Motivation is needed BADLY
annadchang
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I started at 234 and down to 209 but then back to 212. I can't get motivation to go workout. After work I just want to pick up my son and go to my mom's (I am her caretaker b/c she is fighting cancer) and sit on the couch. I know I should get up in the morning before work and work out. I have a hard time getting up in the AM. I am having a friend and co-worker call me in the mornings to make sure I get up for work. Sad, I know.
The first of the year I found out that I have a sensitivity to gluten, yogurt, eggs, bakers yeast, etc. So a lot of the recipes I have found will have one or more of the these things in it. I miss having a smoothie with yogurt. I have recently found a vitamin that doesn't have the gluten, yeast, or eggs. I figured out that taking gluten out of your diet, removes B vitamins and causes you to be tired. I need help.
Thanks
The first of the year I found out that I have a sensitivity to gluten, yogurt, eggs, bakers yeast, etc. So a lot of the recipes I have found will have one or more of the these things in it. I miss having a smoothie with yogurt. I have recently found a vitamin that doesn't have the gluten, yeast, or eggs. I figured out that taking gluten out of your diet, removes B vitamins and causes you to be tired. I need help.
Thanks
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I hate morning exercise too. Only after I started working out 20 mins each lunch hour for a few months did I get up the motivation to do morning exercise, now because I am used to it and really want to get it in. I feel so much better and have more energy.
I can't help with the food issues, but I would suggest start somewhere with the exercise. Even if it's a 20 min walk on lunch. Just do it. Find the one thing and time that is the most logical, and the least "offensive" as far as exercise goes. When you make it a habit, the motivation really will come. You'll feel better, and you will want to keep doing it. Good luck!0 -
It sounds like you're not really committed to change just yet.
If morning workouts are not for you, then work out later in the day. If you have time to sit on the couch, you have time to work out.0 -
You could try taking B Vitamins, I just search GNC quick, these gummy vitamins have both B-6 and B-12 and don't contain gluten, milk, eggs, etc. You can check the label yourself to make sure there's nothing else you can't have in them but they're like $10. Pretty reasonable.0
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you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING0
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The thing with motivation is that it comes from within; no one can give it to you.
If it were me, I'd work on the energy issues you're having before worrying about incorporating exercise into an already hectic schedule. It could be that you're low on B vitamins as you surmise, but it could also bea vitamin D or iron deficiency or a completely different issue. I'd highly suggest a consult with a medical professional. How much sleep are you actually getting each night? The fact that you need someone to make sure you get up suggests that it's not enough. Have you tried simply getting an extra hour of sleep every night?
If you do have the energy, walking at lunch or on your short breaks is always a good idea. A co-worker and I use our two 15 minute breaks each morning and afternoon to do a lap around our building. Mon, Wed and Fri we take a 1.75 mile walk at lunch. Just that alone helps a lot.
Also, try not to focus on the things you can't eat anymore. That's just depressing. Instead, try to find exciting new foods or recipes that you haven't tried yet and you CAN eat. Be adventurous. Try a new vegetable every week or try cooking the old standbys in new ways.0 -
It sounds more like an emotional issue. Being a caretaker and watching someone you love fight cancer takes an emotional toll, which can then zap energy. Can you get an occasional night off to go out and do something fun with friends? Or find a support group... even an online one (here, maybe?) for people who are caretakers. I take care of a 101-year old man pretty much 24/7. Being online is my only social life other than when my family is home. It's HARD to stay motivated when you're overwhelmed with other things. It can be done, though. Give yourself a little grace and remember your reasons for beginning your weight loss process in the first place.0
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anna,
everything will workout. its not easy but you can do it. you are a strong woman. take one day at a time. i am still having a hard time with working out in the am but i have started back to 15mins. i was getting way to tired. walk a lunch, bring your little guy to the park. while you are sitting on the couch, sit on the edge and do leg lifts or bring your butt up and down to work the back of your arms. have your son sit on your tummy while doing sit ups. my kids love to do that.
you can do it. its just not gonna happen over night. the diet thing, see a nurtitionist for help. i love my, she is great.
good luck kiddo.0 -
you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING
i don't think you are being fair. do you have kids to take care of? do you work full time and do everything that she as mom is doing?0 -
Is there something you can do with your son - if he's young, put him in a stroller & walk/jog him? If he's older, go on walks together, play ball, throw a frisbee, swim, etc? There are exercise videos specially made for little kids that adults can do too (I've done a bunch of them with my little girl). Do any of the gyms near you offer child watch so that you can work out/swim/etc while someone else watches your son for a little while in a playgroup? I work full time (9 hrs/day) and am a single parent too (but thankfully do not have to be a caretaker for one of my parents; you've got a lot on your shoulders). 1st thing in the morning is difficult, but if you can make it work, I think it's easier to be consistent because there are no other conflicts at that time of day, at least for me personally.0
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Think about ALL the reasons WHY you need to get to a healthy weight. Then get busy! Most of us work, have kids, homes and people to care for. When you completely commit, you will have the time! Figure out your WHY and then do what it takes!0
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Sorry, but everyone has a life, regardless of being a mom or not. Excuses are excuses no matter what's behind them. There's always someone busier than you who finds...no MAKES time to work out.you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING
i don't think you are being fair. do you have kids to take care of? do you work full time and do everything that she as mom is doing?
OP....I agree with the poster who said you aren't committed to change quite yet. You need to really want it to make it happen. Keep at it, and eventually the things you force yourself to do will become a habit.... You're to tired to get up in the morning because of your weight and lack of exercise....but that can change if you keep working on it, and you'll increase your energy level faster than you think!0 -
you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING
You hit the nail on the head mister! My motivation is tat next year I want to be able to ride a ride at Universal Studios or Disney with my teenagers! ANd at 389 that was not happening and it is heartbreaking telling your boys Momma cant ride the ride because she is too big....so. What ^ he said! Get busy living or get busy dying.0 -
It sounds more like an emotional issue. Being a caretaker and watching someone you love fight cancer takes an emotional toll, which can then zap energy. Can you get an occasional night off to go out and do something fun with friends? Or find a support group... even an online one (here, maybe?) for people who are caretakers. I take care of a 101-year old man pretty much 24/7. Being online is my only social life other than when my family is home. It's HARD to stay motivated when you're overwhelmed with other things. It can be done, though. Give yourself a little grace and remember your reasons for beginning your weight loss process in the first place.
This^^ too!0 -
A few things that have helped me:
1. Focus on 1 thing at a time and do it at 100% until it becomes a habit then you can add the other one. so start with eating well at 100% and just take a walk with your child, take them to the park or the mall.
2. Write weekly and daily goals you want to accomplish on a board in plain sight.
3. When you start working out, SCHEDULE your workouts, set your alarms, as if you are going to a dr appt. I normally pre-plan my weekly workouts on Sundays
4. Do not ask yourself if you want to workout, its not an option.
-take your clothes with you, change and go straight to work out before you get home
- have your clothes ready so when you get home or get up you don't have to search for anything
Remember does THIS action that i am doing right now going to help me towards my goal or take me two steps back?
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You sound overwhelmed by all that is going on in your life, so be kind to yourself. Try to get some fresh air if atball
possible, its amazing how much betterbyou feel.
I also like the idea of getting your little guy to sit on your tummy for sit ups!!!! Anything that gets you giggling sounds good
to me. Good luck
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OH SO WRONG! If you are caretaker to a parent battling cancer... Really spending time with your parent is way more important... Hopefully, they recover and you have lots more time with them. (My Dad recovered from his 1st bout of lymphoma and had another 10 good years) But really what will you regret more an extra 3 lbs or time you could have spent with your Mom?It sounds like you're not really committed to change just yet.
If morning workouts are not for you, then work out later in the day. If you have time to sit on the couch, you have time to work out.
Chill... Breath... Dealing with your Mom's sickness, your newly diagnosed food issues and your kid, are your priorities in this moment. You know how to lose weight... You'll get back on track.... If you need to take a break from losing and maintain for a while, don't beat yourself up. Focus on keeping healthy (you can't care for anyone else if you aren't healthy)... and not backsliding... Spend time with your Mom, nurture the relationship between you son and you Mom so he'll have memories...
My Dad had a second bout of cancer, which he did not survive... The 2 year leading up to his death were pretty intense...
but we had time together and time to say good-bye.
Yes, as a caretaker you DO need to make time for yourself... You DO need a break...
Maybe it's social,
Maybe it's "me time" where you don't have to think about doing anything for anyone else...
Maybe work out 1 or 2x a week can actually be a reward instead of chore... It's part of the day when you only have to think about you... For a while I took karate and on a bad day it was awful satisfying to throw punches, even if they only hit air. Or maybe yoga?
I hope everyone is happy and healthy soon.:flowerforyou:0 -
Sorry, but everyone has a life, regardless of being a mom or not. Excuses are excuses no matter what's behind them. There's always someone busier than you who finds...no MAKES time to work out.
i don't think you are being fair. do you have kids to take care of? do you work full time and do everything that she as mom is doing?you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING
OP....I agree with the poster who said you aren't committed to change quite yet. You need to really want it to make it happen. Keep at it, and eventually the things you force yourself to do will become a habit.... You're to tired to get up in the morning because of your weight and lack of exercise....but that can change if you keep working on it, and you'll increase your energy level faster than you think!
You've never had to deal with a seriously ill parent, have you?0 -
Sort of harsh but true. Your mother has cancer and this is very hard to go through. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING0 -
What is your point? In case you didn't know this...pretty much EVERYONE has stress, family pressures, obligations and issues they can use as an excuse. I've been through a lot in my life, and I used them to justify being overweight and inactive all the time, but in the end...its all just excuses and personal choices. We make time for what's important, and shouldn't taking care of yourself be the most important thing there is?
Sorry, but everyone has a life, regardless of being a mom or not. Excuses are excuses no matter what's behind them. There's always someone busier than you who finds...no MAKES time to work out.
i don't think you are being fair. do you have kids to take care of? do you work full time and do everything that she as mom is doing?you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING
OP....I agree with the poster who said you aren't committed to change quite yet. You need to really want it to make it happen. Keep at it, and eventually the things you force yourself to do will become a habit.... You're to tired to get up in the morning because of your weight and lack of exercise....but that can change if you keep working on it, and you'll increase your energy level faster than you think!
You've never had to deal with a seriously ill parent, have you?
The OP came her asking for help with motivation, and telling her that its OK to make excuses is NOT helpful :ohwell:0 -
Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.
-Wayne Dyer
It's about moderation not deprivation. There are no good/bad foods, only bad eating habits. Do or do not, there is no try. You have to want it, you have to work for it, you have to realize that only you can do it.
Read these:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1217573-so-you-want-to-start-running
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13
TL:DR the link right above this one then ->http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/975025-in-place-of-a-road-map-short-n-sweet
Excuses??? http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2014/06/02/the-no-excuses-play-like-a-champion-challenge/
If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal
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Stronglifts Womens Group
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/4601-stronglifts-5x5-for-women0 -
It sounds more like an emotional issue. Being a caretaker and watching someone you love fight cancer takes an emotional toll, which can then zap energy. Can you get an occasional night off to go out and do something fun with friends? Or find a support group... even an online one (here, maybe?) for people who are caretakers. I take care of a 101-year old man pretty much 24/7. Being online is my only social life other than when my family is home. It's HARD to stay motivated when you're overwhelmed with other things. It can be done, though. Give yourself a little grace and remember your reasons for beginning your weight loss process in the first place.
Also...This^^^0 -
you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING
News flash: You're going to die too .0 -
Because of a close friend's child, I often view a blog network regarding Mitochondrial Disease connecting through her blog on the topic. This has led me to www.mitochondrialdepletionsyndrome.blogspot.ca
The reason I thought of it instantly when I read your post? The woman who writes the blog consistently posts the most creative, tasty, DOABLE recipes which address a wide range of food sensitivities (gluten free, corn free, dairy free, soy free, color/chemical free). I haven't noticed any recipes including eggs.
I am sure there is also some lesson in there about how many people are dealing with hard things, even the hardest things, and that is all the more reason to ground yourself in good habits and self care.0 -
I think a lot of what you are going through is emotional as well. If you're taking care of your son and your mother by yourself, you're bound to be tired and feel drained. All the more reason to work out. Exercise will help bring you out of a funk, and help you begin producing the serotonin, HGH, and testosterone that will make you feel more vital and resilient. I speak from experience. Running fights off my tendency towards melancholy. I am the best version of myself when I'm keeping my body happy.
As far as losing B vitamins or whatever from not eating gluten, this may be the time for some tough love. I'm highly reactive to gluten, coffee, and oats. At first, I bought gluten free products like pasta and bread, but that was just a stepping stone to leaving gluten behind completely. Most (not all, most) of the bread products that people consume are empty calories, bleached and processed to within an inch of their lives. My diet is much more nutritionally sound since I gave up gluten because I've replaced all the bread products with whole food.
If you think you are vitamin deficient from your past diet, you can get a blood panel done with a doctor, or you can begin supplementing. Some vitamins have a wax coating on the outside the makes them difficult to digest. If you are digesting the vitamins properly, the B vitamins will turn your pee bright yellow (TMI, I know). Could also be vitamin D deficiency if you live in a cloudy climate.
Alot of what you describe sounds like my symptoms when I was not exercising regularly: Lethargy, depression, and the absolute inability to wake up before 9am. Ever. Some of this may have to do with your cortisol. Many people self-medicate with caffeine because of low energy levels. This makes the stress on your system worse.
Basic plan: Exercise at least once a day whenever you choose. STOP EATING GLUTEN and all of the other inflammatory, allergen and depression producing foods that your body can't tolerate. Stay within your calorie goals. This will be emotional. It's supposed to be if you've got an addiction to a particular food. And best of luck. I know these things can be difficult. Get over the hump, and a whole new world will open up for you.
P.S.: Try a bit of soy or oat cream in your smoothie, or half an avocado. It might help you get that thick texture you're looking for.0 -
you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING
News flash: You're going to die too .
Say it ain't so?!!!0 -
Hi - I would love to be able to giftwrap some motivation and send it to you - sadly I can't. Cut yourself a bit of slack - you are obviously going through some tough times at the moment. However, don't give yourself too many excuses. Firstly, you can lose weight without going somewhere to 'workout'. Personally, I would concentrate on getting your diet right - you need to workout how and what you can eat - don't focus your energy on what you can't eat or what you miss eating. Diet is more important than exercise in the fight to lose weight. Then I would concentrate on what you can do to move more - stop seeing it as 'working out' - just physically move about a bit more. You have a son, play with him more energetically. If you drive to collect him from school - park a little further away - an extra walk is good for both of you - children love to chatter while walking whereas in the car they tend to sit quietly, playing whatever car games they have. A little walk is great for both your health and for parent/child fun. I know it must be hard caring for your mother - try and do whatever chores are necessary with more energy and attitude - walk around the house more while cleaning, etc
'Working out' can seem a chore if you don't really enjoy it - moving more can just be built into daily routines.
I wish you well with your food issues, caring for your mother and in losing weight - Good Luck :flowerforyou:0 -
I too am a caregiver for my mom and I used to get up and go to the gym everyday before work, but I can't do that now too much to do for her before I leave for work and when I get home well let's put it this way if I don't work out in the morning it isn't going to happen. I used to be one of those that never gained weight until I started having hormonal issues in my late 20's now I'll be turning 49 and weigh 190, this morning...tomorrow it will be something different. Any way I've tried so many different diets but I'm not a diet kind of person so the other day I just said to myself "if I don't take care of myself, who will take care of my mom"....so I will say I've started making better choices...not perfect but better. I still mess up but I keep on tackling every day as a clean sheet of paper.
Please know that you aren't alone I totally understand the pressure of taking care of a household as well as careing for an ailing parent. I hope all goes well with your mom I lost my sister to cancer years back my husband and I are raising her son.
Inbox me I can share some time saving tips and stuff that I have found have been working for me....we all can use some help.0 -
What is your point? In case you didn't know this...pretty much EVERYONE has stress, family pressures, obligations and issues they can use as an excuse. I've been through a lot in my life, and I used them to justify being overweight and inactive all the time, but in the end...its all just excuses and personal choices. We make time for what's important, and shouldn't taking care of yourself be the most important thing there is?
Sorry, but everyone has a life, regardless of being a mom or not. Excuses are excuses no matter what's behind them. There's always someone busier than you who finds...no MAKES time to work out.
i don't think you are being fair. do you have kids to take care of? do you work full time and do everything that she as mom is doing?you are GOING TO DIE if you dont get your azz in gear. Are you ready to let your son by motherless? You can sit and complain about food sensitivities or you can do SOMETHING
OP....I agree with the poster who said you aren't committed to change quite yet. You need to really want it to make it happen. Keep at it, and eventually the things you force yourself to do will become a habit.... You're to tired to get up in the morning because of your weight and lack of exercise....but that can change if you keep working on it, and you'll increase your energy level faster than you think!
You've never had to deal with a seriously ill parent, have you?
The OP came her asking for help with motivation, and telling her that its OK to make excuses is NOT helpful :ohwell:
Hmmm? you never did answer the question "You've never had to deal with a seriously ill parent, have you?"
Different things motivate different people... who is to say what is helpful... In my previous post merely suggested she put her health before an number on the scale. And to cherish the time she has with her Mom.
Personally, I feel that no matter what your life circumstances healthy should come before skinny.0
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