As you get older, do you find yourself...
kristen2713
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Settling? And not settling for pure crap, but for mediocrity? Are you settling for a sufficient relationship that's alright, instead of looking for a great one that gives you what you want? Are you settling for a certain size/weight, and not worrying about the last 10 pounds you'd like to lose? Are you settling for a job that's ok and pays decent, instead of going for one you're passionate about?
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Relationship? No, to me that's one of the most important parts of my life. Not just my marriage relationship to my wife, but those I choose to have a friendship with as well.
Size/Weight - I'm still fighting that battle, so I will say no I'm not settling.
Job - Yes. Gotta pay the bills. I do still look around though for the job lines that may suit me best, but haven't been receiving many responses there.0 -
relationship(s): after what I've been through... nope. not settling any longer with romantic relationships or friendships. I'm still nice it just means I limit who I let get real close.
size/weight: like previous poster, still fighting - not settling.
job: eh.. yes/no enjoy what I do. there are stresses in any job. I keep pushing myself to improve my education in my field. perfect world I wouldn't have to worry about money and can be a philanderer and volunteer somewhere.0 -
This is a fantastic question and yes, I think I do. I think most of us do to some degree.
The difficult thing as I get older and more successful is the settling becomes easier because the creature comforts in life are so much easier to attain. I was much more disciplined when I was younger because it was expensive to treat myself. If I joined a gym, I used that gym because I was paying for it and I wanted to be sure I was getting value and utility from everything I spend money on.
Now that I have money, I worry less about that and as a result, I can drift into periods of inactivity. Same thing with food. I could bring leftovers because that's being diligent but I'm much more comfortable now so I don't tend to worry about it.0 -
Settling? And not settling for pure crap, but for mediocrity? Are you settling for a sufficient relationship that's alright, instead of looking for a great one that gives you what you want? Are you settling for a certain size/weight, and not worrying about the last 10 pounds you'd like to lose? Are you settling for a job that's ok and pays decent, instead of going for one you're passionate about?
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That's a losers attitude.....0
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Yes.Settling? And not settling for pure crap, but for mediocrity? Are you settling for a sufficient relationship that's alright, instead of looking for a great one that gives you what you want?
No.Are you settling for a certain size/weight, and not worrying about the last 10 pounds you'd like to lose?
All the jobs I am passionate about do not pay enough to allow me to eat and maintain shelter.Are you settling for a job that's ok and pays decent, instead of going for one you're passionate about?
Are you a life coach?0 -
For awhile I did, and then I woke up and realized that this was not the life I wanted for myself. I only have one shot at this thing so I have to be bold and brave and take more risks.
Relationships - I got rid of the people who were pulling me down and kept the ones that really mattered.
Body - I joined the gym and set out to start a whole new lifestyle. 6 months later I'm 35 pounds less and stronger than I have ever been in my life and so very happy with my new lifestyle.
Job - I starting becoming more focused on personal/professional growth, advancing my skills and knowledge. It's a work in progress.0 -
Up to age 34-35 yes.
Since then, it's been completely the opposite. I'm 37 and the last two and a half years have been a whirlwind for me of rearranging and renovating everything in my life, no longer settling, and enjoying life so much more. I have totally different priorities in all areas.0 -
Opposite.
I'm getting out of a relationship that is doing nothing for me. Sure, it's easier to stay and be miserable, but I think I deserve to be happy.0 -
Opposite.
I'm getting out of a relationship that is doing nothing for me. Sure, it's easier to stay and be miserable, but I think I deserve to be happy.
More or less me as well.0 -
IS it settling or just taking for granted the gifts your life is imbued with? LIFE takes work... it's a garden that needs constant attention... IF you let it go... at some point you are going to look at it and NOT like what you see... then... somewhere down the road your going to believe that the work required to get it back to where you would like it is far too much... so you start to look at the individual plants and convince yourself that if you remove this one.. or that one... then the garden might look better... eventually you start pulling the offending plants... and before you know it.. you no longer have a garden... you have a plot of bare earth... in some instances sure.. it's necessary... BUT a person can take matters into their hands at any time and WORK to save anyone of those plants...
of course from a relati0onship standpoint... it takes the will of both people to work that garden...
THE good news is that most people here on MFP HAVE started to do the work... Cheers to all of us!!!0 -
Opposite.
I'm getting out of a relationship that is doing nothing for me. Sure, it's easier to stay and be miserable, but I think I deserve to be happy.
Oh yes we WILL be dating soon!!
Kidding....
Relationship?? I haven't found anyone that wants me.
Body?? Work in progress.
Job?? I love my job!0 -
Nope.. Not at all.0
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No way.
I'm not willing to give up or settle for anything right now.0 -
Not at all. I find myself pushing myself more to achieve things in the past few years. It's now or never!
Relationship - I've got a pretty sweet life and good husband so nope. In other areas I've decided if I don't like it why bother with it
Body - best shape I've been in for a long time and plan on getting better and better
Job - I'm a stay at home mom. It's what I love doing. When the boy is in school full time I'd like to do something but not sure what that might be0 -
Actually, I find myself doing the complete opposite..I find myself more motivated to keep getting better in all areas of my life.
Same here.....0 -
Opposite.
The older I get, the more of a perfectionist I become. I also expect more from those around me.
Job: I like my job...Ok, I like the team I work with at my job, and REALLY wish it would pay more. I'm not passionate about it, but the one I am passionate about (photographer) wouldn't keep the roof over our head, soooo....
Relationship: I am married to my best friend, and I didn't settle. I only wish I'd met him earlier in life.
Body: Sure I'd like to hit 135#. Will I? I am not sure. That said, it won't be for lack of trying. I exercise regularly (heavy lifting, swimming, jogging, stair climbing, yoga), eat at a deficit, and feel like I look better than I ever have in my life. I'm not going to stop, tho, just because all my skinny clothes fit again. I LIKE how I feel, how I look, and how my hubby looks at me, so nope. Not going to settle for being that "average" grandma. Nope. not me, LOL...
TL:DR? Nope. Settling is what I did in my 20's and early 30's. Striving for the best is what it's about in my 40's.0 -
No. I married the love of my life when I turned 50. We saved up enough money to build our dream vacation home this year. I started running two years ago at age 53. I ran half marathon distance Sunday, and reached my weight loss goal today. And this is just the beginning......0
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Actually, I find myself doing the complete opposite..I find myself more motivated to keep getting better in all areas of my life.
this ^^0 -
I'm in a funny situation. Recently I noticed that I have met my carefully laid out life long goals that I set for myself about thirty years ago when I lived life carefully and overly responsibly. Now I'm in a position where I feel like I have "arrived" but I'm still so young. At the moment I'm not sure what will come next, but I enjoy flailing around in new experiences that give me joy and make my prior goal seem a little mediocre in retrospect:)0
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No. I married the love of my life when I turned 50. We saved up enough money to build our dream vacation home this year. I started running two years ago at age 53. I ran half marathon distance Sunday, and reached my weight loss goal today. And this is just the beginning......
I just
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No, but I find my priorities changing. It may look like settling to other people, but I'm finding my priorities are lining up with what I actually enjoy rather than what other people think I should enjoy. I work a job that probably sounds boring but I like the people and like the flexibility. If I quit, it will be to spend more time with kids, instead of pursuing a career. It turns out I actually like my kids! I "sit at home" on weekends because that's the most relaxing and enjoyable thing I could possibly do... I've really cut down on the jam packed schedule and I love it.0
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Geez..... I guess I'm doing alright. Chin up!0
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No! :flowerforyou:0
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Opposite. I settled at 28 in my relationship because I thought I was supposed to "get married and have kids". Now that I don't have that weight on me I feel like I can do whatever I want and there's no ticking clock above me.0
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^^^ This.Actually, I find myself doing the complete opposite..I find myself more motivated to keep getting better in all areas of my life.
Relationship: planning a(nother) romantic getaway for our 16th anniversary this month.
Job: as my boss says, I don't want you to think of it as your "next" job, but as your "last" job. I will work here until I don't work anymore.
Weight: down over a dozen pounds, got a couple dozen more to lose - not stopping at this point0 -
I think it is the complete opposite for me. I have recently took a risk to get a new job that is challenging to me. I am finally trying to lose weight for myself and no one else. As for relationships, I value true ones-family and friends. As for a love relationship havent found the right guy yet :-)
So no I dont think I am settling. Its harder as you get older cause you are scared of risks (because you have to take care of kids, etc). But I find myself more like I was in my early 20's more willing to take a risk. I will be 40 in a few weeks. In my 30's I think I settled more.0 -
I guess like others have said my priorities change. Yes I am 10 lbs heavier than I use to be. WW had me at 145, my goal is 155 I dont have to be perfect like I thought when I was young. I can eat more and think older women look better a little heavier. I am 60.
Also my first marriage was all about superficial stuff, looks, etc. I learned it was all about him. My second marriage he is ok looking and very good to me. My job is much more simple, but I am glad I had a good job when I was young when I had a mortgage, raising children, etc. Now not so much about money but wanted out of stress and had my bills paid so why not enjoy a job with less money that I enjoy and have good hours.0 -
No. I've certainly made a major change in work/family/me time balance, but that is far from settling. My relationship has never been better, and I'm far better at cordoning off time with the wife and kiddos.0
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Actually, I find myself doing the complete opposite..I find myself more motivated to keep getting better in all areas of my life.
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