Husband says he liked me weighing more?

He probably wants you to weigh more because you're so thin that you probably don't have a very womanly body. My guess is that, at 95 lbs, you've completely lost any curve you ever had. I'm not going to say men don't like "skinny" because some do, but it seems your husband doesn't. I'd never tell someone at a healthy weight to gain (or lose) weight for their partner if they're happy with how they look, but you're very underweight. It's not healthy. The lowest weight you should be at your height is 115 lbs. You don't need to get up to 165 lbs, but you do need to gain some weight. Not for your husband, but for your own health.

Sounds like your husband wants you to be at a healthier weight.

95 pounds at 5'6", even at 21 years old, is WAY TOO THIN. It sounds like your husband has a genuine concern for your health.

Agreed, it sounds more like a matter of caring about your health than just a preference of sizes. 95 is not a healthy weight for you.

I'm wondering if he's tried the, "I'm worried about your health," approach and it didn't work, so now he's trying the, "I'm not attracted to you," approach to get her to see reason.

just here to echo...

get some help OP.

i hope you get through this ok.

Yeah, add some muscle.

Lift and eat above maintenance. You'll like the way you look and feel.

5'6" at 95 lbs is underweight. Your BMI is 15.3, which is dangerously low.

I am 5'2" and shooting for 115-120 (BMI 21-22). I wouldn't even DREAM of 95.

Get some help. Seriously.

Not to mention the physical harm you're doing to your own body, you are probably putting your marriage in jeopardy too. It sounds like your husband is concerned for your health, and brushing aside his concerns and instead asking anonymous people on the internet is probably hurting him. Wouldn't you be upset if your husband followed a random stranger's advice rather than yours?

Also, it sounds like you have an unhealthy relationship with food/weight. What if your husband had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol? or gambling? After a while, you'd get sick of hearing about poker or beer or whatever his vice was and just want to spend time with HIM- the man you married. I think your husband is starting to feel isolated from you and concerned for you at the same time. After a while, giving in to your vices (your relationship with food) rather than investing time into your marriage can be just as detrimental as cheating on your husband. Don't let it get to that point. It sounds like there is much more at play here than just "should I or shouldn't I put on some pounds?"

Finally- if you and your husband decided to have children, you most likely couldn't get pregnant at the weight you're at right now. Consider that not taking action ASAP is essentially sacrificing your future family (if that's what you want in life). Is it really worth it?

Im 5'6 I weigh 155 ish and Im about a size 10. And my husband cant keep his hands off me


Way back when I was 130 ish I was about a size 6. ( This is my goal size not necessarily the weight)

I cant imagine being 95lbs at my height. How much are you eating in a day? I would be worried to if you were my sister or someone I loved.

I recognized your picture. I realized it's because I've noticed other posts you've made.

You're clearly suffering from an eating disorder. Your other posts have expressed a desire to gain to a healthy weight but a fear of doing so, as well as an admittance that you fear no longer counting calories.

Look into seeing a therapist, particularly one who specializes in eating disorders. The control and the fear are hugely defining of anorexia, and often we need professionals to help us deal with this other voice not letting us "let go."

Yeah, add some muscle.

Lift and eat above maintenance. You'll like the way you look and feel.

Not sure that she should start lifting given the anorexia and all that until she speaks with her doctor. Some exercises might be unsafe for her at this point, being so underweight.

Bottom line is, a doctor needs to be part of this equation, no matter how you decide to go about being healthier.

At just over 5'6, when I weigh 130, "the girls" are a B cup. At 95 pounds, they'd be nonexistent. In my experience, many husbands prefer boobs.

very true