i dont want to lie

1FearlessFighter
1FearlessFighter Posts: 114 Member
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every time i say i don't want something such as cake, it always seems to cause a fuss; "its just some cake, go on go on" "its not going to hurt you``' blah blah blah, so ive found the best way to do this is to say i have an allergy so its ends full stop and they realise there is no way i can have that food, so i say im lactose intolerant, but that doesnt cover all the unhealthy foods in the world and i eat a 500g pot of yoghurt a day so i don't know what to do. how do you cope with people pressurising you to eat something when you dont want to
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  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    It's been my experience that people felt the need to "rescue" me from my diet. I think they felt that I was asking them to give me permission or talk me into it so that I would feel better for indulging. I wasn't and I stuck to my plan 9 times out of 10. In most cases (but not all) if you stick to just saying no thanks and don't let them pressure you, people will get the idea and back off after a while. Especially once they start to notice your success. It's annoying, but it did go away (for me, at least).
  • Annesoucy1957
    Annesoucy1957 Posts: 125
    just say that you do not want it, no need to justify, a simple NO and change the subject. they will eventually stop offering.
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    just say that you do not want it, no need to justify, a simple NO and change the subject. they will eventually stop offering.




    THIS^^^ all day long!
  • SCV34
    SCV34 Posts: 2,048 Member
    every time i say i don't want something such as cake, it always seems to cause a fuss; "its just some cake, go on go on" "its not going to hurt you``' blah blah blah, so ive found the best way to do this is to say i have an allergy so its ends full stop and they realise there is no way i can have that food, so i say im lactose intolerant, but that doesnt cover all the unhealthy foods in the world and i eat a 500g pot of yoghurt a day so i don't know what to do. how do you cope with people pressurising you to eat something when you dont want to

    I would just ignore it, let it go and move on. If I don't want something I just say no thank you and that is the end of it.

    Saying you are allergic to something when you are not, in my opinion isn't ok to do.
  • IoveIy
    IoveIy Posts: 27 Member
    just say that you do not want it, no need to justify, a simple NO and change the subject. they will eventually stop offering.




    THIS^^^ all day long!


    Totally agree. After a few refusals, they'll stop offering, and even if for some reason they don't, just keep refusing it and don't let what anyone says or thinks get in the way of what's best for you. Anyone who cares about feeding their body nutritious food will agree that cake is a no-no. You can just say that you just like to eat healthy. :)
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    you don't OWE anyone a reason as to what you DO or do NOT put in your mouth. There are a plethora of di*k jokes I"m sure that could be made with that but really just say you don't want the fu*king cake and move on.

    or tell them if you want to look like them- you'll eat like them.

    it's not that serious.
  • pleasurelittletreasure
    pleasurelittletreasure Posts: 236 Member
    When I was younger and 'skinny', I would say "No, thank you" which worked on everyone but family. They would always push the matter. "But your so skinny! We need to fatten you up!" I would just say I would prefer to have my fruit later. Wish I would have stuck with that once I hit 40. Now I say, "As you can see, I obviously don't need that." Works like a charm.
  • lisalsd1
    lisalsd1 Posts: 1,519 Member
    No thanks, I'm not hungry.
  • navygrrl
    navygrrl Posts: 517 Member
    No is a complete sentence.
  • kaseyr1505
    kaseyr1505 Posts: 624 Member
    Just say "I do not want any, please stop asking." It's kind of silly to lie about that.
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    Don't lie. What happens when you do want that piece of cake but nobody offers it to you because you're "allergic?"

    Lies backfire.

    Just say "I really don't want it."

    "It was nice to offer it to me, but I won't eat it."

    "It'll just go to waste. Better to give it to someone who will eat it because I just hate wasting food."

    Say more than no. Say you aren't going to eat it.
  • forkofpower
    forkofpower Posts: 171 Member
    Don't need to lie about it -- it's not that big of a deal. Just tell them no. If you're consistent, they'll stop eventually.
  • chilly1470
    chilly1470 Posts: 178 Member
    Agreed, you are the captain of your own destiny and you owe no one an explanation. And you don't have to lie. Point blank, NO THANK YOU.
  • RINat612
    RINat612 Posts: 251 Member
    every time i say i don't want something such as cake, it always seems to cause a fuss; "its just some cake, go on go on" "its not going to hurt you``' blah blah blah, so ive found the best way to do this is to say i have an allergy so its ends full stop and they realise there is no way i can have that food, so i say im lactose intolerant, but that doesnt cover all the unhealthy foods in the world and i eat a 500g pot of yoghurt a day so i don't know what to do. how do you cope with people pressurising you to eat something when you dont want to

    I know what you're going through. My wife turns down cup cakes and stuff all the time and the over-weight co-workers will leave a cupcake on her desk. I suggest doing what my wife did:

    Wife: "I don't want your God da*ned cupcake!!!!!"
    *Drops cupcake into trashcan by desk*
  • Meerataila
    Meerataila Posts: 1,885 Member
    every time i say i don't want something such as cake, it always seems to cause a fuss; "its just some cake, go on go on" "its not going to hurt you``' blah blah blah, so ive found the best way to do this is to say i have an allergy so its ends full stop and they realise there is no way i can have that food, so i say im lactose intolerant, but that doesnt cover all the unhealthy foods in the world and i eat a 500g pot of yoghurt a day so i don't know what to do. how do you cope with people pressurising you to eat something when you dont want to

    I know what you're going through. My wife turns down cup cakes and stuff all the time and the over-weight co-workers will leave a cupcake on her desk. I suggest doing what my wife did:

    Wife: "I don't want your God da*ned cupcake!!!!!"
    *Drops cupcake into trashcan by desk*

    :laugh: Probably not the best career move, but I sympathize! I've worked at some places that must have read some management book or other promising workers would slave away for less money if fed treats. (Actually, I know I did read that in a management book once. The cheap *kitten*!)
  • Leggylass
    Leggylass Posts: 215
    I put them off by starting to rant about how many calories sugar sait blah blah are in that cake or take away and what its doing to their bodies, just make it up as I go along until the say, I'm not on your diet though, then I reply EXACTLY! Shush :bigsmile:
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  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    This is one reason why I'm glad I can't eat dairy (the other is because I'd be 4000 lbs because I wouldn't stop eating cheese and ice cream). I pull the dairy card all the time, even if it doesn't have any. Nobody knows for sure ;)
  • Meerataila
    Meerataila Posts: 1,885 Member
    I think if someone gets pushy I'll start saying I'm living the grossatarian lifestyle. If they're fool enough to ask what that is, I'll start telling them about all the gross things in their food.

    Don't click unless you really don't want to be hungry. Ever. Again.

    http://www.businessinsider.com/11-disgusting-ingredients-that-arent-advertised-in-food-2012-3?op=1#ixzz1qYZOG1QU

    This one is even more disgusting:

    http://www.independentlivingnews.com/foods/community-updates/20858-maggots-in-your-food.stml#.U6yXQfldXq8
  • littleburgy
    littleburgy Posts: 570 Member
    Nobody needs to know your nutritional goals -- it's none of their business. I usually just say "No, thanks" and if they ask why, I just tell them I'm not in the mood for it, or not hungry. I never told anyone I was dieting because I didn't want anyone to be up my butt about it.

    Stand your ground. They'll just have to get over it.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    If I'm not going to eat something I never give the reason. I just say no thanks. If they push it I just keep saying no thanks. No further explanation. I've never had anyone ask more than a couple of times.
  • ponycyndi
    ponycyndi Posts: 858 Member
    No, thank you.

    I have had to resort to telling people I have diabetes. That works, because I have to control what goes in my mouth, how much, and when. Just like when I'm losing weight! But, it also means I CAN have treats, I just have to budget for them.
  • Flacachica
    Flacachica Posts: 328 Member
    Yep, just "no thanks, I'm good". Pretty soon it becomes awkward and they look like the weird one (if they keep pushing it....)
  • Jessie24330
    Jessie24330 Posts: 224 Member
    I have the problem with my best friend. Every time we are together she wants to share whatever she has with me, which is sweet of her but I am learning to not eat when I am not hungry and to make healthier decision when I am. Of course, I still eat "junk" when I have a large desire for it and it fits in my calories but that is off the point. She will keep offering and I decline. It starts out very polite and gets a little firmer until just short of "shut up I don't want to eat 300 calories I don't need" she realizes that she should just move on. I think it is a combination of her wanting to be nice and share and her being jealous that I said I was going to do this and I am while she said she was going to do this and she tried for ONE day.

    Don't lie, it only causes more problems than it is worth but be firm and don't back down. And as someone else said above, in the end, you don't even have to give them a reason. It is your body and you don't have to justify why you don't want to put something into it. Thank them for the offer and move on to the next subject.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    This honestly never happens to me. Maybe it's because I don't make a fuss out of food, or maybe it's the company I keep, or who knows what, but I simply say "no thank you" and that's it.
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    I say "sorry, but I'm cutting right now" and make them admire my delts.
  • Cjmi427
    Cjmi427 Posts: 26 Member
    I say, "I really don't have much of a sweet tooth." But that's actually true, cake and ice cream are ok and sometimes I want it, but it's usually not worth it to me.
    Plus, I can't tolerate dairy like I used to, so sometimes if it's family or close friends, I'll say, "I don't want to feel like crap later."
  • jltheis7
    jltheis7 Posts: 496 Member
    Try this nonconfrontational statement, "not right now, perhaps I'll have it later"; if they push, I just put it aside for later and get rid of it. What does it matter if I throw it away or if I ate it and later flushed it away. They got their need to give to me met and I got my need to make my own choices without either of us losing to the other. Once I'm not in the moment, in private, I have gently told the person "I need your help to continue to make healthy choices for now. Please trust that I have educated myself well on what I should or should not eat at any given time and accept when I say no thank you. If you really want to help, please have fresh fruit next time so I can eat that with you. This is really hard for me and it would mean the world to have your support." It has really helped people be there for me and some even find healthy low calorie foods that they include the next time for everyone to choose if they'd like.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I just say, "No thank you". No is enough. No reason needed. But, people don't try to pressure me to eat things. Just keep saying no.
  • Atrocity108
    Atrocity108 Posts: 328 Member
    I have a friend of mine that is always trying to feed me. Saying "I NEED TO EAT" because I used to eat like he did, what ever he and I saw, we would destroy. Now, I eat healthy and he keeps on eating the not-so-healthy stuff. I just dont think he really gets it.

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