Weighing less than you look?

So you always hear about people who weigh more than they look -- they carry their weight well, or they are lean and have a good amount of muscle. But is there anyone out there who feels that they look heavier than they weigh? I feel I fit into that camp. I'm 5' 4", 125.8 lbs, but I feel like I look at least 10, maybe 15 lbs heavier. I feel that it's all because of the fat still stuck on my abdomen and inner thighs. I do core exercises and have started doing yoga, and I would say I have a moderately strong core, so I think I'm a little toned up there. So I don't really think not being toned up in that area is the problem. I do know I have a little bit of issues with body dysmorphic disorder... But I still feel like my big stomach just makes me look so much heavier than I actually am, and it really gets me down sometimes!

Can anyone else sympathize?
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  • Meerataila
    Meerataila Posts: 1,885 Member
    Yep. I do weigh less than I look. I go to my body gallery and I look like the people who weigh ten or twenty pounds more than I do. I look at a body fat percentage picture chart for women, and I look like I'm over %30 body fat. It's because I lost too much muscle when I lost my weight. I have more fat than most people my height, age, and weight due to having less muscle. I used to look good at the weight in my pic. Not anymore.
  • nixxthirteen
    nixxthirteen Posts: 280 Member
    I don't know if it's due to my small frame or what, but I feel like I don't carry weight well AT ALL :(.
  • numinousnymph
    numinousnymph Posts: 249 Member
    well, it's good to know that at least a few people have the same problem! it's so frustrating and disappointing :(
  • JennetteMac
    JennetteMac Posts: 763 Member
    I am there with you.
    I am 52 years old.
    I am 5'6" and weigh 118lb.
    I am an English size 6-8.
    I look about 10-15lb heavier because my flabby bits are still flabby!

    I do sits ups, crunches, the plank, leg raises every night (or almost if work is late) but my tummy, while very strong, refuses to look toned.
    Sigh.
    It just isn't going to happen. So I keep my clothes on!!
  • Swiftdogs
    Swiftdogs Posts: 328 Member
    When I started MFP I hadn't stepped on a scale in several years. I was 10-15 pounds lighter than I expected based on what I'd weighed in the past. I'm now 126 pounds at 5'9" (age 55). The top half is good, but my butt and thighs are not as trim as I'd like. So I'm concentrating on strength training now.
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    I dont go asking around how much weight I look like...I look at myself and always think I look big, and in fact I am heavy, too.
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    i have rarely known a woman who didn't feel she looked heavier than she was. heck, when i was anorexic and weighed 97, i thought i looked heavier than i was. also most women dislike their thighs, belly and butt, feeling they're too big, when in reality women are made to have some curves.

    oh god....were you talking to me? LOL that's how I feel and my number does show I am pretty heavy too.
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,041 Member
    I look less than I weigh. People are SHOCKED when I tell them I'm around 230. They think it is way less.
  • inertiastrength
    inertiastrength Posts: 2,343 Member
    People rarely believe me when I tell them my weight so yeah, I think I look lighter than I am but that's probably the lifting. It just looks better if you squat, that's science folks lol
  • Jennifer_Lynn_1982
    Jennifer_Lynn_1982 Posts: 567 Member
    some people call it "skinny fat" when you weigh less than you look like you do. Counteract by adding in strength training and lifting and by lifting heavy, not 5 lbs weights. Within a few months you'll notice a difference!
  • numinousnymph
    numinousnymph Posts: 249 Member
    some people call it "skinny fat" when you weigh less than you look like you do. Counteract by adding in strength training and lifting and by lifting heavy, not 5 lbs weights. Within a few months you'll notice a difference!

    the thing is is that i *have* been doing strength training, since oct/nov last year. usually 2 or 3x a week. i do a couple of body weight exercises but it's mostly weights. and i do use heavy weights for me, trust me, not 5lb ones. i can definitely see muscle improvement and definition in my arms and my outer quadriceps. i also work my core and my inner thighs, so i know i have muscle strength under tehre. but my inner thighs and lower abdomen just do not want to let go of their fat. it almost looks disproportionate on me. i can't figure out completely how much of it is loose skin ('cause i have some) and how much still is fat, but i feel like most of it is fat.
  • elv1ra
    elv1ra Posts: 146 Member
    mybodygallery makes me think i look heavier then i am because there are a lot of girls at my height and weight that are much leaner than me. i carry a lot on my belly and it doesnt seem to be getting any better
  • sakuya3834
    sakuya3834 Posts: 116 Member
    If the picture in your profile is you, I don't think you weigh less than you look. I did a double take when I saw the picture and read the post because I couldn't believe you think you look like you weigh more than you do. O_o

    I think a lot of it is mental. I see people that weigh what I do and think I look much bigger. The people I think I look like are all 300+ lbs, which I am nowhere near.
  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,725 Member
    some people call it "skinny fat" when you weigh less than you look like you do. Counteract by adding in strength training and lifting and by lifting heavy, not 5 lbs weights. Within a few months you'll notice a difference!

    the thing is is that i *have* been doing strength training, since oct/nov last year. usually 2 or 3x a week. i do a couple of body weight exercises but it's mostly weights. and i do use heavy weights for me, trust me, not 5lb ones. i can definitely see muscle improvement and definition in my arms and my outer quadriceps. i also work my core and my inner thighs, so i know i have muscle strength under tehre. but my inner thighs and lower abdomen just do not want to let go of their fat. it almost looks disproportionate on me. i can't figure out completely how much of it is loose skin ('cause i have some) and how much still is fat, but i feel like most of it is fat.

    How heavy are the weights you use?
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    I'm the opposite. People always think I weigh less than I do.

    ETA: I also wear larger sizes than people think I do and people are frequently amazed that I can lift as heavy as I can. Apparently, I look like a scrawny weakling. :frown:
  • Ryan_Case
    Ryan_Case Posts: 29 Member
    Not sure if this thread was meant for the ladies only, or if it is open to men as well. I will say that I am a mixed bag concerning this question.

    With my clothes on, I look like I weigh less than I do. I have very big wrists, shoulders, etc. and am fairly tall at 75".

    When I take my shirt off and look in the mirror, I look like I weigh more than I do.
  • numinousnymph
    numinousnymph Posts: 249 Member
    some people call it "skinny fat" when you weigh less than you look like you do. Counteract by adding in strength training and lifting and by lifting heavy, not 5 lbs weights. Within a few months you'll notice a difference!

    the thing is is that i *have* been doing strength training, since oct/nov last year. usually 2 or 3x a week. i do a couple of body weight exercises but it's mostly weights. and i do use heavy weights for me, trust me, not 5lb ones. i can definitely see muscle improvement and definition in my arms and my outer quadriceps. i also work my core and my inner thighs, so i know i have muscle strength under tehre. but my inner thighs and lower abdomen just do not want to let go of their fat. it almost looks disproportionate on me. i can't figure out completely how much of it is loose skin ('cause i have some) and how much still is fat, but i feel like most of it is fat.

    How heavy are the weights you use?


    it depends on what area of my body i work on, but here is some of what i do:

    leg press - ~200 lbs
    hip abduction - ~75 lbs
    hip adduction - ~100 lbs
    lat pulldown - ~80 lbs
    leg curl - ~60 lbs

    each of these i do 4, occasionally 5 sets of 15 reps.

    i do pushups, mountain climbers, planks, lunges, and lift a 15lb dumbell behind my head for triceps, reps of 25 for 4 sets. all my other exercises i do 4 sets of also.
  • Spaghetti_Bender
    Spaghetti_Bender Posts: 509 Member
    Most people never guess my age or weight correctly. It's awesome! :smokin:
  • mekabr84
    mekabr84 Posts: 5 Member
    Swiftdogs wrote: »
    When I started MFP I hadn't stepped on a scale in several years. I was 10-15 pounds lighter than I expected based on what I'd weighed in the past. I'm now 126 pounds at 5'9" (age 55). The top half is good, but my butt and thighs are not as trim as I'd like. So I'm concentrating on strength training now.

    This is exactly me. I *just* stepped on the scale for the first time in a while. I weigh about 4 pounds less than I would have guessed, based on past knowledge of how I looked at different weights. (4 pounds is a big deal when you're 5'1" with a small frame.) I have definitely looked smaller than I do now. My curves are all intact, including my little tummy and love handles, and my collar bones aren't protruding as they did once in the past, but I'm only about 2 pounds above my lowest ever weight. I think I must just really need to build up more muscle to hit my optimal weight. . . like 6 pound of it!
    So you always hear about people who weigh more than they look -- they carry their weight well, or they are lean and have a good amount of muscle. But is there anyone out there who feels that they look heavier than they weigh? I feel I fit into that camp. I'm 5' 4", 125.8 lbs, but I feel like I look at least 10, maybe 15 lbs heavier. I feel that it's all because of the fat still stuck on my abdomen and inner thighs. I do core exercises and have started doing yoga, and I would say I have a moderately strong core, so I think I'm a little toned up there. So I don't really think not being toned up in that area is the problem. I do know I have a little bit of issues with body dysmorphic disorder... But I still feel like my big stomach just makes me look so much heavier than I actually am, and it really gets me down sometimes!

    Can anyone else sympathize?

    I looked at your pictures, and I would have guessed you weighed less than 125.8. Probably 115. You have about the same body composition that I do (small top, slightly more womanly waist/butt/legs, thank god!), though you're 3 inches taller. Except your legs look great, with some nice muscled quads! I have no advice on the last bit of tummy fat, because I've got it too. What I do know is that you and I both can't afford to lose any more fat without a real focus on muscle building, especially on the top half where we already look as skinny as can be. We'd just look too frail. We may have to accept that our tummies will always be a bit more substantial than we'd like, because the only way to get ride of every bit of belly fat is to make the rest of our bodies look weak (hoping I'm wrong, but my tiny mom has a bit of a belly, too, sooo)