Unsupportive people

So, this morning my mom was talking about having a bbq tomorrow and including roasted veggies. I said I wasn't interested in them because they are soaked in oil, and that is totally gross to me. I think she got offended and was talking about how I should start taking coconut oil, because its good for you. I told her that I'm getting fats in,my diet and she started talking about how conventional stuff doesn't work for everyone. She had also told me before how counting calories doesn't work for her, I guess she's that special snowflake, and I told her that it was working for me and I had lost XX lbs doing it. She told me that it wasn't going to always work for me, once I got older. She is always trying to tell me that this or that diet is going to work, if I just eliminated this or that the lbs would melt off. Its soooo frustrating that she puts down what I do even though its working and I've already lost almost 30 lbs since joining MFP. Does anyone else deal with this?

Ugh. My father passed away in December, but both he and my mother were/are CONVINCED I should have lap-band surgery. They know 1 guy (count them.....1) who had it, and he has no intention of changing his eating habits. He only had it so that it would restrict how much food he could have instead of him making that decision. He's lost some weight, but at least isn't gaining.

Yes, it's aggravating. I started this path in April 2011. Back at Thanksgiving 2012, my sister's mother-in-law was bashing me to my mother about what I was eating. I couldn't believe she actually stood up for me though....saying that I'd lost 100+ pounds at that point, and if I was able to do it without surgery, then that was great.

Well, I've backpeddled some since then, but this last week I was really "on it". I have to wait until tomorrow to weigh in at WW, but I'm going to be down about 4 pounds....in that neighborhood anyway. Everytime I backpeddle, she throws the surgery at me. I keep reminding her that the surgery isn't the "fix all, be all"....I'll still have to change my eating habits regardless of if I have surgery or not. So, why not just change my eating habits??

This is one of those things where you really have to build up your armor. If what you're doing is working for you to lose weight, then everybody else needs to mind their own freaking business. Have them "talk to the hand". Know that you're on the right path for you, and what you're doing is obviously working. Confidence comes from taking the right action and having success at it. You're successful in your efforts. Let it show.