Anybody here get "Facebook envy"?
I know it's sad and that the lives people put up and portray on Facebook aren't exactly realistic representations but I still find myself getting Facebook envy! Im hoping I'm not the only one...
☆Edit☆ Just want to clarify, I don't mean envy in the sense of resentful longing, I'm using the term loosely in lieu of an appropriate substitute. ☆edit☆
☆Edit☆ Just want to clarify, I don't mean envy in the sense of resentful longing, I'm using the term loosely in lieu of an appropriate substitute. ☆edit☆
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what do you mean, everything i put up on my facebook is a true representation of my life? as i with most of the people i know?
i dont get what you mean0 -
No, I don't envy anyone else, what's the point of that?0
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No, I don't envy anyone else, what's the point of that?
This...0 -
Watch this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QxVZYiJKl1Y
The video is called "What's on you mind" and is about exactly what you are talking about.
You are not the only one.0 -
No, because I'm not 12.0
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I'm not 12 either. And absolutely, there is no point to it. Nor is there any point for a lot of random thoughts/feelings, especially the counter productive ones. They still happen though.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not home crying into my tea about it but I'll admit, there are times when I'm at work on a Saturday night wishing I was out at the places my friends are at instead. Or alternatively, sitting at home in winter rugged up wishing I was on a tropical island holiday looking glamorous0 -
I get what you're saying and yes I do. I seem to get it when people post pictures of their incredible vacations to places on my bucket list that we can't visit right now for financial reasons. Or when they post pictures of their perfect children and while my kids are awesome, amazing young men, they don't fit your typical mold. My boys had zero interest in attending school dances so I hated logging in around prom and homecoming! Shallow maybe but there you have it.0
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I don't get envious, more like "how did my life become so different than yours?" There's babies everywhere, pictures of family because you hang out EVERY WEEKEND, hypocritical posts about your kids being bullied, when in fact you were my bully growing up, things like that. I have no interest in people's lives on Facebook. It doesn't have anything to do with mine, or any common ground. I mostly use it to remind my family what my kid looks like, to get praise on how cute my dog is, and to alert people with what's going on in terms of elections and weather lol.0
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There's babies everywhere... hypocritical posts about your kids being bullied, when in fact you were my bully growing up, things like that.
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I know what you mean. I wouldn't call it "envy" per se, but sometimes I just think to myself... why? what? or my favorite... no.
From my HS graduating class there are two people who aren't married - I am one of them.
From my HS graduating class there are <10 people without children - I am one of these also.
I do not have the financial resources to take vacations to all those fancy places that my friends do - I wish I did! - I'm happy for those people, but wish I could do it too - so envy? jealous? Whatever you want to call it.
The proposals?! OH THE PROPOSALS!!!! LOL Please let my future husband have a romantic and creative side paaaaaleeeeeese
I try not to let it bum me out too much - if I feel that it's "bothering" me then I just don't get on FB for a few days - go outside, get some sunshine, go to the gym, go to a local attraction, be with friends, or something like that.0 -
I believe that people who wallow in misery (barring health issues that cause it) allow it. If they are your friends and you envy their partying, then go party with them. If they won't let you, they aren't your friends.
You control how happy you want to be and while envy can be a motivator for some, for others it's a detriment. You want a more exciting life, go make it.
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Occasionally, but I am also very happy with what I'm doing.
The only Facebook envy I have is for the couple of people who just a) graduated law school (and I am getting there! Actively working towards it) and b) live abroad (working on that personally as well, and have been lucky enough to travel a lot so far this year)0 -
No. Nobody from my school or from my area has really achieved much of anything, and I don't really count having kids as exciting or worthy of envy.0
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This can't be serious.0
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I get "Facebook Rage":
I have a few friends who like to post their cryptic status updates and then when you ask them what is wrong they respond "I don't want to talk about it" or "leave me alone". Then WHY did you just post that if you don't want to talk about it? Now I just ignore them, I learned that very early on. Damn drama queens. :grumble:
"Why does this have to happen to me?"
"I could just disappear and no one would even notice
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"I feel so alone"
"I can't believe THAT just happened!"
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I guess I'm weird. I don't have much money (so, you know, no fancy vacations or new outfits, or going out, having babies, etc.). Whenever my FB friends post pictures of exciting things they do and whatnot, I'm actually EXCITED and HAPPY for them, and enjoy seeing those picks. It makes me HAPPY to know my friends and family are getting to do some happy things for themselves.
And...they are happy to see me post about the things that make me happy, which may be different (and cost less) than their "happy". But we enjoy seeing others' posts and whatnot, nonetheless.0 -
I'm far too awesome in real life to care about other people's fake (or highly embellished) Internet lives. Maybe that's why I've never had a Facebook account. It seems like a colossal waste of time, not to mention adding unnecessary drama to my life. :yawn:0
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whats Facebook?0
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I know what you mean. I wouldn't call it "envy" per se, but sometimes I just think to myself... why? what? or my favorite... no.
From my HS graduating class there are two people who aren't married - I am one of them.
From my HS graduating class there are <10 people without children - I am one of these also.
I do not have the financial resources to take vacations to all those fancy places that my friends do - I wish I did! - I'm happy for those people, but wish I could do it too - so envy? jealous? Whatever you want to call it.
The proposals?! OH THE PROPOSALS!!!! LOL Please let my future husband have a romantic and creative side paaaaaleeeeeese
I try not to let it bum me out too much - if I feel that it's "bothering" me then I just don't get on FB for a few days - go outside, get some sunshine, go to the gym, go to a local attraction, be with friends, or something like that.
This!! I don't think I am envious, but Facebook does end up bugging me for a variety of reasons. So I just take a break and come back a few days later. Or unfollow the annoying ones. lol0 -
I'm not 12 either. And absolutely, there is no point to it. Nor is there any point for a lot of random thoughts/feelings, especially the counter productive ones. They still happen though.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not home crying into my tea about it but I'll admit, there are times when I'm at work on a Saturday night wishing I was out at the places my friends are at instead. Or alternatively, sitting at home in winter rugged up wishing I was on a tropical island holiday looking glamorous
Sorry, just realised how patronising I sounded. Not meaning to accuse you of being immature or anything.
I didn't mean that it's wrong to get Facebok envy. But I had "Bebo envy" (when Bebo was a thing!) of folk when I was a pre/teenager. I grew out of it is all - I realised you can get envious or you can get busy with life
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I'm not 12 either. And absolutely, there is no point to it. Nor is there any point for a lot of random thoughts/feelings, especially the counter productive ones. They still happen though.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not home crying into my tea about it but I'll admit, there are times when I'm at work on a Saturday night wishing I was out at the places my friends are at instead. Or alternatively, sitting at home in winter rugged up wishing I was on a tropical island holiday looking glamorous
If they're your friends, why would you not be out with them?0 -
I know what you mean. I wouldn't call it "envy" per se, but sometimes I just think to myself... why? what? or my favorite... no.
From my HS graduating class there are two people who aren't married - I am one of them.
From my HS graduating class there are <10 people without children - I am one of these also.
I do not have the financial resources to take vacations to all those fancy places that my friends do - I wish I did! - I'm happy for those people, but wish I could do it too - so envy? jealous? Whatever you want to call it.
The proposals?! OH THE PROPOSALS!!!! LOL Please let my future husband have a romantic and creative side paaaaaleeeeeese
I try not to let it bum me out too much - if I feel that it's "bothering" me then I just don't get on FB for a few days - go outside, get some sunshine, go to the gym, go to a local attraction, be with friends, or something like that.
Yep. Along these lines, I totally get it.
Sometimes I need to unplug or I'll start beating myself up too much. "Why am I not as successful/happy/wealthy/smart/gorgeous/and so on?"
There have been studies that show too much time of Facebook can actually depress people for this reason. We all only put the highlights on FB, not the mundane or crappy bits of our days. But when you're looking at all the shiniest, nicest parts of other people, it makes your every day seem awful by comparison.0 -
I get "Facebook Rage":
I have a few friends who like to post their cryptic status updates and then when you ask them what is wrong they respond "I don't want to talk about it" or "leave me alone". Then WHY did you just post that if you don't want to talk about it? Now I just ignore them, I learned that very early on. Damn drama queens. :grumble:
"Why does this have to happen to me?"
"I could just disappear and no one would even notice"
"I feel so alone"
"I can't believe THAT just happen!"
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I have a friend who does that... I just stopped following her, I'm not 15 any more, I don't need the drama0 -
I have one girl from HS on there.. oh my god... She is a mess.. and I only keep her on there for my own entertainment purposes.. My husband says that's pretty F'd up.. It's like a train wreck.. Just can't stop staring... I like reading her posts just so I can shake my head. :ohwell:I get "Facebook Rage":
I have a few friends who like to post their cryptic status updates and then when you ask them what is wrong they respond "I don't want to talk about it" or "leave me alone". Then WHY did you just post that if you don't want to talk about it? Now I just ignore them, I learned that very early on. Damn drama queens. :grumble:
"Why does this have to happen to me?"
"I could just disappear and no one would even notice"
"I feel so alone"
"I can't believe THAT just happen!"
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People should envy people who don't have a Facebook account.
THAT'S ME!!! I have no interest in having one! I see and speak to the people I want in my life! :drinker:0 -
I guess I'm weird. I don't have much money (so, you know, no fancy vacations or new outfits, or going out, having babies, etc.). Whenever my FB friends post pictures of exciting things they do and whatnot, I'm actually EXCITED and HAPPY for them, and enjoy seeing those picks. It makes me HAPPY to know my friends and family are getting to do some happy things for themselves.
And...they are happy to see me post about the things that make me happy, which may be different (and cost less) than their "happy". But we enjoy seeing others' posts and whatnot, nonetheless.
It is possible to be excited and happy for other people and still feel envious of them , you know.0 -
Sometimes, when it comes to big events -- seeing people get married, new jobs, accepted into grad school, etc. while I'm still trying to figure out what I want in life. But when I think of the things I do have, it bothers me less.0
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I get envy of the way some people look, but it's because I have ****ty self esteem.
I am not to proud to admit that.0 -
The recent study about "Facebook Sadness" has been all over the news lately. I think this is why so many people are suddenly making threads about it. It really doesn't affect me at all. I am happy for my friends' accomplishments and happy with my own life. I also know that posting pictures of happy times doesn't necessarily reveal the underlying mess that we all have in our lives to some extent. Just take Facebook for what it is.0
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