Where are my fellow single girls/guys

Aww Audumn (sp) I am so sorry to hear that !:frown:

I didn't mean to butt in on your singles thread but just wanted to tell you to keep your chin up, girl.
You are one in a million and any guy would be so lucky to have you.:flowerforyou:

mmm... perfect woman.... for me:

*Smart
*Artistic, or at least have a good appreciation for the arts i.e. music, writing, painting, theatre etc.
*Her eyes, beautiful eyes- eyes can melt a person or can chill them to the bone, i like beautiful eyes
*A kind smile
*i'm a bit of a nerd/dork- i like comic books, and video games - so if she enjoys those or at least can appreciate it then that is huge bonus
*a strong woman, who will put me in my place if its needed
*Children- i want a family- so if she don't want em it isn't going to work
*a woman who will believe in me

i think that pretty much covers it

I am just curious. Last night ended a really beautiful relationship that I had beginning with someone. It has completely broke my heart , but a long story. I am just kind of curious is you could build your perfect guy or girl what attitribute/qualities would they have.


Patient
Understanding
good manners
high morals/values
treats others with respect (love for people)
good hearted
loyal
honest.

there is more...........i know i know I am picky:laugh:

sorry to hear about that, sucks when things are going well and then blah... you'll find someone and he'll be a lucky guy:flowerforyou:

Sculley

((HUGS))
I'm so sorry....

My .02 from an old married hag...LOL
Don't ever worry about being TOO picky
Hold out for THE one.....
It will be worth it in the long run

Kim

Well my guy, the crush I was seeing was legally separated and told me that he wants to try to give his marriage a chance, I can't argue with it and respect his decision.can't help but want to kick myself in the *kitten* for getting involved with someone that had that kind of baggage... oh well

Sorry please don't judge me

No one is judging you.... you deserve to be #1 on someones priorities, your smart and beautiful and you deserve so much more...you can respect his decision but i sure as heck wouldnt beat yourself up about what you did wrong.... its him not you ....everyone you meet will have baggage, but you gotta decide what kind of baggage works for you.

Well my guy, the crush I was seeing was legally separated and told me that he wants to try to give his marriage a chance, I can't argue with it and respect his decision.can't help but want to kick myself in the *kitten* for getting involved with someone that had that kind of baggage... oh well

Sorry please don't judge me

No one is judging you.... you deserve to be #1 on someones priorities, your smart and beautiful and you deserve so much more...you can respect his decision but i sure as heck wouldnt beat yourself up about what you did wrong.... its him not you ....everyone you meet will have baggage, but you gotta decide what kind of baggage works for you.

yes gotta find baggage that you are willing to work with- theres a line in RENT that goes like: I'm lookin for baggage that goes with mine - we've all got baggage- I am King of the Baggage lol

Well my guy, the crush I was seeing was legally separated and told me that he wants to try to give his marriage a chance, I can't argue with it and respect his decision.can't help but want to kick myself in the *kitten* for getting involved with someone that had that kind of baggage... oh well

Sorry please don't judge me

don't feel bad about that, i'm still waiting for my divorce to go through- and thats why i don't even try to date right now, its hard enough for me to get a date normally :laugh: let alone with my divorce not official- too many guys hurt women by doing stuff like that... i know i will never get back with my ex- hell will have to freeze over, and then i still won't :noway: but trying to convince someone else of that when the divorce isn't final is not always the easiest thing... you'll find a guy that fits you,

I was able to deal with his baggage heck I have baggage myself (i am divorced...) but the qualities in him I have never found in anyone I had dated before. The love is there and he felt really bad about hurting me he is a good guy and I think I would be the same way....trying to make sure I exhausted everything I could in a marriage before I ended it.
I am sure there is someone out there for me............one day I just might find it but as for now the only man in my life comes up to my hips and loves cantaloupe...My son and that is how it should be

definitely how it should be :happy:

Heya scully... hugs to you girl >:D< You are an amazing women, and *already* have all those qualities you have listed! :flowerforyou: So far, I think that everyone has done a good job of listing thier wants and needs, so I'll just toss in a couple that I haven't heard yet. First off, to be with me, she has got to have a good sense of humor! She doesn't hafta be a comedian, but the ability to laugh at yourself is crucial in my world view of happiness. Plus, she has to have enough honesty with herself, to keep me honest as well. In other words, she can see thru my BS, and still smile and love me. (Just as I can with her). In my case, I got luckier than *any* one has a right to be with Ezzie. Not a day goes by that I don't (literally) thank God that she is my wife! Plus, when we got married, I did promise her that her life would never be boring with me! Sound stupid? Not really, Boredom can lead to a rut, can lead to unhappiness. Oh yeah, last point, finding someone who, just by being a part of your life, makes you want to be a better person, and grow with... oh yeah.
Anyways scully, :flowerforyou: luvya, and hugz from all of us in here!

Basically I'd say all the same things you want in a good man is what most women want, which will make finding a good one challenging. Just know you can't change them so once you know they aren't making the grade, you need to make the cut. :flowerforyou: You'll find him.....he's out there.

Wow, very well said. Its making that cut that's so hard, no? It is for me anyway.

eyes..smile..eyes...smile

and doesn't mind the fact that i bake when i am bored (anyone fancy some banana bread or some regular bread...or a pie? had nothing but watching the olympics to do today, had to keep the hands busy)

oh, wait...pie..someone that makes great pies, that's another one.

Basically I'd say all the same things you want in a good man is what most women want, which will make finding a good one challenging. Just know you can't change them so once you know they aren't making the grade, you need to make the cut. :flowerforyou: You'll find him.....he's out there.

Wow, very well said. Its making that cut that's so hard, no? It is for me anyway.

Very well said and me too I am an emotional person that tends to wear my heart on my sleeve.... What can you do though. I always believe in the saying if you LOVE it set it free it will return if it's meant to be.

I just Feel like "I" should try to make it work reguardless of what we shared....I did everything I could in my marriage to make it work before asking for a divorce. I was cheated on by him 3 times.......Not that I ever did that with anyone infidelity was always relationship ender with me.... but life happens and now looking back on it i know there isn't nothing else I could have done. I am at peace with that part of my life unfortunately though my ex husband is not....

I was cheated on one time...forgiving that was one of the hardest things I've ever done. After THREE? I don't blame ya. Keep your chin up...the right guy's out there. Of course, if you are like me...you are sitting there waiting for that guy to call and say "it was a mistake and can I come see you?" I actually kind of embrace that sadness. It helps me feel better in the long run.