i dont want to lie

"No thanks, ate already."

Just say No Thanks. End of conversation.

If they force the cake on you, like just bring it to you without asking you first if you wanted any.. accept it, then wait until they leave then throw it away.

or option 3 - plan a few bites of cake into your daily calories. You don't have to eat a ton of it. Just a taste is often enough. Unless that sugar is a diet trigger for you, then just ditch it quietly.

Why do you have to give someone a reason. Just say no thank you.

every time i say i don't want something such as cake, it always seems to cause a fuss; "its just some cake, go on go on" "its not going to hurt you``' blah blah blah, so ive found the best way to do this is to say i have an allergy so its ends full stop and they realise there is no way i can have that food, so i say im lactose intolerant, but that doesnt cover all the unhealthy foods in the world and i eat a 500g pot of yoghurt a day so i don't know what to do. how do you cope with people pressurising you to eat something when you dont want to

Why not a simple. No thankyou? Why make it so complicated?

I do sympathise because my nan is the same she will keep asking and asking and asking if she can give you cake, biscuits, chocolate, more cake- you name it! It almost feels rude to keep saying no thank you, no really I'm fine thank you.. Etc. And it's easier to just say 'okay but just a small one please'. And although it is true that you don't need to explain your choice about food or your goals with others but because we are very close I took her aside and just explained that I am really trying to get in shape which means moderating what I eat so by all means offer but if I decline please don't push me on it- trust me I won't go hungry! But with colleagues or people who you arnt as close with that may not be appropriate. As others have said it may just be best to say 'no thank you' and don't entertain the conversation any longer- change the subject and they should respect that! Good luck!

Say no thanks. And then remind yourself you're doing this for you. No one has the right to make you feel guilty or pressure you into eating, and you are not responsible for making other people feel better about what they eat.

Your long term health and happiness is worth a moment or two of social awkwardness.

Personally, I'm not into lying to get out of eating something- I think you need to own your choices and stand up for yourself. What you tell the world, you are subconsciously telling yourself. If you're not proud of what you're doing, why do it?

I also eat 3 meals and a snack a day, so "I just ate" is never a lie.

If someone insists on attempting to give me food after I have said no, then THEY are the ones being rude.

Just try and remember people pushing food is usually more about them then you.

I worked with a woman years ago who had some sort of ED. She loved to lecture people about food. I said no to a donut once and she spent the next hour tryign to get me to eat one. Later when I commented to a co-worker they laughed...she couldn't lecture me about it if I didn't eat it.

If i were in that situation, I would say "no" once or twice, but if they continued to insist, I'd tell them it would be a waste of food. If they still offered, I'd accept it ppolitely, find the nearest trash can, and blatently drop it into the trash. If they saw me throw it out (which I hoped they did), I'd remind them that I said it would be a waste of food.

Here's the way I see it.. much like most I guess. Anyway...
If it's a work thing, and these people are work colleagues you see all the time, you could be proactive about it. Approach them before the food is in the office, tell them you working on your healthy lifestyle. Bring it up in conversation beforehand, especially if you know that being asked if you want cake or cookies or whatever is a big struggle point for you.

When you are honest with people about your efforts, they tend to have more respect. They will then know that next time they ask and you say no, it's not an attempt to be polite or whatever, that you are doing it for a real reason.

Not that it's not a real reason, but with my own life... People have tried to insist these things on me because they assume that my refusal of the treat is out of a fear of judgment regarding the fact that I am overweight. That is, that I must be saying no because I don't want to look like a "fatty." and therefore, they insist in their way to say, no really, it's okay, you can have a treat, we won't judge you. Sometimes, even with the fact that I am obviously fat, if I say in that moment "Well, I'm trying to count my calories" they'll say something about wiggle room...

But the reality of it is, unless you really don't have the room for it, there's no reason to refuse if you want it. If you don't want it, just say a firm no. No excuses, and certainly don't claim allergies or whatever because next thing you know, your boss will be at your desk "I heard that you have food allergies and I was wondering what they are so we can make sure the office stays safe!" or you'll have friends always watching what you eat to make sure you won't "die." Food allergies are no joke, and yes people take them seriously, but you don't want them to take it too far. Otherwise, if you want the cake or whatever, just ask for the nutrition facts label. If it's homemade, ask the brands/ingredients/recipe name. Have a serving size. When you do things like this, people do notice, but it sometimes makes them reconsider their own slice of cake, and can ultimately lead to fewer temptations as the consciousness of the foods spreads to those around you, and people make better choices overall as to what kind of snack they should have today.

Good luck!

I just cheerfully say "no, thanks!". People rarely ask twice, and if they do they get the same answer. Make it boring by not making a big deal of it.

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Tell them your diet is ordered by a doctor if they ask why you can say cholesterol levels or blood pressure if your not over weight!

I find the pushy ones don't want you to eat the cake, they want your consent to eat it themselves . If everyone's eating cake, it makes it ok.