should i be offended....
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i am down 12 lbs and one person told my mom "she looks like she lost some weight" but other than that no one has said much. my sister tells me once in a while i look "skinny" haha but that might depend on my outfit. I can see it in my face but i dont think anyone else really notices. awe well im not doing it for them, im doing it for me...and to look smokin in my bikini
You posted this in another thread. That's two people who have told you.
And no, you should not be offended. How can you be offended over what people aren't doing? As others have said, people may be afraid of offending you by implying they noticed you were overweight.
Be proud of what you've done and keep it moving.0 -
I agree, sometimes it seems like because you are no longer at a heavier weight, people can talk bad about your body as it previously was...right to your face! As though you were a totally different person who just walked out of a room or something. It's so strange.0
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no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...
Yes, you should be so highly offended that you cut off contact from everyone you know, unfriend everyone on your MFP and Facebook friends' list, and move to an island where only the geckos and salamanders will recognize your weight loss.0 -
Some people don't like people noticing - there are a lot of threads on here where people have stated that they feel self-concious or patronised if people comment on their weight loss.
Or they're just socially inept like me. I commented on the drastic weight loss of someone I used to work with and I said that she really doesn't need to lose more weight (she looked like cr*p). She crossly informed me that she'd had undiagnosed coeliacs disease for many years and it had destroyed her insides and made her malnourished since we'd last seen each other.
So yeah. Someone could notice and tell you looked better when you were a bit porkier. Would that suffice?0 -
no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...
Yes, you should be so highly offended that you cut off contact from everyone you know, unfriend everyone on your MFP and Facebook friends' list, and move to an island where only the geckos and salamanders will recognize your weight loss.
Keep in mind that this is a worst case scenario. We'll just refer to this as plan B. :laugh:0 -
Your face is thinner!!
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No. I noticed a lady was losing weight at work, but didn't say anything because I didn't know if she was intention ally losing weight or if there was an issue like illness or whatever. I just said she was looking fabulous. Now, sometimes people notice and say things oh so awkwardly and I am left speechless. One of my friends said the other day "boy you've lost weight you're beginning to look good." Wtf is that supposed to mean? BEGINNING to look good?no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...0 -
Unless you want them to point out when they notice ypu gaining, don't expect them to point out you losing.0
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no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...
If you are doing this for the approval of others then you might as well quit now. Do it because you know that it will make you feel and look better. People will notice, but like others have said, some people just don't like talking to others about their weight.0 -
right?!Damn, thought this was my fart guy thread being resurrected. Retreating silently now...0 -
I've lost almost 16 lbs and no one has noticed. I'm not offended. I'll just be that much happier when I get to the point that they DO notice.0
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I'd rather someone punch me in the face then mention anything about my weight. I find those discussions to be awkward at the least and usually horrifying. I'm probably not going to mention anyone's weight loss because of this.0
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No,how much did you weigh to begin with?0
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I have found that in general, weight loss or weight gain is more evident on a shorter person than a taller person, and more evident on a thinner person than a heavier person.0
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I've lost 45 pounds and people still haven't noticed. I do though and that's what matters.
I agree!!
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there is this fed ex lady that always comes into my work.... she was morbidly obese about a year ago, and lost sooo much weight. everytime i see her i wanna say something, but i'm worried that SAYING something might offend her... so i dont.. i jUst admire from afar lol.0
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there is this fed ex lady that always comes into my work.... she was morbidly obese about a year ago, and lost sooo much weight. everytime i see her i wanna say something, but i'm worried that SAYING something might offend her... so i dont.. i jUst admire from afar lol.
In situations like this, I'll go so far as to say, "You look good today"...
...but even that is a trap for something like "oh, so you're saying I looked bad yesterday???"...
...or, since I'm now a 42 year old man, I have to make sure I don't let any creepy into my tone.0 -
Don't be offended. I know that I don't notice that stuff - I think that my coworkers could dye their hair purple and I wouldn't notice. It just isn't something I pay attention to. I actually feel bad when I don't notice that stuff on other people but I really just don't. I guess I am not really a girly-girl anymore like I was when I was younger.0
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no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...
Not at all!
Don't worry about what other people think. I've lost over a 100+ pounds & sometimes wish people would stop commenting on my weight loss or appearance.0 -
Let's be real here. Your profile says your goal is to lose 20 pounds and you've lost 14. There are a lot of people who probably wouldn't notice a 14 pound weight loss...but for you that could be a jeans or dress size and a lot more obvious to you. Relax. You are losing weight for you. Take joy in your accomplishment and being more fit. You don't need others to validate your weight loss.0
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Some people don't comment because they worry that if they do the person will be offended, especially if they don't know that you have been dieting.
People that see you often may have a harder time noticing as well.
I can say that is incorrect in my case that people I see everyday can tell.
Weight loss is for you right? So you care about others complimenting you because ????0 -
Pricelessi am down 12 lbs and one person told my mom "she looks like she lost some weight" but other than that no one has said much. my sister tells me once in a while i look "skinny" haha but that might depend on my outfit. I can see it in my face but i dont think anyone else really notices. awe well im not doing it for them, im doing it for me...and to look smokin in my bikini
You posted this in another thread. That's two people who have told you.0 -
as long as you feel great thats really what matters. The compliments are really just the icing to the cake. Congrats on losing weight!0
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no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...
they are probably just blinded by your beautiful personality. *dramatic hair flip*0 -
Commenting on weight loss is a crap shoot 50/50 chance the person gets offended.0
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No, as long as you can see it in yourself that's all that matters0
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It takes longer for others to notice changes than for you, yourself
nope, don't be offended 0 -
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Nobody noticed I'd lost weight until I hit the maintenance stage. :laugh:0
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Hey, after I lost my first 25 pounds my DEAR mother said to me "You look like you getting fat." (in a thick Asian accent). "You need to exercise more. Want some more rice and curry?" *as she hands me a heaping bowl that would feed the hulk*.
And that was in front of her skinny Asian friends.
So no, don't be offended. You shouldn't need others to validate what you know is true.0
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