My girlfriend said I have Moobs :-( Help please!

Help!!! I am turning 40 and am skinny with a little belly. Also my GF said I had moobs!!!

Where do I start? I have started with MFP do track what I eat and exercise I do. I cycle to work 30 mins each way and that is about it.

What do I eat? What exercise do I do. I don't want to be massive but I do want a strong core and flat belly and to be a bit bigger.

MFP said 2300 calories a day is my aim, but what should make up those calories. I just bought some kettlebells so I can use them in the garden and a pull up bar. going to the gym is difficult as it is far away. I can't afford a personal trainer. Do I need one?

Help please.

Reasonable calorie deficit. Men would be able to help you judge better than I. Weight lifting for muscle and calorie burn while you rest, Cardio to burn more calories while you do them and heart health. If you can't get to gym I suggest buying a weight set used off Craigslist or something like it.

As for the girlfriend... wow, dude. I'd gnaw my tongue off before I said something like that to someone I cared about. I'm helping my DH get in shape (I pretty much am). I just keep telling him he's getting MORE sexy. Damn that's harsh.

I don't know that I would obsess about anything the GF says. I find I get along SOOO much better with my spouse if we just refrain from talking to one another all together.

If you really want to do something about it, anything that tightens up your upper body should help a bit. Pushups, pullups, dips are all things you can do at home without a gym and all of them can be made harder or easier depending on your skill level. The little bit of belly fat is probably the hardest to get rid of, at least when I was skinny it was. A lot of people obsess on ab exercises to flesh it out but the reality is you abs are already under the fat, if you make your abs bigger the fat just pokes out more...

An easy thing to do in your situation would be to "ride" to work and "race" back home. Take it easy on the way there for obvious reasons unless there is a shower but make the ride home a real workout. One of my favorites is to put the bike in the hardest gear and then push like a madman the whole way home. If you can handle it, keep going the full 30 minutes even if you start making it home in 20.

Most folks don't think the food composition itself matters too much, just the calories in and out. In general though its not a bad idea to make sure you are eating a well rounded diet. One of the most frequent "surprises" once you start tracking food is just how much sugar and salt is in most people's diet. Getting those two back into a more reasonable proportion for a healthy life might be worth it.

Personally I wouldn't obsess though. Be healthy and active and you'll live longer. If she says mean stuff about your body start bringing Playboy's to bed and ask her how come she doesn't look like the girls in the magazine... should stifle the body image discussions for a while.

You will need to start lifting and take up a strength training regime.

You should find out your body fat percentage and then determine the appropriate course of action.

If it is high, say like 20% to 25% you should see about a calorie deficit while strength training to help reduce the fat some. After that, or if the body fat percentage is already pretty low, go to a caloric surplus and continue lifting weights (progressively lifting heavier and heavier).

There are many strength training programs you can choose from.

For more advice, you'll need to give plenty of details on numbers and programs you're interested in.

(If the genders were reversed in this scenario, there would be a dozen women advising her to get out of this toxic relationship ASAP...

...so I guess I'm just in to see if this thread goes the same way.)

(If the genders were reversed in this scenario, there would be a dozen women advising her to get out of this toxic relationship ASAP...

...so I guess I'm just in to see if this thread goes the same way.)

I think that advice has already been given a couple of times. :laugh:

First of all dump the girlfriend. OK a little harsh. Maybe she did it in a loving way? My husband has moobs and I'd never in a million year tell him! Geeze. I encourage him to join me with healthy eating and being active and if the moobs go great if they don't I don't care. I sure wouldn't want him to start critiquing my figure.

All one needs to do is greatly lower their simple carbs. Eat more veggies than fruit. Get the protein up probably and do some cardio and lifting. I know all you need to do. Right. Make it a habit for life and you'll feel great and look great. Maybe it's something you two could do together.

(If the genders were reversed in this scenario, there would be a dozen women advising her to get out of this toxic relationship ASAP...

...so I guess I'm just in to see if this thread goes the same way.)

I think that advice has already been given a couple of times. :laugh:

But only a couple of times...

...and thirty minutes later, we're still on page one.

I'll get my popcorn, just in case...

If you're skinny, your problem is probably more lack of muscle. If you haven't trained before at least start with push-ups, pull ups and sit ups. Maybe do 5 sets in circuit. Then if you want move on to weights. I was born with same issue and I was able to change my body by building muscle and losing body fat. As I know, if you don't have muscle, no matter how skinny you get, you'll still feel like you have a saggy chest.

just go to a gym, if you care, then a long gym drive is no big deal. I used to drive 40 minutes to my gym even though a gym was a mile away just bc i liked the gym that was 40 minutes away much more.

Claiming it's too far is just a weak minded excuse.

You want a strong core and a nice chest...pushups are the way to go, youll gain lean muscle without looking bulky.

Turn that fat into muscle (weights, push-ups) and then decide if you want to bulk up. I don't know about moobs, but fat around the stomach is associated with a risk of health problems so you need to keep that under control especially as you get older when the health problems are likely to start happening. Use this as a wake-up call to get yourself into shape for now and the future.

Could your girlfriend have been nicer in her approach? Of course. But sometimes it's good to be direct.

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Help!!! I am turning 40 and am skinny with a little belly. Also my GF said I had moobs!!!

Where do I start? I have started with MFP do track what I eat and exercise I do. I cycle to work 30 mins each way and that is about it.

What do I eat? What exercise do I do. I don't want to be massive but I do want a strong core and flat belly and to be a bit bigger.

MFP said 2300 calories a day is my aim, but what should make up those calories. I just bought some kettlebells so I can use them in the garden and a pull up bar. going to the gym is difficult as it is far away. I can't afford a personal trainer. Do I need one?

Help please.

Start lifting weights, 3 - 4 days a week...StrongLifts 5x5 is a good beginner program

Then make sure you eat adequate protein, fat and carbs.

Protein should be 0.8 - 1.0 gr / pound of body weight
Fat should be at minimum 0.4 gr / pound of bodyweight
Carbs can make up the rest of your calories.

Then if 2300 is the number that you lose weight at....
Stay at or below 2300 for the day.

As for if the roles were reversed here yah it wouldn't be pretty....or irl...funny how a woman/girl can dis her man but if a man says yah you do look fat in those pants you are on the couch for at least a week...

So true....
Gotta love that $#!%