Ladies, what’s on your mind? Let’s talk about it..

Posted this one yesterday. Do you have a dog? HELP! lol

I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.

Posted this one yesterday. Do you have a dog? HELP! lol

I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.

I can relate in some way. Worst part is the dog sleeping in bed. I can't take it. Between the dog and him, I barely have room - even to move. And at times, it's like he loves the dog more than I. Does he? I doubt it, but sometimes I too, would like the same affection.

Just a quick thought- for all of their 'simplicity'.... that's what attracts me to men. I've dated men and I've dated women. Men are much easier, for me as a woman, to handle. Women are complicated. We have hormone surges. Two women together, whose periods line up with each other, are, in my experience, a ticking time bomb.

So... however complicated we women are, men's 'simplicity' is the yang to our yin.

Stereotypes?

We men-folk typically love all manner of stereo equipment!

We can talk about stereo types for hours!

Silly is fun sometimes.

I grew up in a house that was male dominant. I have my mom and my grandmothers, but that was pretty much it. Guys really aren't that hard to figure out. They like to feel good and are believers in instant gratification.

Why did he stop calling?? Because he didn't enjoy talking to you anymore
Why isn't he having sex with me?? Unless he has a medical problem, he either wasn't attracted or it wasn't fun enough
He treats me like a girlfriend but won't call me that, why? He doesn't want to be tied down, if he wanted to, you'd be GF
Why does he leave his s**t laying around for me to pick up? Because you keep picking it up...and alot of men are slobs

Those are just examples. There are exceptions here as men can be clueless sometimes....simple to a fault. See ladies alot of this falls on our shoulders. Most of what he does or doesn't do reflects on what WE do or don't do.

Feel secure with your man but he isn't romantic or chivilrous anymore? He stopped DOING it when you stopped DEMANDING it

They want to be told what to do, preferrably with written instructions and photos. They want lots of praise whether he built a house, or tied his shoelaces. Most positive reinforcement should come in food or sexual form.

I hope this helps my friends!