Grieving loss of a parent...can't stop eating

I just want to say that I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad a year ago to complications from his Diabetes. My heart hurts for you. Congrats on the weight you have lost so far! If you would like, I would be happy to encourage you in your journey. Feel free to add me.

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss and the difficult situation you're in. I lost my mum to cancer, it was sudden, no one imagined it would be so aggressive, grieving is a long, lonely and turbulent process and I admit I did a lot of comfort eating and bingeing, most of my extra kilos stem from two pregnancies and this loss all in the space of 3 years. Now I'm trying to undo that damage. I'm very glad to hear you are seeking help so quickly both here and from a counsellor. I bottled it all up for too long. You can't and don't need to do this alone. You'll just end up eating yourself into bigger problems. You've come so far already. And you need as much positivity as you can get in your life now, try to focus on a healthy diet and exercise regime as a way to bring success and all the positive that creates into your life. You've given and are still giving so much to other people, that shows what a caring person you are. But don't neglect yourself in the process - you end up paying the price somewhere down the road. Don't torture yourself over this period of bingeing - this is a very extreme time and an understandable reaction, you do what you need to do right now. Just forgive yourself and move on from it - try to take strength in good people around you, happy memories and focus on the good things ahead for you when you reward yourself for all your hard work with a dew more pounds off, I wish you lots of luck and hope you find comfort and help from good people instead of food. I'm talking from my own misguided experience here!
Again, my condolences. Sometimes life throws us more than we think we can bare. But you will find resources to cope and I'm sure you'll feel stronger soon, take care.

I completely understand where you are at. I just lost my mom in December after a lengthy health battle that ended much quicker then anyone expected, The first thing is to realize that right now you don't have to "Eat right" I know a lot of people will disagree with this and I'm not saying just throw away all caution but let yourself grieve and eat what you want at least until after the viewing/funeral...but realize that you have to grieve much longer and some of that may be comfort eating. That was the best advice a friend gave me, I was stressing during the week leading up to my mom's passing and the week after because I didn't eat well and I didn't think I could change it because I was living out of a suitcase and sleeping on floors for almost two weeks. But my best friend told me that it was more important to take care of my emotional wellness during those days then worrying about a number on a scale or a number on a computer screen. I still tracked somewhat for those two weeks then gave myself a restart date, now for me its taken me a lot longer then the two weeks i had hoped to restart but the loss of a parent is a world changing experience. Getting to a therapist is a great start and talking to your doctor about antidepressants is another step. I'm not sure what your hospice told you but ours sat with us while we called our doctors to help explain the need for the medications if needed and helped us just to cope during those final days and the first days. Ours contacts us once every 2 months to check in still just to see how we are doing. Give yourself permission to grieve don't rush yourself. Feel free to message me or add me I completely understand where you are at right now it's a tough journey

My heart aches for you. And my thoughts are with you during this rough time. Give yourself a break for right now… weight loss is really not what you need to be worried about. Take care of yourself and do what you need to do to stay sane and get through this. A few weeks of comfort eating is not a disaster… but I think you've got the right idea reaching out to a counselor. You've got a lot on your shoulders right now… DON'T be afraid to ask for help. Whether for yourself or in getting help to care for your mother.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am 28 years old and have lost both my parents to cancer so I know EXACTLY what you're going through! I was 15 when my mom got sick and passed and that's when my weight gain really started. Then 8 years to the day that my mom was diagnosed, so was my dad. I was his only caregiver for the last 4 months of his life. It takes a huge toll on you. I think you are already doing the best thing you can for yourself by seeking professional help. Just talking through things can make it a lil easier.
I wish I would have gone to a therapist a lot sooner than I did!

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