Why Skinny-Fat people are generally ignored???
Replies
-
I see this a lot on this site. "You're already in the healthy weight range for your height, why do you want to be smaller?" Or people who seem to think that since they are 100 lbs over weight, someone who is 10lbs over weight shouldn't worry about it. If you want a smoking body and are willing to put in the work (diligent with consumption and macros, lifting heavy) more power to you! Do it right and get it done. Do you need attention from people to lose fat? No.
It's not that 10lbs isn't worth worrying about it's the people that tend to be the ones worrying about it and how they go about it. The "Oh my god I need to lose 10lbs club" is full of 18 year old girls who are convinced that losing 10lbs by eating 1000 calories a day worth of kale and tic tacs to squeeze in to a slightly smaller bikini is going to change their entire life.
I'm guilty of ignoring those, it's heartbreaking what these girls do to themselves.0 -
As above?? Why if we want to lose weight and are not happy with our bodies-general we are told we look good and have to accept that! Why should I accept or be happy with arm bigger than my head and having bulks on my hips that stick out of my jeans. Why should I accept my cellulite and that my swimsuit doesn't fit properly?:(
Why if I geneui don't feel ok with ,myself can't even say a word to be ignored by skinny people or laughed at by obese?? I know some people wish they could go as low but geez.. do I need to weight 100kilos to be heard and not ignored??
I am tired of fact that people don't understand what I am going through.,, well skinny girl will tell'' just accept yourself'' or ''you fine''
I dont want to be fine! I want be able to put bodycon dress to work without having bulks on my hips or put jeans on without having excess stomach hanging out!
I realised we generally being ignored... laughed at or called ridiculous or that we have mind problem... do we really need to be depressed or have mental issues - can people accept the fact we are genuinely not happy too???
I received few very useful advises on this forum but along with that many saying accept yourself or you are not fat, you fine or you will tone up etc.
Yeah but I am trying to lose within 4 weeks not 6 months.. and yes I am not happy with my body, neither have eating disorders or depression! I eat to little because i don't know what to eat, i dont know how to exercise because instead of people giving me valuable advises they prefer to tell ''im fine'' (people in general -not in this forum etc) I am reading google- one site says eat this- other says don't eat that. One site say exercise this and this much -other says this is wrong!! I am confused and really dont know what to do.
Please accept Skinny-fat people and treat them like others.. we dont need to hear-accept yourself or you fine- we not and dont want accept -we do want to have perfect body same as you!
I can so relate to your sentiments especially when I never needed to lose weight but wanted to drop a few vanity pounds. At the same time, I know I will never accept my body but I'm not looking for perfection either. My whole goal in my journey is health and fitness. It's hard when you hear someone tell you to accept yourself the way but letting it go in one ear and out the next is a good skill
0 -
Why worry about being ignored? If you want to change your body (safety) you have to do for yourself, you don't need validation from others.
If you are complaining about your weight to people then they will say you look fine because they think you look fine. We are all our own worse critic, you probably look great to them. They may also be genuinely worried about someone of normal weight wanting to go on a diet. Don't feel angry if people are concerned about you it means they care. Maybe it would be better to look at this as "I want to get healthy and strong" Not "I'm skinny fat and I need to lose weight" then the response should be more positive.0 -
Pretty much this.it really depends on your goals and where you started out to begin with. for myself, i started out with a pretty good muscle base from sports and whatnot, so im not going to try for a bulk until i hit my goal weight. for someone who wants to gain muscle, ive always thought bulking first is the best option
im personally against recomps, bulk/cut cycles are faster and give a little more leeway in terms of diet
ETA; this may sound mean or whatever, but also mental strength. many people cant handle the idea of putting on weight when their end game is too look better, its a little counter intuitive
I'm coming from a high weight so my goal is to get to as low a body fat percentage as seems reasonable, while preserving as much muscle as I can. Once I get to that point, my next goal will be to figure out what maintenance is for me. Right after that, it will be to go 250 or so over maintenance and start putting (mostly muscle, hopefully) weight back on.
A lot of what I've read suggests that putting weight back on can be more mentally taxing than taking it off was.0 -
I think that's the issue. Most people here are under no delusion that they're ever getting a 'perfect body'. We want a healthy BMI....we do want to have perfect body same as you!
We see you young girls with 'perfect weight' thinking you're going to diet down to a 'perfect body' and we try to warn you. Even bikini models don't have perfect bodies. You're chasing a unicorn.
There is no such thing as 'skinny fat', just thin and unhappy with your body composition or shape.
This!!! Stop sriving for some unattainable, undefined "perfect" and shoot for whatever feels healthy and right for you! Why does it need a label or validation from others?0 -
I'd rather be ignored than gain attention from being overweight. Just saying.0
-
I see this a lot on this site. "You're already in the healthy weight range for your height, why do you want to be smaller?" Or people who seem to think that since they are 100 lbs over weight, someone who is 10lbs over weight shouldn't worry about it. If you want a smoking body and are willing to put in the work (diligent with consumption and macros, lifting heavy) more power to you! Do it right and get it done. Do you need attention from people to lose fat? No.
It's not that 10lbs isn't worth worrying about it's the people that tend to be the ones worrying about it and how they go about it. The "Oh my god I need to lose 10lbs club" is full of 18 year old girls who are convinced that losing 10lbs by eating 1000 calories a day worth of kale and tic tacs to squeeze in to a slightly smaller bikini is going to change their entire life.
Agreed, there is not a shortage of those on this site, either.0 -
Skinny fat people are not ignored, you just aren't being told what you seem to want to hear. If you are skinny fat, as in are at a healthy weight for your height but have a high body fat percentage, focusing on the number on the scale isn't the right way to go. Your goal is less about losing weight and more about body composition, in which you reduce your body fat while retaining your lean muscle.
In order to do that, you need to eat at a slight deficit, about 0.5 lb loss per week, so that you will be losing fat and not muscle. Lift heavy weights, do a little bit of cardio, eat lots of protein to feed your muscles. You probably won't see much movement on the scale, but your measurements will shrink and you will be smaller and tighter.
ETA: You can see changes within four weeks, but you are not going to see a massive overhaul in that time. The process takes time, but it's worth it to get the body you want.
Yup.0 -
Why do they get ignored?
Two main reasons:
1. When overweight people see a genuine skinny-fat person they see someone who looks fine and doesnt have the same plight as they do. Many obese/overweight people see a skinny fat person as someone who is already skinny and dismisses their whines. It is like the smart kid in school who routinely gets a 95% but whines he cannot get a perfect score. The dumb kids who get low scores just roll their eyes!
2. Many of the people who consider themselves skinny-fat look very, very, very good and their pleas for help come off as a desperate plea for attention. Not just on here, but also on other SM sites like FB and whatnot where you have people who look very good but whine how they are fat or whatever. Much of it is from low self esteem people secretly seeking validation of how good they look.0 -
Everyone has different perception of ''perfect''.
Where I am asking, I have wrote I want to have body like a MODEL??? Some of you are just so rude its unbelievable!
For me perfect body-means get rid of the bulks on my hips -so lose 4inches! Thats all I need.
I do appreciate some advises but again- i have proved my point- some of you just came here with your no needed opinion!0 -
Your feelings are valid and don't let anyone sway you different. I too may not need to lose as much as someone else but where I feel good, comfortable and all around healthy is my choice and not anyone else's.
I do urge you to start this journey on a positive note and share some of your NSV's, the people here are great and would love to stand up and cheer with you.0 -
You fine. Accept yourself.0
-
Skinny fat people are not ignored, you just aren't being told what you seem to want to hear. If you are skinny fat, as in are at a healthy weight for your height but have a high body fat percentage, focusing on the number on the scale isn't the right way to go. Your goal is less about losing weight and more about body composition, in which you reduce your body fat while retaining your lean muscle.
In order to do that, you need to eat at a slight deficit, about 0.5 lb loss per week, so that you will be losing fat and not muscle. Lift heavy weights, do a little bit of cardio, eat lots of protein to feed your muscles. You probably won't see much movement on the scale, but your measurements will shrink and you will be smaller and tighter.
ETA: You can see changes within four weeks, but you are not going to see a massive overhaul in that time. The process takes time, but it's worth it to get the body you want.
This wins the thread. No need for other answers.0 -
25 yr old skinny fat girl here. I've seen a significant improvement in the last week that I've been using MFP. Even though I stay within the calorie limitations, I feel like I'm eating just as much (if not more) than I used to because I'm no longer trying to starve myself. I exercise every day, alternating between stair master, elliptical, and bicycle for cardio, and then lift weights. If you use machines for cardio, the key is to put the resistance on HIGH so that you start building muscle. Squats, leg lifts, etc to tone up your bottom half and push ups/weight lifting to tone arms. I've lost about two pounds on the scale and can already see improvements in my muscle tone. In only one week.
The one "benefit" of being this body type is that you don't have much weight to lose, so you will see results very quickly. Stop worrying about what other people think and start focusing on your health.
Getting in shape is not some odd mystery that needs to be unlocked. You know exactly what you have to do, it's just a matter of doing it. Cut down on sugar, empty carbohydrates, and alcohol. Make sure you are eating enough protein. Exercise regularly. Do RESISTANCE TRAINING. You will get in shape.0 -
Skinny fat people are not ignored, you just aren't being told what you seem to want to hear. If you are skinny fat, as in are at a healthy weight for your height but have a high body fat percentage, focusing on the number on the scale isn't the right way to go. Your goal is less about losing weight and more about body composition, in which you reduce your body fat while retaining your lean muscle.
In order to do that, you need to eat at a slight deficit, about 0.5 lb loss per week, so that you will be losing fat and not muscle. Lift heavy weights, do a little bit of cardio, eat lots of protein to feed your muscles. You probably won't see much movement on the scale, but your measurements will shrink and you will be smaller and tighter.
ETA: You can see changes within four weeks, but you are not going to see a massive overhaul in that time. The process takes time, but it's worth it to get the body you want.
^^^^^ THIS0 -
You fine. Accept yourself.
And to this I must shout a resounding hell no! I didn't spend years getting down from a high of 245 pounds just so I could slouch around in mom jeans getting mistaken for six months pregnant.
Besides, if the online measurement calculators are anywhere near correct, I'm carrying an unhealthy amount of body fat even though I'm in the normal weight range. And it's all hanging around my bad lower back, which for sure isn't doing my spine any good.0 -
Everyone has different perception of ''perfect''.
Where I am asking, I have wrote I want to have body like a MODEL??? Some of you are just so rude its unbelievable!
For me perfect body-means get rid of the bulks on my hips -so lose 4inches! Thats all I need.
I do appreciate some advises but again- i have proved my point- some of you just came here with your no needed opinion!
Your perception of "perfect" may be a bit off, considering you have stated "I do really hate myself" earlier today.0 -
4" off your hips when not overweight is probably another unicorn dream. I wish you luck, though. Here's a flower for my rudeness. :flowerforyou:Where I am asking, I have wrote I want to have body like a MODEL??? Some of you are just so rude its unbelievable!
For me perfect body-means get rid of the bulks on my hips -so lose 4inches! Thats all I need.0 -
Also when I say- I am being either ignored or laughed at- i am not saying I am relying only on people's opinion. I meant- where I am looking for advises-tips- asking people on how to keep fit-lose weight-thats where I am either being ignored or laughed at- then people instead of actually tell me what to do they not- they would rather share they no needed opinion of what they think of my body or share they opinion of WHAT THEY /... I think!!! It's ridiculous- Read back! pretty amazing example here!
Again, I am not a teenager trying to fit into model size 0 swimsuit! I am trying to get rid of my bulks. I dont care if size 6-8-10 nas long as I have perfect shaped body again my perfections means no excess fat thats all!! Guys stop putting word into my mouths of making us looking ridiculous!
I am 30 year old professional woman trying to look normal- trying to lose weight-(again-call it tone up, shaped etc. i dont care i am using common words like lose weight- because i do need to slim down! instead getting advises I am constantly being told off!!! seriously???
There are few really amazing people in this forum and received few really great advises-Thanks!! haters- people who came here to make themself look-feel better- back off- i am ignoring you! this post is just to prove the point!0 -
4" off your hips when not overweight is probably another unicorn dream. I wish you luck, though. Here's a flower for my rudeness. :flowerforyou:Where I am asking, I have wrote I want to have body like a MODEL??? Some of you are just so rude its unbelievable!
For me perfect body-means get rid of the bulks on my hips -so lose 4inches! Thats all I need.
why??? I can't lose 4inches?? have you seen my pictures?? can you no see the fat sticking out??? 2yrs ago I was 4inches down... why I can't lose that?? is that you trying to be smart-*kitten* or its impossible/??I have seen people going from my shape into muscular and toning down 6inches so please explain...0 -
kettlebells, seriously, full body cardio and weight work outs. really really helps tone.0
-
Also when I say- I am being either ignored or laughed at- i am not saying I am relying only on people's opinion. I meant- where I am looking for advises-tips- asking people on how to keep fit-lose weight-thats where I am either being ignored or laughed at- then people instead of actually tell me what to do they not- they would rather share they no needed opinion of what they think of my body or share they opinion of WHAT THEY /... I think!!! It's ridiculous- Read back! pretty amazing example here!
Again, I am not a teenager trying to fit into model size 0 swimsuit! I am trying to get rid of my bulks. I dont care if size 6-8-10 nas long as I have perfect shaped body again my perfections means no excess fat thats all!! Guys stop putting word into my mouths of making us looking ridiculous!
I am 30 year old professional woman trying to look normal- trying to lose weight-(again-call it tone up, shaped etc. i dont care i am using common words like lose weight- because i do need to slim down! instead getting advises I am constantly being told off!!! seriously???
There are few really amazing people in this forum and received few really great advises-Thanks!! haters- people who came here to make themself look-feel better- back off- i am ignoring you! this post is just to prove the point!
0 -
I think you need more like 6 inches off instead of 4.
4" off your hips when not overweight is probably another unicorn dream. I wish you luck, though. Here's a flower for my rudeness. :flowerforyou:Where I am asking, I have wrote I want to have body like a MODEL??? Some of you are just so rude its unbelievable!
For me perfect body-means get rid of the bulks on my hips -so lose 4inches! Thats all I need.
why??? I can't lose 4inches?? have you seen my pictures?? can you no see the fat sticking out??? 2yrs ago I was 4inches down... why I can't lose that?? is that you trying to be smart-*kitten* or its impossible/??I have seen people going from my shape into muscular and toning down 6inches so please explain...0 -
You have plenty of good advice on here.
4" off your hips when not overweight is probably another unicorn dream. I wish you luck, though. Here's a flower for my rudeness. :flowerforyou:Where I am asking, I have wrote I want to have body like a MODEL??? Some of you are just so rude its unbelievable!
For me perfect body-means get rid of the bulks on my hips -so lose 4inches! Thats all I need.
why??? I can't lose 4inches?? have you seen my pictures?? can you no see the fat sticking out??? 2yrs ago I was 4inches down... why I can't lose that?? is that you trying to be smart-*kitten* or its impossible/??I have seen people going from my shape into muscular and toning down 6inches so please explain...
Follow it.
Rather than getting all uppity and upset you aren't getting the answers you want.
ALSO YOUR FOOD DIARY IS CLOSED. *shrug*0 -
Open your food diary.2yrs ago I was 4inches down... why I can't lose that?? is that you trying to be smart-*kitten* or its impossible/??I have seen people going from my shape into muscular and toning down 6inches so please explain...
Post your exercise routine.0 -
Have you spent much time in the Fitness and Exercise section? It's the body builders who really shine when it comes to transforming their outward appearance. As well as being able to bench press an average size pony, of course. Several of them hang out in Food and Nutrition, too. They're the ones posting photos of 4000 calorie pre-workout snacks.0
-
Also when I say- I am being either ignored or laughed at- i am not saying I am relying only on people's opinion. I meant- where I am looking for advises-tips- asking people on how to keep fit-lose weight-thats where I am either being ignored or laughed at- then people instead of actually tell me what to do they not- they would rather share they no needed opinion of what they think of my body or share they opinion of WHAT THEY /... I think!!! It's ridiculous- Read back! pretty amazing example here!
Again, I am not a teenager trying to fit into model size 0 swimsuit! I am trying to get rid of my bulks. I dont care if size 6-8-10 nas long as I have perfect shaped body again my perfections means no excess fat thats all!! Guys stop putting word into my mouths of making us looking ridiculous!
I am 30 year old professional woman trying to look normal- trying to lose weight-(again-call it tone up, shaped etc. i dont care i am using common words like lose weight- because i do need to slim down! instead getting advises I am constantly being told off!!! seriously???
There are few really amazing people in this forum and received few really great advises-Thanks!! haters- people who came here to make themself look-feel better- back off- i am ignoring you! this post is just to prove the point!
0 -
I'm not sure I understand what a skinny-fat person is, usually a person is classified as skinny, thin, average, fat, ect. Is a skinny-fat person like an average person? Just a little confused on what you mean. Anyway, I think that people of all sizes should learn to love themselves for who they are inside. If someone is not happy with the outside, then they should take steps in changing their body. Losing weight should be fun, not depressing. If people are judging you based on your weight, ignore them. They are not worth your time. You want to be around people who love you for YOU: fat or thin, the size doesn't matter.0
-
in to read all the reactions to the subject...
So I just want thinner thights and no muffin top when wearing skinny pants...0 -
in to read all the reactions to the subject...
So I just want thinner thights and no muffin top when wearing skinny pants...
Nobody wants to hear this.
But if you wear the right size, you don't have muffin tops.0
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 393.4K Introduce Yourself
- 43.8K Getting Started
- 260.2K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.9K Food and Nutrition
- 47.4K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 424 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153K Motivation and Support
- 8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.7K MyFitnessPal Information
- 24 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.6K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions