Why does silence hurt
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they are not ready to talk to you. I would just leave them be. The more you persist, the larger the rift will grow. Leave them alone and let them cool off. Eventually, the relationship could be patched up. But, the other person has to let go of whatever happened and be ready to talk. This could take a week, a month or years. It could just be that they are ready to move on and the relationship is over. The bottom line, though, is that you will continue to get hurt the more you try to contact them and they ignore you.
My advice is to wait two weeks and then send an email saying that you are available to work things out if they ever decide they want to. And, then leave them alone until they approach you.
Remember, if you let something go and it flies away, it was never yours.0 -
Noone is irreplaceable. You made your tries. You hit a wall. Move on and continue your life. If they come back in good faith then you both can make ammends. To fix a relationship both parties must want it fixed. You cant do it on your own.
Everything hurts at first. You' ll get by.0 -
Who is Noone?0
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just like the other person said they are some details missing and Op didn't say it was relationship with opposite sex.This could be a friendship or family member.who knows and she doesn't need to explain anything to you regarding het personal life.Just answer theqquestion like how its presented instead making assumptions that may not be true0 -
just like the other person said they are some details missing and Op didn't say it was relationship with opposite sex.This could be a friendship or family member.who knows and she doesn't need to explain anything to you regarding het personal life.Just answer theqquestion like how its presented instead making assumptions that may not be true
Or you can stop telling people how to write on a public message board.0 -
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It wasn't anything that big.It was something minor and I accused them of bull*****ting me and I got angry at them. Now I am trying to make amends but they wont respond to me
If I was accused of bs-ing someone, and I wasn't...I'd be done with the person. Sometimes the damage has been done even if it seems innocuous to one party...everyone has a line and maybe you crossed it with that person.0 -
just like the other person said they are some details missing and Op didn't say it was relationship with opposite sex.This could be a friendship or family member.who knows and she doesn't need to explain anything to you regarding het personal life.Just answer the question like how its presented instead making assumptions that may not be true
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please reply to my thread politely and contructively to the topc or don't answer at all.I don't have to put all the details regarding my personal life as it is none of your business.0 -
Leave them be. You have tried contacting them and they obviously are too childish to respond.
^^this. the silent treatment is extremely immature and doesn't solve a damn thing..just makes a bigger wedge btwn two people. I call out people I know when they play that stupid game with me.0 -
Some people just need time to really put everything in perspective. If they care about you enough they will come to you. You already did your part in reaching out. Now let them come to you when they are ready to speak with you again.0
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please reply to my thread politely and contructively to the topc or don't answer at all.I don't have to put all the details regarding my personal life as it is none of your business.
Then why did you post this on a public message board on the internet where anyone could reply to it? Maybe you should have posted it on your personal wall, you might have gotten the sympathetic responses you were looking for. But since you see fit to give no detail as to how your situation came about, I don't see many people giving blanket sympathy to someone they don't know over the internets.0 -
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please reply to my thread politely and contructively to the topc or don't answer at all.I don't have to put all the details regarding my personal life as it is none of your business.
Yet you are airing your personal business on a public message board. K seems legit.0 -
just like the other person said they are some details missing and Op didn't say it was relationship with opposite sex.This could be a friendship or family member.who knows and she doesn't need to explain anything to you regarding het personal life.Just answer theqquestion like how its presented instead making assumptions that may not be true
^^^ I like how this poster chastises people on assuming, but she herself assumes the OP is in a relationship with the opposite sex. What if the OP was in a relationship with the same sex?0 -
Then why did you post this on a public message board on the internet where anyone could reply to it? Maybe you should have posted it on your personal wall, you might have gotten the sympathetic responses you were looking for. But since you see fit to give no detail as to how your situation came about, I don't see many people giving blanket sympathy to someone they don't know over the internets.
why do you need to know details about how my situation came about? I chose to keep the details vague as I felt like it wasn't necessary .The question is just that , and I am not looking for sympathy.Go through the thread and read other people response who answered my questions without demanding details so you know what kind of answers I am looking for.Nine of them where sympathic yo me at all, they just answered my question respectfully without making assumputions about the situation. Likre what I said details about my personal life is none of bussiness and lets leave it at that0 -
Some people just need time to really put everything in perspective. If they care about you enough they will come to you. You already did your part in reaching out. Now let them come to you when they are ready to speak with you again.
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Sometimes people need space (for many reasons).0
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I used to have an unhealthy relationship with my mother. And at one point, for the health of myself and our relationship, I just had to stop talking to her for a very brief time. And I needed to let her deal with her own feelings about it, instead of rushing back into our usual unhealthy relationship. Now, it's better.0
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It wasn't anything that big.It was something minor and I accused them of bull*****ting me and I got angry at them. Now I am trying to make amends but they wont respond to me
They are doing more bull****ting so as to gain control of the situation, by ignoring you they are in control and make you desperate enough to jump when they say when.
What are you trying to make amends for? Being angry, making a mountain out of a molehill or the accusation?0 -
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Since I am one of those, "leave me alone" people......they just need some time. Let them contact you.:flowerforyou:0
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there's some obvious details missing.
my impression though is that both babies in this situation need to be burped and diapers changed
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Who is Noone?
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why do you need to know details about how my situation came about? I chose to keep the details vague as I felt like it wasn't necessary .The question is just that , and I am not looking for sympathy.Go through the thread and read other people response who answered my questions without demanding details so you know what kind of answers I am looking for.Nine of them where sympathic to me at all, they just answered my question respectfully without making assumputions about the situation. Likre what I said details about my personal life is none of bussiness and lets leave it at that.I left out details about it because of people like you and I was right since you are now making assumptions about the situation and making it something that its not0 -
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Pretty much.0 -
I didn't ask you for any details, nor do I really care. I'm just finding it funny that you're getting agitated because you posted your message on a public forum and expect to moderate the answers given to you.0 -
They owe you enough respect to not leave you hanging or guessing . It hurts cause they dont deliver it.0
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I do. What the hell happened to cause this terrible shunning? What did OP do to this poor person?
Read her OP, she seems to think I was interrogating her. I was really asking why she was surprised that people answered the way they did (my curiousity), being that it was a question posed on a forum.
Terrible shunning. Really, get a grip :huh:
Edit: I reread what you said and I'm not sure if you're addressing what I said or the actual OP, as I may have read it wrong. SO if that's the case and you are asking about OP's situation then forgive me for misinterpreting your post. Otherwise, see the first part :laugh:0 -
I am one of those people who needs to be alone to get over things.
No it is not passive aggressive behavior. It is Leave Me The Hell Alone behavior.
No they are not childish.
YOU need to give them space so they can get over it. If you cannot respect their process, why should they respect yours?0 -
I am one of those people who needs to be alone to get over things.
No it is not passive aggressive behavior. It is Leave Me The Hell Alone behavior.
No they are not childish.
YOU need to give them space so they can get over it. If you cannot respect their process, why should they respect yours?
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