Mothers Day And Grandma

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  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?

    You can't just make up a holiday because you're selfish, it doesn't work that way.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    It sounds like a bigger issue than just Mother's Day....

    I think she just doesn't like the lady. Which doesn't give her the right to steal mother's day away or anything, but explains this whole thread.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?
    K you are right then.


    carry on and enjoy your day.
  • spinnerdell
    spinnerdell Posts: 233 Member
    As a mother of children who are grown up and busy with children of their own, I feel qualified to tell you the time your family spends with her on Mother's Day means more to her than you can imagine. Time flies- you may be in her position someday.
  • Kiyalynn
    Kiyalynn Posts: 128 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?

    You can't just make up a holiday because you're selfish, it doesn't work that way.
    Didn't make it up. LOOKED IT UP... its a official USA holiday... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Grandparents_Day
  • paperalien
    paperalien Posts: 167 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?

    I think making a grandparents day is a lovely idea.

    But she is still his mother and so is still a mother and so still deserves a mothers day!
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?

    You can't just make up a holiday because you're selfish, it doesn't work that way.


    Whoa whoa. Grandparents day is not made up

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Grandparents_Day



    That said it's great to celebrate that, by letting her MiL do stuff with kiddies That has nothing to do with her MiL doing stuff with on MOTHER'S DAY with her own SON
  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
    GRANDPARENTS day demotes her. She was a MOTHER first and a grandmother second because her son decided to knock up an ignorant, selfish person...


    She gets Mother's Day. /thread
  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 22,001 Member


    How would you feel if your children had children and then started to do absolutely nothing for you on mothers day....

    I can sure tell you how my wife felt when her Son only spent 30 minutes with her on Mothers day cause he had to run over to his mother-in-laws. Damn near broke her heart. :cry: :
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?

    Even when I am wrong, I am kind of right.
  • bajoyba
    bajoyba Posts: 1,153 Member
    I'm not a mother yet.

    But so far, my husband and I celebrate Mother's Day with as many mothers as we can (meaning both of our mothers, sisters/cousins with children, aunts, and grandmothers).

    When I'm a mother, I plan on continuing to celebrate all of the mothers in my family, especially my mother and mother-in-law. Why? I wouldn't be the person I am without my mother, and without my mother-in-law, I wouldn't have the amazing man I'm married to. One of the many things I love about my husband is the love and respect he has for both of our mothers. Celebrating Mother's Day with the woman who gave birth to my husband is a celebration of her contribution to my life and the lives of my (future) children.
  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?

    You can't just make up a holiday because you're selfish, it doesn't work that way.
    Didn't make it up. LOOKED IT UP... its a official USA holiday... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Grandparents_Day

    Regardless.

    The fact that you can't understand why your husband gets to spend MOTHERS DAY WITH HIS MOTHER blows my mind.
  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?

    Even when I am wrong, I am kind of right.

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  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 22,001 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?

    Then I'm afraid you don"t know what lonely is yet.

    No I don't think your horrible, just think you might not have thought it all the way thru.
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    Grandmothers were mothers first.
  • Kiyalynn
    Kiyalynn Posts: 128 Member
    I guess I Just have no idea about mothers day... My family growing up didn't celebrate it... I made my mom something... and that was it... We didn't go out to eat... My mothers mom was dead... My father usually wasn't talking to his mom... and no one was willing to wait in lines to go to dinner... there was no taking out the aunts, or cousins.... so Mothers day was me making something for my mother was the end of it. This mothers day... I was the only one who told my mother happy mothers day, (including the fact I have a older brother)... and she felt bad for forgetting to call me earlier to tell me happy mothers day first.
  • paperalien
    paperalien Posts: 167 Member
    I think you should ask YOUR mother how she would feel if she lived close to you and you refused to go see HER on mothers day.

    I don't think she would feel to loved with that.


    I am sure you say happy mothers day to her on Mothers day? You have one of your mothers living close, in my opinion you should cherish her!
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,342 Member
    So... when your kid grows up and gets married and has kids and your husband has passed away, and all of a sudden you don't get included on Mother's Day - how are you going to feel? And be honest here. You care enough about this day now to want to exclude your husband's mother, regardless of it being *Mothers* Day, so I don't think I'm going to believe you when you say you'd be fine with that.

    It's Mothers Day. That's for all mothers, not just you as a Mother.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    OP, flat out full stop honesty right now: Mother's day is NOT about you and your husband. You are NOT his mother. He isn't obligated to do more then kiss you on the forehead, thank you for making him some babies, and then leaving you to enjoy the day with said babies. It IS NOT your day with him. It's your day with your mother and your children and his day with HIS MOTHER.

    Not you and him.

    Him and her.

    There's a special day all about you and your husband. It's called Valentines day. I hear it's in February. Lots of red and chocolate? You heard of it?
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    I think you need to think a bit down the road, If you where alone would you want to have you children see you on that day even if they had their own families ?
    No, I don't think I would... because MY DAUGHTER deserves to have her mothers day. And I think that knowing I will be a young widower... My husband is 45. (Yeah I know you guys will think I'm even more horrible knowing that). But seriously did None hear me say we could start a new tradition of having GRANDPARENTS day? you know... the first Sunday after labor day?

    Even when I am wrong, I am kind of right.

    welp.gif

    I am a MFing wizard.
  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member
    I guess I Just have no idea about mothers day... My family growing up didn't celebrate it... I made my mom something... and that was it... We didn't go out to eat... My mothers mom was dead... My father usually wasn't talking to his mom... and no one was willing to wait in lines to go to dinner... there was no taking out the aunts, or cousins.... so Mothers day was me making something for my mother was the end of it. This mothers day... I was the only one who told my mother happy mothers day, (including the fact I have a older brother)... and she felt bad for forgetting to call me earlier to tell me happy mothers day first.

    So why are you trying to take mothers day away from your husbands mother??
  • paperalien
    paperalien Posts: 167 Member
    I guess I Just have no idea about mothers day... My family growing up didn't celebrate it... I made my mom something... and that was it... We didn't go out to eat... My mothers mom was dead... My father usually wasn't talking to his mom... and no one was willing to wait in lines to go to dinner... there was no taking out the aunts, or cousins.... so Mothers day was me making something for my mother was the end of it. This mothers day... I was the only one who told my mother happy mothers day, (including the fact I have a older brother)... and she felt bad for forgetting to call me earlier to tell me happy mothers day first.

    For my family Mothers day and Fathers day is just one big fat Marketing ploy day but I would never ever not spend time with my mother and my partners mother on mothers day.
  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
    I guess I Just have no idea about mothers day... My family growing up didn't celebrate it... I made my mom something... and that was it... We didn't go out to eat... My mothers mom was dead... My father usually wasn't talking to his mom... and no one was willing to wait in lines to go to dinner... there was no taking out the aunts, or cousins.... so Mothers day was me making something for my mother was the end of it. This mothers day... I was the only one who told my mother happy mothers day, (including the fact I have a older brother)... and she felt bad for forgetting to call me earlier to tell me happy mothers day first.

    So why are you trying to take mothers day away from your husbands mother??

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  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    I guess I Just have no idea about mothers day... My family growing up didn't celebrate it... I made my mom something... and that was it... We didn't go out to eat... My mothers mom was dead... My father usually wasn't talking to his mom... and no one was willing to wait in lines to go to dinner... there was no taking out the aunts, or cousins.... so Mothers day was me making something for my mother was the end of it. This mothers day... I was the only one who told my mother happy mothers day, (including the fact I have a older brother)... and she felt bad for forgetting to call me earlier to tell me happy mothers day first.

    It's not a big deal to everyone but from what you have said, it is to your Mother in Law. And it also seems that your husband feels it is important.
  • Kiyalynn
    Kiyalynn Posts: 128 Member
    As a mother of children who are grown up and busy with children of their own, I feel qualified to tell you the time your family spends with her on Mother's Day means more to her than you can imagine. Time flies- you may be in her position someday.

    Thank you for that... This is the only post of the night that has givin me helpful advice without making me feel like a jerk.
  • Alissakae
    Alissakae Posts: 317 Member
    I invite my parents and in-laws (just mother-in-law now) to come to my house for a homemade dinner every Mother's Day and Father's Day. I have seven children, six of them on their own now, and I invite them as well and hope to see as many as possible. It's a wonderful FAMILY day. I say the more the merrier.
  • Kiyalynn
    Kiyalynn Posts: 128 Member
    I guess I Just have no idea about mothers day... My family growing up didn't celebrate it... I made my mom something... and that was it... We didn't go out to eat... My mothers mom was dead... My father usually wasn't talking to his mom... and no one was willing to wait in lines to go to dinner... there was no taking out the aunts, or cousins.... so Mothers day was me making something for my mother was the end of it. This mothers day... I was the only one who told my mother happy mothers day, (including the fact I have a older brother)... and she felt bad for forgetting to call me earlier to tell me happy mothers day first.

    It's not a big deal to everyone but from what you have said, it is to your Mother in Law. And it also seems that your husband feels it is important.
    My husband doesn't care.... He just agrees when his mom goes "your buying me ---- for mothers day" the MIL is the one who initiates everything... in fact shes going so overboard with Fathers day its STRESSING THE FATHER out.
  • paperalien
    paperalien Posts: 167 Member
    It may not have been important to you as a kid, but it seems to be important to you now.

    How about you show your kids how mothers day is important to show your love for all the mothers in their lives?

    That sounds like a good tradition to me.... Respecting and showing love to all the mothers
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    As a mother of children who are grown up and busy with children of their own, I feel qualified to tell you the time your family spends with her on Mother's Day means more to her than you can imagine. Time flies- you may be in her position someday.

    Thank you for that... This is the only post of the night that has givin me helpful advice without making me feel like a jerk.

    I meannnnnn

    You're kind a jerk? Not being mean or anything (I'm a jerk too, so no hate) but let's call a spade a spade. You want to steal a holiday that you claim isn't important to you form someone who it is important to just the for the sake of it? That's straight jerk behavior.
  • Kiyalynn
    Kiyalynn Posts: 128 Member
    As a mother of children who are grown up and busy with children of their own, I feel qualified to tell you the time your family spends with her on Mother's Day means more to her than you can imagine. Time flies- you may be in her position someday.

    Thank you for that... This is the only post of the night that has givin me helpful advice without making me feel like a jerk.

    I meannnnnn

    You're kind a jerk? Not being mean or anything (I'm a jerk too, so no hate) but let's call a spade a spade. You want to steal a holiday that you claim isn't important to you form someone who it is important to just the for the sake of it? That's straight jerk behavior.
    I just didn't realize it was normal behavior to include everyone... somehow I thought it was about my relationship with my daughter.