RANT POST: I am NOT too skinny!

If someone can't stop talking about poor them and you have what they want, all you have to do is come around warm and breathing for them to get their knickers in a bunch. Sad but true.

Since you aren't underweight the only thing I can assume is that it's code language for either "stop getting hotter" or "I am the sort of person that reflects on my own failure when someone else has success rather than being inspired by it"

Either way it's not you it's them, they are projecting their insecurities on you and there's not alot you can do, apart from to say I'm not "skinny" I'm just getting healthier.

Or since they are using the word "skinny" which sounds like a body shaming insult to me compared to saying slim or trim tell them to eff off. lol ;P

Oh people simply don't like change. I was told not too long ago "you look great now that you have lost a lot of weight, but I don't think you should be losing any more because you would look sickly" and I'm a 168 (5'6) and 103kg (227)! I laughed it off and moved on.

I have a couple of co-workers like this. I finally said in front of both them: "I am not starving myself. I eat whatever I want, just less of it than I used to and since I"m not asking you to do it or exercise with me, it's really not your place to talk about it."

I just need to vent a little. I am soooooo DAMN tired of ppl telling me I need to stop working out because I am already skinny. I am 176 lbs and 6 feet tall. It took me so long to be OK with myself and my "skinny" size when my entire family was big. There was something always wrong with me because I can't gain or keep weight on. These people are sounding like I am a size 0. I went from a size 12 to almost an 8. I am loving the fact that I see abs coming out, I see my core and arms are stronger. My calf is not jiggly and my Butt... my butt is uplifted. WHAT does these ppl want from me!. I am doing this for me not for them......... Grrrrrrr! (continuing rant offline)

Tell them you aren't actually working out to get thin, you work out to keep fit, therefore if you were to suddenly stop as per their "advice" you would end up unfit and that would contradict your own aims.

Basically, you are telling them to mind their own bloody business, but in a way that should shut them up lol.

They obviously haven't a clue otherwise they would not make such comments.

People are dumb. You're really tall and you are 176. That's perfect. You're a size 8. THAT's perfect to me. You are thin, not skinny. Eff them all. And tell them to keep their opinions to themselves, even if they are close family.

When I was a size 12 my mom would say stupid *kitten* like that. Latin moms; what are you gonna do. If you're not fat, you're not normal.

Drives me bananas.

Some people just don't know how to convey a compliment appropriately, there is no need to be upset.

To be fair "stop working out you're too skinny" isn't really a clumsy compliment, it's a guilt trip/accusation as much as "stop eating, you're too heavy" would be.

"you look skinny" or "wow look at you twiggy" or "work those curves" are more clumsy compliments. She's got fair reason to be pee'd off and MFP forums is an appropriate place to vent. *shrugs*

Maybe I just don't get why any formerly fat person would get upset over people calling them skinny. There are a lot worse things in life, being upset over someone thinking you're skinny is kind of silly.

Some people just don't know how to convey a compliment appropriately, there is no need to be upset.

To be fair "stop working out you're too skinny" isn't really a clumsy compliment, it's a guilt trip/accusation as much as "stop eating, you're too heavy" would be.

"you look skinny" or "wow look at you twiggy" or "work those curves" are more clumsy compliments. She's got fair reason to be pee'd off and MFP forums is an appropriate place to vent. *shrugs*

That would depend on the delivery and the person. I've gotten this before and it was most certainly meant to be a compliment. To some people, being skinny can only be a positive thing and they don't understand why you would be offended. They also don't understand why anyone would work out if they didn't want to get skinnier. Exercising purely for fitness isn't really on their mental radar.

Without knowing much about your eating and workouts, I'll just throw it out there that sometimes these comments are more directed towards habits than appearance. Drastic restrictive diets, comments you may make about what you're eating or what others are eating and excessive amounts of exercise can lead to some concern.

But, if you're not doing any of that, sometimes other people achieving health and aesthetic goals makes others uncomfortable and they try to justify their own mediocrity. Try to brush it off as best as you can and if they are close friends and family, let them know that the comments they make are rude and make you feel uncomfortable.

I had someone go on for about 5 minutes yesterday about how I look ill and they are seriously concerned about my health. Pretty sure it was code talk for ''if you don't have cancer as an excuse you must be anorexic and you need help". I'm 5'6.5" and 145 pounds. puhleeeeeease.

I had someone at my Mom's work just tell me this the other day. I had stopped in to drop something off and her co-worker says, without any prompting or conversation, "Wow, you should stop right now, you are getting too thin." Seriously, I'm 5'4" and 146 lbs.

and neither am i!

Just my 2 cents: I had people telling me I was getting too skinny. I'm 5'4" and back then I was 120 lbs. (I had dropped down from 200 lbs) I used to take progress pictures (and still do) and even without the progress pictures I always used to think why other people couldn't see the excess flab that I could see when I looked in the mirror. I mean I knew I had gotten slimmer but I didn't think my body was ideal. I've gained 30 lbs since then and I'm actually glad I did as I've had a look at those pictures from when I was 120 lbs and tbh I looked good, in fact my body was hot. I think looking at it now when I'm heavier has made me see what other people were seeing. At the moment I'm 150 lbs but I'm one of those people that never look their weight so I look like I'm lighter. I don't have a goal weight anymore and no longer focus on that as I lift heavy and know a small fraction of those 30 lbs gained is muscle. I'd be happy at 130 - 140 lbs with decent muscle definition. Back then I had an unhealthy weight obsession with wanting to get down to 110 lbs. Gaining weight has made me take a step back and realise that maybe other people were right. Yes some people make comments because they're jealous, but sometimes it may be because they care and are just worried. If you think about it, how we see ourselves is different to how others see us. I now know that if I was to get down to about 130 lbs, I'd look better than how I was at 120 lbs. My mum is still worried about me but now it's more to do with the misconception that I'm suddenly going to grow big bulky muscles from weightlifting lol.

Sometimes skinny is a compliment...sometimes it is an insult. Either way, you don't sound like you are at an unhealthy weight or size to me.

My grandmother told me once to stop losing weight, b/c it was making my "face look weird!" I told her that that's just what my face looks like! Oh well, what can you do?

When I was in my twenties and healthy I was EXTREMELY lean and folks used to say that stuff to me all the time. I had a black belt in TaeKwonDo, abs that could stop a semi truck, jumped out of planes on weekends and mountain biked up 25 mile mountains in the hardest gear...

I thought they were funny, sitting there eating their doughnuts and giving me advice about fitness. I tried not to laugh in their face but sometimes it was hard to avoid.