Serious Relationship Question

You have something against meeting someone online. Its 2014. Times changes from traditional dating. Unfortunate for me long distance sucks so hopefully this person lives close to you. Some people do the long distance thing fine. I cannot and will not.

What do you mean "is it possible?"

You think if a bunch of people tell you it's not possible you won't go down the road you are already starting down? You obviously know it's possible and must be looking for some validation.

Just use your brain when doing this.

MFP love: "You had me at 'sugar toxins' "

I'm not sure. I send out lots of junk pics but the girls ignore it. I mean, I'm just trying to give them an idea of what I have to offer before we get married.

What am I doing wrong?

I think any time you put a bunch of people together (or online) with similar goals, interests and limited supervision, things are bound to get a little crazy

I'm not sure. I send out lots of junk pics but the girls ignore it. I mean, I'm just trying to give them an idea of what I have to offer before we get married.

What am I doing wrong?

I literally just spit my coffee out...LMAO!!

I've made real friendships - like we have met and/or spoken off this website. I don't see why you wouldn't be able to make a romantic connection. Every situation is different. The worst that can happen is that they say no. Go for it no matter what.

I know a few couples who met online through AOL (back in the late 90s and early 2000s) and ended up getting married so it's definitely possible. I also know people who thought they were compatible with someone they met online but once they met in person, one moved to be with the other and they tried a "real" relationship it just didn't work. You have to remember that the way someone comes across online is not necessarily a true representation of who they really are. It's very easy to edit your words in an online conversation. Tone and emphasis are muted and perceptions of what is being communicated can be easily skewed. People can also easily mis-represent themselves.

If you want to attempt to move your relationship to the next level my advice would be to move it to the phone and/or video conferencing (Skype, Facetime, etc.) This will give you a better indication of the other person's personality. Remember that while you'll learn more it's still not the whole package. The person could be a slob, have addiction issues, be married, have huge money problems and you'd never know it through a virtual relationship because we can pick and choose what we choose to communicate in that manner. I just saw an article about a woman who was scammed out of $150,000 by a guy she had been "dating" online. It had gone on for awhile and she thought she knew him but it was just a long con. I'm certainly not saying something like that would happen to you but there are those types of people out there preying on the vulnerable and you need to be wary.

Whatever you decide to do, move cautiously and don't overcommit until you get to know this person well in an in-person relationship. Good luck!

You have something against meeting someone online. Its 2014. Times changes from traditional dating. Unfortunate for me long distance sucks so hopefully this person lives close to you. Some people do the long distance thing fine. I cannot and will not.

agree with all of this, especially the long distance part. been there, done that, no thank you.

OP, keep in mind internet personas differ from real life vastly in many cases. if you do end up pursuing this keep in mind you may end up disappointed

Don't entirely agree with that. I'm the same on here as i am in RL. take me as you find me, don't like me phut, I wont lose any sleep over it. Still stand by my first statement. Nah not on here.

You wont be the first couple to have met on line - or even on MFP. Whether it will work out or not depends on what happens after you meet in person.