My dad just passed away. Lost my motivation

Oh sweetie, I have no advice but I'm so sorry. Big hugs

Hello. I seen your post and I first want to say Im sorry for your loss. I had a similar thing happen to me years ago only mine was with my cousin who was like a brother to me.

Shell,

You have your whole life ahead of you and innumerable things that you could do. Be sad that he's gone, but know that he is still with you in spirit and would want you to succeed at all goals that you set, and achieve all things that you desire. I know it's not going to be an easy road, but you can do it. Life is a constant uphill battle. You can chose to let it slow you down, or you can keep the beat and lift those feet and make up some time that you could be losing by dragging down.. All your MFPeeps have your back and know that whatever you put your mind to, you can achieve. You got this!

~Kevin

I went through something similarishh My very close friend, a cousin who might as well been my brother, and my grandpa who i grew up living with all died in 2 months.. and my husband also become unemployed...
I gave up too. It took me way too long to get back on the right track. I'd hate for that to happen to you, because according to your ticker.. you are doing amazing and have came A LONG WAYS.

I am very positive your father would not want his death to cause you to give up. I was told this too. I knew they were right.. but it didn't change the hurt inside of me. I wish I could go back and just work out and eat right despite how i felt. and just done it..

Don't loose this time in your life.. left your grief drive you. Don't get me wrong.. you need to heal... but don't let yourself go..

*hugs*

I am so sorry for your loss. {{{hugs}}}} When my mother died, I was shocked to find I had no energy for running. I think I may have gone through the motions with weights, but I was void of all strength. Just keep going. It will come back, I promise. I was starting to worry that I'd never find my legs again, but I did, and I'm so happy. Your dad would want you to get back up and do it.

Take care of yourself.

so sorry for your loss, (((HUGS)) prayers going out to you and your family in this sad time. Just take time to greive and do what you need to do, don't beat yourself up for not eating perfectly right now ok, give yourself some time to heal, and when your ready you can always come back and slowly start making better eating choices... and sense your Dad passed of a major heart attack, that should be some encouragement to try to get healthier, when your ready of course... you don't have to rush.

anyways hang in there ok.... and take time to take care of yourself, and surround yourself around good family and freinds for now..ok.

Take care
God Bless

I lost my father March 30 of this year. He was only 48 years old and I am 22. It was something that I just didn't want to believe. I will tell you right now that the pain will be there and you will always miss him but eventually you will think back on him with happier thoughts. But it's hard, even now for myself. But stay around love ones and cry when you need to and talk when you want to. That is what helped me a lot during these times.

I completely understand how you feel. I was also at school and left for a week and lucky for me, the following week was spring break. I spent two weeks back home. I can tell you that on some days, I ate very little. Other days, i did nothing but eat. My mom's family came over every day of those 2 weeks to bring food to make sure we were eating and had food. Honestly, I'm glad they were there to make sure we ate something and to make sure we weren't wasting away in bed.

At the beginning of the second week I weighed myself and was about 175. In a way, I felt powerless with the death of my father and I needed to be in control over something. After a week of over/under eating, I went back to watching what I was eating. I wasn't counting calories or logging anything at first, I just made sure to eat what I considered was at maintenance. After a month of doing just that, I went back to calorie counting and tracking what I was eating. I realized that I had to continue with my life and my father wouldn't have wanted me to fall back where I use to be. He was so proud I was changing my eating habits and becoming healthier and more confident as I continued to lose the weight. It actually inspired him to start doing the same. Unfortunately, he started too late.

Right now I'm 170 but I only weighed myself a few days ago. It was difficult and I did lose my motivation. I didn't start logging again until a month later. It takes time though. I would say to not worry right about food and make sure you are eating atleast something. When you feel ready to start again, it will happen.

If you want to talk, my messages are always open (I think). I send you a lot of love and support.

I am very sorry your father died. When my sister passed I did the same thing with food myself. What I will tell you is try to take a short walk daily not just for physical health but mental as well it helps clear the mind. This sounds cliquish but over time the hurt and pain subsides, you'll always miss them but it won't hurt as much.

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take the time to grieve and don't be too hard on yourself. :flowerforyou:

Take this advice, and I'm so sorry for your loss. My mother-in-law died in a car accident about two years ago, and losing someone so unexptectedly is very difficult on those they leave behind.

I do have a friend who started running (her own version of thearpy) after losing both parents in a relatively short time span, and she found it to be very helpful to get lost in that alone time on the road. You will get your motivation back in time...this is still so new.

Hang in there...time makes all things easier :flowerforyou:

I wanted to add - I have let my father's passing open my eyes a lot. I know now why I have to take better care of my body. And I also know I need to really live life to the fullest because it can be cut short at any moment.