It's official...I'm a liar :(

100 Lbs :sick:

There's no way he doesn't have an idea, 100lbs is HUGE and you're kidding yourself if you think no one realizes. I thought because I was six feet tall I could get away with fudging it a bit when I was 307 but I realized admitting it out loud to the people who support me has only been a help. I told my bf how much I was and it didn't phase him at all because why would the number matter? He sees what you look like, it's not like knowing the number is going to make him look at you differently.

He may not know your exact weight...but he probably doesn't believe the 207 number. Not trying to be mean but I've found that I, personally, looked bigger than I thought I did when I started losing weight but, looking back on it I looked very much the weight I was.

First of all congratulations on how far you've already come!

Your weight is your own, you don't have to tell anyone what it is but you do need to own it for yourself. I have a feeling that your BF doesn't care what the scale says, he loves you for your total package. I do think you should have a discussion with him if you're unhappy though, I don't mean with the relationship I mean with yourself because that will ultimately start effecting the relationship.

You've got a 6 month old, you have a chance to show someone right from the beginning what "healthy" is. Keep on plugging along because each day you get stronger, healthier and that child is seeing positives, a happy mommy means the world to a child.

something tells me he already knows.

5-10 pounds is one thing.

But 100 pounds is something else.

Think about how bad you feel now- and how much better you feel after you just come clean.

i was thinking the same. just tell him. he wont care, i can almost guarantee it, especially if you're actively trying to change

Same. He will be madder for the lieing than the weight. Your being dishonest with him.

Just tell him.

He probably cares much less about what you actually weigh and more about you being happy with yourself.

Been married 14 years and I just told the hubs how much I weigh recently. And that was only after I had lost some weight so the number wouldn't be so hard to say lol. So yeah I can relate.

Edit: that being said, he didn't look surprised. I think they can guess our weight and are just kind enough not to let on and/or don't think it is a big deal.

Actually, shame was what motivated me. I never cared one way or the other about my weight. Then, I went to the doctor and got on the scale. 309 lbs! Nothing was said about it. Not the nurse or the doctor. They just notated it on the chart. But I could not have been more ashamed of myself in my entire life. Shortly thereafter, I found MFP. It's been a long time since then, and even though I am not at goal, I feel so much better about myself than I did 3 years ago. Things will get better if you just keep at it!

Congrats on your progress! that's fantastic!

Just tell him - what are you truly afraid of? That he'll leave you? That he'll realize you lied? That he won't care at all if you do weigh 300 pounds? You'll feel better once you're not carrying the burden of dishonesty with a loved partner. That'll weigh you down every day.

Well, first off, he may actually NOT know you're lying. Lots of people are saying he can surely see you are over 300 lbs, but maybe he really can't! I was 213 lbs when my husband and I married. He honestly thought I was about 165 lbs (and no, he told me this after I had lost the weight, so he wasn't lying to make me feel better). He had what I call "love goggles" on and just couldn't see how overweight I really was.

Second, I was in your shoes for a long time, except I never lied about my weight. I just never told him the number. For some reason I figured if he heard that actual number out loud, he'd suddenly come to his senses, see how fat I was, and run screaming out the door. I constantly evaded the subject, even though it didn't come up often. My husband is tall, thin, and very fit. He never commented on my weight, but he did make suggestions for BOTH of us to better our health. I woke up the first part of September, 2012, and decided I wanted to be around to enjoy my life. I was tired of going on bike rides with my husband and having him hold back so I could keep up. I wanted us to do fun, fit stuff together! I joined MFP then and never looked back.

I wanted to share this new journey with my husband, and told him every time I lost an ounce. He was my biggest cheerleader and supporter, complimenting me as my body changed and making sure I had time to workout. We continued doing fun, active things together and eating healthy. After I had lost over 30 lbs, I finally told him my starting weight. I was so nervous/scared/sick to say that number, but guess what? He shrugged, complimented my thinner, "Hot" body, and went about his business. It was NO BIG DEAL!!! Once I got past that, I felt so free! I now have no problem telling people I was 213 lbs, but now I'm 142 lbs!! You will get there too, but in the interim, be honest with your sweetie. Share this journey with him without reservations. If he's as great as he sounds, he will focus on YOU and your progress, not the starting number.

Good luck on your journey!! Feel free to add me if you would like support!

Congrats on your weight loss so far. This sounds like such a difficult situation you are in. I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. You will feel much better if you just tell him - tell him everything you said here. Even read this post to him if you can, so that he will understand what you are going through. It also sound like maybe you could use some extra help, such as counseling, to deal with your deep-rooted issues you have.

You don't have to tell him yet! I never tell my husband a number, but he is very supportive and he could probably very easily guess where I am at. Focus on what you have lost- that is the number to share. You will know when you want to tell him.

your lies will only hold you back....so what happens when you lose 100 lbs, you are now 107? Honey, he knows, he loves you enough, not to talk about it. Stop living in secrecy.

So you tell him you're 207 but you publicly post in your profile "No easy fete at 300 plus pounds." You gotta work on this whole lying thing... or you know, just not lie about silly stuff in the first place.