like binge drinking), and surround yourself with like minded people.

Dollars to donuts, you will NEVER go back to what you are now. It's THAT good being above average...and being the best you can be.

Try it, it may change your entire life

I agree with this. I've always been mostly normal, sometimes ever so slightly overweight. Last year I buckled down and got really fit and absolutely love it. More strength, energy, stamina, less back problems, better immune system, and especially, less depression.

There are still days I'm done with work, it's raining and I'm tired and would rather go home and chill out, or days when I'd love to graze on sweets -- but it's about forming habits and doing the right things even if on a particular day you don't "feel" like it. Overall I find being in shape well worth it.

For one year, I challenge you to get in the best shape of your life. Exercise, get a lower BF%, stop any vices (like binge drinking), and surround yourself with like minded people.

Dollars to donuts, you will NEVER go back to what you are now. It's THAT good being above average...and being the best you can be.

Try it, it may change your entire life

i like this
because when i put those old trousers on that i used to love and see them swimming on me now. I say i dont ever want them to fit again. That for me keeps me going. My goal was to get down to a uk size 14 and then stop, but when I passed it I realised that I can do better so still here. Exercising and not eating 4 packets of crisps everyday has now become part of me and I would like to continue. good luck