Backhanded compliment ....

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  • ValGogo
    ValGogo Posts: 2,168 Member
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    me too... I drive by compliment complete strangers- would definitely not be doing that about their figure.

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    "drive by compliment" I never put a name to it. I do that too. "nice boots!" is one of my favorites to give.
  • RebeccaP1972
    RebeccaP1972 Posts: 101 Member
    One that cracks me up... "you look good today" as opposed to yesterday when evidently I looked like crap :happy:
  • pfeif21
    pfeif21 Posts: 27
    are ya freakin kidding me to the -- "you former cow" fb comment. defriend that co worker NOW. they're envious i'm sure.
  • Jovette42
    Jovette42 Posts: 280 Member
    When my Nana was alive she told me "Aye no Jovette you are getting too fat!" My response was "Yes that's usually what happens after having a baby Nana" My son was 6 mos old. :laugh:

    THEN I came home on leave again and got "Aye no Jovette you are getting too skinny." My response was "Nana make up your mind" :laugh:
    She passed away at 94 1/2 years old and I would LOVE to hear her tell me something :love:

    NOW my mother is taking her place "Aye no Jovette you can't get down to 122 lbs that's too skinny" My response is "Mami I was that before I got injured." Then she comes back with "Yes but that was when you were younger." :noway:

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Typical Hispanic families don't like "skinny" that just means your family isn't feeding you enough. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    "You look good for your age." Ughhhh.

    I don't know. I guess everyone is different. I would love to get a compliment like this.
  • sodakat
    sodakat Posts: 1,126 Member
    i got one once that was super. my weight has fluctuated over the years and i had someone whose know me for a while go "you were super hot when you were thin, are you hoping to get back to that with the diet and exercise youre doing now?"
    that was so super.

    This made me really LOL!
  • die2fat4love
    die2fat4love Posts: 149 Member
    My mother used to call me her 'cow -girl' and said it was a good thing I was so sweet tempered or no one would put up with me - Now she calls me her little cow - and tells me that I am not nearly as sweet as I was when I was heavier, but its okay because now that I was not AS fat I could get away with it - Unfortunately this is a compliment from my mother so I smiled and say "awww thanks mom"
  • MrTolerable
    MrTolerable Posts: 1,593 Member
    Well you don't have to be cocky about it!
  • nyboer
    nyboer Posts: 346 Member
    My mother used to call me her 'cow -girl' and said it was a good thing I was so sweet tempered or no one would put up with me - Now she calls me her little cow - and tells me that I am not nearly as sweet as I was when I was heavier, but its okay because now that I was not AS fat I could get away with it - Unfortunately this is a compliment from my mother so I smiled and say "awww thanks mom"

    :noway:
  • littleworm23
    littleworm23 Posts: 341 Member
    last week when posting a pic on fb of a before/current, a coworker said to me 'wow you former cow'

    OMG!! Who says that??

    Here are a couple of my favorites:

    From a cousin that was always petite- "Don't lose to much weight because then you will be skinny too and have big boobs and that wouldn't be fair." lol ok?

    From my doctor when I was pregnant with my first child and losing weight from being sick so much- "Don't worry about it, you could stand to lose some weight anyway." I lost 40 lbs with that pregnancy...... then gained it back.
  • Sharon_73
    Sharon_73 Posts: 189 Member
    My favourite is "you will never be skinny. Your body is happy this size!"

    1) I don't want to be skinny, I want to be strong and healthy and
    2) I'm the one in this body saying I'm not happy but thanks for your insight! LOL
  • Giddyduck
    Giddyduck Posts: 212 Member
    I haven't lost that much yet (total of almost 30 pounds) and I have heard...

    "Were you sick-you don't look well" ---people at work
  • nilbogger
    nilbogger Posts: 870 Member
    I wear a lot of black. I'm colorblind, so it's the most appealing to me.

    I had this coworker who would always gush when I wore an actual color. "Oh, what a PRETTY color. That color looks LOVELY on you."

    I wouldn't have thought much of it if she hadn't told me how she dealt with our very poorly-dressed coworker. Instead of telling that coworker she shouldn't be wearing sweats at work she would shower her with ocmpliments if she wore something nicer. o_O
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    "You're so....eccentric."

    "It's neat how you don't care what anyone thinks of you."
  • angelhartsough
    angelhartsough Posts: 2
    Mine is of course this old favorite, "You have such a pretty face". That one never gets old...NOT.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    "It's neat how you don't care what anyone thinks of you."

    Let's be fair. Anyone who says that to you, doesn't really know you at all. *hugs*
  • tmaryam
    tmaryam Posts: 289 Member
    "You look good for your age." Ughhhh.

    I don't know. I guess everyone is different. I would love to get a compliment like this.

    Meaning, it shouldn't have a qualifier. You can stop with "You look good." When you add on "for your age" it sounds like "Wow you're really old, I can't believe you don't look as ugly as I expected." :laugh:
  • brower47
    brower47 Posts: 16,356 Member
    You're not nearly as big as you used to be.
  • kk_140
    kk_140 Posts: 518 Member


    And occasionally, "You're really feminine for a lesbian." <-- Taking a look at this one. These are from people who barely know me, who talk to me in class or school, and have no idea that I'm straight. They assume I'm a lesbian. It's like a doulbe-wammy and really insulting to actual lesbians.

    I get this one and I AM a lesbian! So insulting!
  • ooBombshellBeautyoo
    ooBombshellBeautyoo Posts: 232 Member
    "I always thought you were a b***h but you're actually really nice". Seriously?! Don't judge until you know me!!
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member


    I got this one last week. I come into the office sweaty every day, I ride in. I am a recovering Highland Games athlete, so still pretty big.

    anyhow- this lady that had apilate studio downstairs says-

    "for as much as you sweat you should be alot smaller"

    UM-- Most of my sweating has been done trying to get big!!!!


    oooh that's so mine, too. When I was around 280-307 lb several years ago, I would bring healthy lunches to work like cucumbers and hummus, a salad and yogurt, etc. Several women who were overweight but WAY smaller than me would say things like that to me. "You eat like a bird!" or the worst, "I would be so skinny if I ate like YOU!"

    RUDE!
  • paulawatkins1974
    paulawatkins1974 Posts: 720 Member
    "You're not nearly as mean as you look..."
    "Once I got to know you, I learned you were actually a nice guy."
    "Don't get too big."
    "Nice pants."
    "Wow, your socks actually match today!"


    the sock one.....lmao awesome!
    My socks never match. I'll weara pink one and an orange one. Not because I'm trying to make a statement. Just Because I really couldn't be bothered lol.

    You're beautiful for "any" girl. Period
  • WendyAdelissa
    WendyAdelissa Posts: 11 Member
    The first time I got chubby in 3rd grade I was told by a girl, gosh don't you ever exercise? (not a compliment at all but the first indication I was not "one of them")
    In middle school "why do you always dress up for school?" (Because my body type looked awful in Jeans!)
    My best friend's boyfriend's mother after Fen Phen stopped working for me and I was slowly gaining again "Are you still losing weight?"
    And the one I ALWAYS get if I ever confide my weight to anyone is usually "I never would have guessed!" or "you carry it really well" or my therapist (MY THERAPIST MIND YOU) "I can't believe you are 300 pounds all you have is a belly, your legs and arms are skinny." Yes that is what is known as apple shape and is worse than if I was fat all over duh! also I had a major surgery and gained nearly 100 pounds afterwards so my brother says I have a butt on both sides, yeah that's real endearing... (teach me to make sure I wear long shirts, siblings are the worst!!! He's also the one who used to call me Miss Piggy and now swears it had nothing to do with my weight but the diva personality... like that makes it all better?)
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    When you get a backhanded compliment just nod, smile, and return the favor. Either the person will realize what they did and apologize, or get huffy because you nailed them. Either way, verbal jousting is fun.
  • 1Cor1510
    1Cor1510 Posts: 413 Member
    One I used to get a lot: "Are you still growing?"
    "No I was born this height. My mom's vagina is WRECKED!"

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    I recently got "Why are you still trying to lose weight? Men like something they can hold on to."
  • paulawatkins1974
    paulawatkins1974 Posts: 720 Member
    Once before when I lost 70 lbs, a friend of mine who was also overweight said "Well you're so lucky it's easy for you" I'm like Easy? I worked like a dog! Wallked up to 2 hours a day, had a physically demanding job, (she wasn't even working) Was raising 3 kids, and watched her stuff her face every weekend when we'd go out for lunch while I ate a salad.
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    One I used to get a lot: "Are you still growing?"
    "No I was born this height. My mom's vagina is WRECKED!"

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    I recently got "Why are you still trying to lose weight? Men like something they can hold on to."
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  • bah_bug
    bah_bug Posts: 32 Member
    Until I lost weight, I didn't realize how much I used to get complimented on my accessories. Nice bag! I love your scarf! Now I get compliments on my actual appearance. It's like people wanted to say something nice, so chose something totally unattached to my actual person. It's kind of a bummer in retrospect.

    Also, agreed- you are super pretty :)

    Actually, I prefer these compliments. This is complimenting something over which I have total control. How I look is something I work at, but I'm only working with what I've got - which I may not be feeling all that great about, some days. Its also something safe to compliment - I follow very closely the rule that unless I've been invited to touch your body, then I am not invited to comment on it, because I never know why things are the way they are. Eating disorders and serious illness are not usually readily apparent.

    Best backhanded compliment: "She's kind of a *****, but she's got great t*ts."

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