My dietician keeps body shaming me :(

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  • Aquaburry
    Aquaburry Posts: 45
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    Did you really use the words body shaming and triggering un-ironically?

    Also, common sense would have went far here. The only failure of your dietitian was assuming you would apply some.

    Completely unnecessary comment. Perhaps you should refrain from giving input when the OP is a recovering ED. Of course, that would require some common sense.

    Because coddling works so well.


    I might just get my first hand slap for this, and if I do, it's SO worth it. I REALLY hope you're a troll, because if you aren't, they you've got to be one of two things: a person who has zero compassion/empathy for those who are struggling with mental illness/disorders (as eating disorders are considered mental illnesses), or you're absolutely ignorant. Both of which, I can't stand and have a low tolerance for in life. No one here is asking for anyone to coddle the OP, but showing her some care, compassion, and dignity, absolutely. Every human being deserves this, and especially deserves to be treated this way by their healthcare professional. If she felt attacked, or body shamed by her dietitian, that is HER perception. That is the way she felt, and no one can tell her otherwise OR how to feel. I agree that there are two sides to every story, but at the same time, I am a survivor of PTSD due to severe medical neglect in a hospital setting, so I understand that the perception a person has of an event can be dramatically different. What happens to one person, or what one person sees/hears may or will be vastly different from another.

    You, nor anyone else can speak for this young woman and say what happened in the dietitians office, the way that she was spoken to, or treated. All I can say is that she does not deserve to be made to feel bad for making progress. Searching out another dietitian who better meets her needs, and will explain things in terms that they can work together on would be better for her than to stay with someone who she feels is making her feel ashamed and confused.

    THANK YOU!!! :bigsmile:
  • Aquaburry
    Aquaburry Posts: 45
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    update...GOT A NEW DIETICIAN! WHOOT WHOOT! She is actually on the NEDA and MSEDA association website...aka registered with the national eating disorders association AND works as an ED specialist AND therapist in the best hospital in the USA. Not kidding. This is the best hospital in the USA, Mass General Boston. I am THRILLED. Gonna go eat peanut butter to celebrate.
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
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    update...GOT A NEW DIETICIAN! WHOOT WHOOT! She is actually on the NEDA and MSEDA association website...aka registered with the national eating disorders association AND works as an ED specialist AND therapist in the best hospital in the USA. Not kidding. This is the best hospital in the USA, Mass General Boston. I am THRILLED. Gonna go eat peanut butter to celebrate.

    Excellent!

    Also, peanut butter is the best thing ever invented ever.
  • PixieGoddess
    PixieGoddess Posts: 1,833 Member
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    update...GOT A NEW DIETICIAN! WHOOT WHOOT! She is actually on the NEDA and MSEDA association website...aka registered with the national eating disorders association AND works as an ED specialist AND therapist in the best hospital in the USA. Not kidding. This is the best hospital in the USA, Mass General Boston. I am THRILLED. Gonna go eat peanut butter to celebrate.

    GREAT to hear!! Also, yes, peanut butter is awesome.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    update...GOT A NEW DIETICIAN! WHOOT WHOOT! She is actually on the NEDA and MSEDA association website...aka registered with the national eating disorders association AND works as an ED specialist AND therapist in the best hospital in the USA. Not kidding. This is the best hospital in the USA, Mass General Boston. I am THRILLED. Gonna go eat peanut butter to celebrate.

    Yay!
  • rockinrobin10
    rockinrobin10 Posts: 1 Member
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    Is this nutritionist recommended by your doctor? If not, does he know of a new one you can go to?

    I personally wouldn't continue to see someone who is doing that to you...sometimes it takes awhile to find a good fit.
  • disasterman
    disasterman Posts: 746 Member
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    Get a new nutritionist AND get a therapist ASAP. Talk wilt someone about your suicidal thoughts. Get help. You are not alone and things will get better.
  • wgaue
    wgaue Posts: 222 Member
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    update...GOT A NEW DIETICIAN! WHOOT WHOOT! She is actually on the NEDA and MSEDA association website...aka registered with the national eating disorders association AND works as an ED specialist AND therapist in the best hospital in the USA. Not kidding. This is the best hospital in the USA, Mass General Boston. I am THRILLED. Gonna go eat peanut butter to celebrate.

    Great!!!!!
  • Miss_1999
    Miss_1999 Posts: 747 Member
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    Yay!!! This is WONDERFUL news! You're on the right track! Please keep us updated on how things go! So very proud of you for taking such positive steps for yourself! You're gonna do great! Best wishes with both the new therapist and nutritionist! :happy:
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
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    update...GOT A NEW DIETICIAN! WHOOT WHOOT! She is actually on the NEDA and MSEDA association website...aka registered with the national eating disorders association AND works as an ED specialist AND therapist in the best hospital in the USA. Not kidding. This is the best hospital in the USA, Mass General Boston. I am THRILLED. Gonna go eat peanut butter to celebrate.

    ^5!
    Thank you for the feedback and good luck in the future!!
    :flowerforyou: :drinker:
  • RekindledRose
    RekindledRose Posts: 523 Member
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    update...GOT A NEW DIETICIAN! WHOOT WHOOT! She is actually on the NEDA and MSEDA association website...aka registered with the national eating disorders association AND works as an ED specialist AND therapist in the best hospital in the USA. Not kidding. This is the best hospital in the USA, Mass General Boston. I am THRILLED. Gonna go eat peanut butter to celebrate.

    Great news! Keep us posted (maybe on another thread). We're rooting for you!!!!
  • lillietoo
    lillietoo Posts: 4 Member
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    1st; It's impressive that you recognized you needed some help and then did something about it. Very brave, very wise.

    No matter how credentialed your nutritionist is, it's a bad fit. Find one that you can communicate with and make your journey a positive experience.
  • Aquaburry
    Aquaburry Posts: 45
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    Thanks again for all the positivity, everyone. This is probably the most successful I have ever been with seeking internet advice on MFP hahaha...anyways, if it is annoying to continue updating this thread I will stop to spare the others the annoyance. I just wanted to give a final thanks to everyone who reassured me I was NOT crazy and this dietician was A) Meaning well B) Probably 'right' to a degree about SOME stuff but C) NOT THE RIGHT FIT FOR MY PERSONALITY.

    Again, you've helped a great deal! And that peanut butter was awesome. You guys should try microwaving it with bananas, butter, flour, and baking powder...mini cake celebration.

    :wink:
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    That's wonderful. People aren't annoyed by your updates. It's just that when the thread gets bumped new people respond to the Original Post, and don't see all your updates.
  • fitchickarw
    fitchickarw Posts: 11 Member
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    In my experience with training people wanting to gain or lose weight (usually wanting to gain muscle and lose body fat), I have witness a lot of "quackery" from dietitians ... one went so far as to tell a diabetic to eat whatever she wanted and to just let her pump do the job . . . which almost ended her life!

    I would 1) seek an eating disorder counselor and 2) consider a wellness coach through IIN (Institute of Integrative Nutrition). Look IIN up on the internet and search for a wellness coach in your area... they treat the person as a whole and don't just throw a meal plan at you; OR, expect you to just figure it out on your own.

    Best of luck.
  • tfblair
    tfblair Posts: 2 Member
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    Find a dietitian - not a nutritionist - that understands medical conditions and food used to treat them. You've got a liver issue, a medical weight issue, possible emotional issues revolving around food, etc. - you need more than a "nutritionist," who wouldn't be qualified to deal withthese medical issues. I'm a nutritionist, as well as a trainer and coach, with decades of experience, and I'd refer you to a registered dietitian if you came to me for help. Get a referral from your doctor, and if he/she doesn't know who to refer you to find a doctor that does.

    Also, stay involved in these forums! Having feedback from others is a huge benefit when you're trying to learn how to do new things with food. You're on the right track, keep up the good work! Good luck and let me know how you fare.

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