Cut the negativity and welcome change

amen, sister

I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

Good luck.

I agree but this idea won't be well received by those who refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Exercise and diet can have a significant impact on psychological and physical well being!

This statement will not be well received by anyone with any understanding of, background in, or experience with mental health issues.

I nominate it as The Most Ignorant Statement On MFP 2014.

I don't like threads where the original poster tells everyone else what they're doing wrong. It is indicative that their focus is on external things that are out of their control, rather on internal things that they can control.

What true words of wisdom!!!

I feel as though people like to take their focus on their unhappiness out on here, which is now why I am so selective as to post anything/ reply to anything at all. Heaven forbid with some of the people on here that your thoughts conflict with their thoughts.

Good luck on your weight loss journey! I'm sending lots of encouragement your way!

dey's just hangry

Don't forget low on vitamin D, apparently.

Or that it's your personal responsibility.

Right on! I love your perspective!

I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

Good luck.

I agree but this idea won't be well received by those who refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Exercise and diet can have a significant impact on psychological and physical well being!

This statement will not be well received by anyone with any understanding of, background in, or experience with mental health issues.

I nominate it as The Most Ignorant Statement On MFP 2014.

:explode: x1000000000

Wow.

ETA: I'll just make sure to tell my brain chemistry to get it together and take personal responsibility. Good one, dude.

I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

Good luck.

I agree but this idea won't be well received by those who refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Exercise and diet can have a significant impact on psychological and physical well being!

This statement will not be well received by anyone with any understanding of, background in, or experience with mental health issues.

I nominate it as The Most Ignorant Statement On MFP 2014.

Many, many, many people LOVE to take those pills....and to do nothing else.

Everyone is at a different place in their journey we are all here for the same reasons.


Here is something that someone sent to me this week that gave me a huge push in the right direction - it was not meant for my weight issues it was meant about life in general.... The person in my life did not want to hurt me but felt I needed a reminder that I had a choice of how I deal with things that happen in my life.

I was definitely playing the Role of a Victim!!

Read on if you want food for thought - don't read if your going to take it personally....

Do you know what role you are playing?

When we are playing the role of a victim, we develop the delusion of being on moral high ground as a result of having unjust suffering inflicted upon us.

To be a VICTIM is look out the window of who did something to us and who can be blamed. Victims don’t look inward at the personal role they play in their situations, events or relationships.

Victims feel it is a good way to attract sympathy, attention, and get them off the hook.

It becomes easy to invent a victim story. “Poor me…They did it to me again.” With a good victim story, people assign fault and blame and spend lots of time suffering.

When we are being a victim, we ask…

“Why did this happen to me? Whose fault is it?
Who can I blame?”

This can be a compelling position for some as it keeps them in denial, induces guilt, feeds their low self-esteem and transfers blame to others.

A much more effective approach is to see the circumstances and accept them as they are and ask:

“Now what? Given that this is so, what am I going to do?”
“How did what I did or didn’t do play a critical role in the events turning out as they did?”

Signs of victim behavior…

Ø Procrastinate, not keep agreements, and invent terrific stories to explain why it wasn’t my fault.
Ø Victims tend to complain without a possible solution attached
Ø Victims blame others and point out their faults
Ø Victims often see things a half empty and express negative feelings or thoughts
Ø Victims suffer from all of life’s problems, become easily confused or frustrated, and already think they know everything.

Since I read this small things in my life have changed - how I looked at my circumstances, how I chose to talk to and treat my husband, how I ate, how I tracked, how I worked out, how I slept... and how little wine I needed - LOL

I hope this helps someone out there!

Happy Friday!

Everybody has issues. I'm sorry that you felt the advice was unwanted, but judging from your picture, you didn't need it to begin with.

OP really? Talk about negativity... you know not how that person got so fit...or where they started.... judge much