Is it rude?

Bring it if you can't find a way to eat what they offer. There are more important things about getting together with family than what you eat. Enjoy the visit, and the catching up with family. You are responsible for what you put in your mouth, it is not up to anyone else.

I would bring something to share with the group. You can always bring the leftovers back home and use it as your lunches for the next week.

Bringing your own food just for you would be a little rude, but so is a host who doesn't try to make his guests comfortable. If you know they won't accommmodate you by providing healthy options, and you know that they're open to having other people bring dishes to share (bringing dishes to a meal that's not a potluck can be rude, too), then bring food to share even if you know you're the only person who will eat it. You never know; maybe someone else will want a healthier option, too.

If none of this feels comfortable, then eat healthily before you go and eat what they serve, but in small portions.

I did the same thing.....but for a weekend trip. Although in my case I left room for dinner with my friends, but ate my packed food the rest of the trip. I too was worried about being made fun of, but luckily my friends were supportive and had no issue with it. Maybe bring your food and a veggie tray to share. Even people that aren't into super healthy eating will nibble on veggies I've found. I usually make a dip with greek yogurt and hidden valley ranch seasoning. Most people think its sour cream anyhow and have no idea its yogurt!

Personally I would bring a dish with enough to share if I was sure there was not going to be suitable food for me. You can always take it home if no one else has any.

Simply make a dish that you can share with everyone. If they don't eat it, yayyy you've got lunch the rest of the week

Make a seven layer salad or a veggie/fruit tray. That way it looks like you are contributing and you'll have something to eat. Who cares if anyone else eats it or not? At least they have the option.

To answer your question, I don't think it is rude but I think my suggestion above would give you less hassle.

I agree with the "share with the group" thought. Last BBQ I attended, I took turkey burgers for the grill and a giant bowl of fruit salad. No one else ate the turkey burgers, but I had a healthier option and the fruit was a big hit. I sampled a few small bites of some the the less healthy options and no one thought a thing about my meal choices. Good Luck.

I usually take a vegetable/fruit tray to any potluck to make sure I have something healthy to eat. I have also found that when I take a bag of baked chips or Kellogs cracker chips, they are usually the first thing gone. People want to eat healthy when it is available to them... If they don't have the option they will gorge on the unhealthy options. Take a couple healthy options that you enjoy, and eat a little of both yours and theirs.

Rude no - odd yes.....

My plan is to workout and eat before I go to the planned 4th of July BBQ - no one will notice me not eating but they would def. notice if I brought my own food.

I don't think it's rude AT ALL. Your body. You control what goes in it.

I had a similar situation with my family. I felt like I had to eat whatever fried/sugary stuff they gave me, but guess what, I don't. What made it worse was that they would force food on me so much 24/7, and when I finally got fed up of saying 'no thanks, no thanks' like a parrot and took some, they'd make some snarky comment like 'I thought you were slimming!' And they never made any secret of the fact I was fat and needed to lose weight.

Think of this way: if you were diabetic, and couldn't eat what they gave you, would they be offended? If you were allergic and couldn't eat their pumpkin pie (or whatever), would you feel bad then? No. Well, this is the same, it's your body and you're trying to keep it healthy.

Just my 2c

I would bring something to share with the group. You can always bring the leftovers back home and use it as your lunches for the next week.

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if someone brought their own"meal" to a get together..ehh..it doesnt look good..I wouldnt do it..and Id be offended if someone did it at a function I was putting on.

I spent last weekend with my sister and came back four pounds heavier, which was very dis-heartening.

If it's possible to eat healthy while, do it.

Right now I'm so upset about the gain I'm almost thinking of canceling our next get together, which is downright rotten to cancel a visit because you can't maintain weight around family, but family will do that too you.

Sometimes you have no other option than to eat what they eat, or not eat at all.

My beloved sister literally lives over an hour away from a grocery store.

I think I'll continue to visit, but holy mother of the gods on Asgard NOT WITHOUT AN ICE CHEST OF ASA FOOD!

I don't think it's rude in fact I have the same plan. If you want explain to them that are finally making progress on a personal goal to lose weight and this is what you need to do in order to stay on track. You really don't need to feel bad if people care about you enough they will support you on such a healthy goal.

If someone says something to you stick to your guns and stand your ground on staying healthy. Let them know how hard you worked and for example you might say well I'm sure none of us here would work are butts of to make our money then purposely throw it into a fire and if they give you any problems send them to me I will gladly take care of them red head style lol.I'm a little fiesty sometimes.

But for real no one has the right to throw a monkey wrench into your hard work. I think that you can handle this with your family and maybe you can call ahead and explain how you feel and that you love them but, right now in order for you to stay strong and keep on with your progress you need to avoid eating unhealthy choices. Most peole laugh at those of us trying because they are not strong enough just yet to do the same and they are usuallly a little jealous.

Any way I hope your 4th and everyones is a safe and happy one. Good luck.

Nope. My family knows my prep plans and my dietary restrictions right now, and know I'll be bringing my own food. Even if it did hurt their feelings, it would change my plans not in the slightest. I'm not sacrificing my goals just to make other people happy. I figure anyone petty enough to be offended that I'm not eating the same food as them have more problems than I want to buy into. :drinker:

I totally agree with this. If you're worried that they have enabling tendencies for your bad eating, you shouldn't have to put yourself at risk of going off track with your diet. You are there to enjoy their company but certain people there may very well feel "judged" for their own unhealthy choices if you are picking at your own salad. I agree that you should bring something like a small sharing portion of fruit salad or bowl of leafy greens but bring a meal that can be incorporated into the rest of the get together like bringing a low-fat cut of meat for the BBQ so that you can have a burger like everyone else but fill up your plate with a low cal option.