A girl on my team called me fat...

You seem to have body issues

This is the 3rd post I've seen by you touting your weight, height, and measurements and asking if youre fat or some variation of that.

Stop seeking validation from others and learn to love yourself

How can ppl love themselves when it is human that we all have body issues? And you just throw a stupid response like this at her? Why comment, you have no helpful info for her and looks like you just want ppl to believe you are so content. If you are so content with your body etc, ignore me calling you out.

Definitely not fat. Hard to even imagine someone thinking that. Don't take it personally. Strength training is still a good thing, though, if you would like.

She's jealous because you are too adorable!

I'm gonna be brutally honest. I think that it's WONDERFUL for people of ALL shapes and sizes to get out and be active, play sports, ect. But I just can't wrap my head around the best spiker being a 00? How does she remotely have the strength to get the air AND the ball over the net? I realize, that there ARE people who are naturally this size, and they are struggling to gain weight and/or muscle, by NO means am I downing and/or making fun of them. I realize that for some, being small and gaining weight is just as much of a struggle as it is for those of us who are overweight and trying to lose weight, however, if you are extremely small, and the measurements I found for 00 are as followed: 30-23-32 -- that is EXTREMELY small. By no means am I saying that people who are small can't accomplish great things if they put their mind to it, but they're gonna have to work their butts off to build muscle to be strong enough to do it.

Volleyball is a sport where if you're a little thicker, it isn't a bad thing, and having muscle and tone is necessary. If you aren't strong, you're gonna get hurt.

As for your *team* mates, that was a ****ty thing for someone who's a part of a team to say. She needs to check herself. When you're on a team, it's about building one another up and working together, not tearing one another down. She needs a reality check in the worst way. One has to wonder, if she isn't hiding body issues as well, and projecting them onto you, and anyone else to hide her insecurity.

I agree with what others have said, as well. You have had a few posts seeking validation. I get it, being a young person is hard. You're trying to find yourself, and you're just getting started out in life. It took me a long time to realize, it honestly doesn't matter. People will tell you this OVER and over again, but it's something you're going to have to learn for yourself. What you think about yourself is the only thing that matters. You have to be comfortable in your own skin, and like what you see in the mirror. If someone tells me I'm ugly, a fat *kitten*, or anything else, I don't give a ****. I really don't. Unless you're my husband, you're not paying my bills, putting a roof over my head, food on my table, or clothes on my back, so there's no need for me to remotely be impressing you *general you, that is*. I dress to make me happy, enjoy things that make me happy, and do what makes me happy in life. The rest, it's just details.

Fat is an adjective - not an insult. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't of been offended if the same girl called you skinny, eh? Skinny & fat are adjectives used to describe our bodies - ones we place ENTIRELY too much meaning in.

I am surprised that everyone on your team is so tiny...

yeah this is what I was thinking. I know some girls who currently play volleyball at high school level and most of them are definitely not size 00. They're usually lean, but quite muscular & fit and much larger than that.

I am surprised that everyone on your team is so tiny...

yeah this is what I was thinking. I know some girls who currently play volleyball at high school level and most of them are definitely not size 00. They're usually lean, but quite muscular & fit and much larger than that.

I concur

Girls can be very mean to each other.

I agree with you too -it amazes me how immature and mean and nit picky adult woman can be towards others...

When we are young, we focus way too much on what other people think instead of focusing on how we feel about ourselves.

You are 19... you are young... so you focus on what other people think.

This is natural and expected. Most of us did the same thing at 19. I did, too.

But eventually you realize that the world is a really big effing place, and that you're a very small fish in that very big pond. And suddenly you realize that everyone ELSE is just a little fish, too, just trying to swim against the current. Somehow, this makes it easier to ignore what other people think and instead focus on what YOU are doing and YOUR goals and how YOU will achieve them. Suddenly, you're just trying to beat the current instead of trying to beat all of the other little fish.

Your problem right now is just the curse of youth. You have the whole world ahead of you, with lots of great years left to enjoy, and yet this is precisely the time in our lives when we tend to over-analyze situations and what other people say about us.

By the time you're "old" (I am 31, so to most people, I am still a kid, but to you I probably seem ancient) you don't have as much time left or as much youth to enjoy.

BUT as we age, we figure out that we don't really give a crap what other people think and instead we want to better ourselves so that we can be a better spouse, a better friend, a better parent, and a better person. We strive to be the best version of ourselves and ignore the naysayers.

I know that what I am saying sounds like old-man talk, but go ahead and print this topic, put it in a box, wait 11 years, and when you turn 30, go back and read it. Hopefully you will say, "Damn, all of those people were right."

I don't think you look fat, you like like a healthy teenager. Just remember that the power to be the best version of yourself comes from within, and what other people say or do to you doesn't have to affect how you approach your life, how you approach your goals, or how you see yourself.

To be honest this is a new account and is very similar to a person that trolls this site with this exact scenario. Creating new accounts, posting it in the forum, account gone, start over, again and again.

For every troll, there are 100 girls that actually think this about themselves. So the topic is hopefully still speaking to people positively.

You sure she wasn't saying phat?

Homonyms can be confusing

I think this is what really happened.

To be honest this is a new account and is very similar to a person that trolls this site with this exact scenario. Creating new accounts, posting it in the forum, account gone, start over, again and again.

For every troll, there are 100 girls that actually think this about themselves. So the topic is hopefully still speaking to people positively.

She does it to create drama. Getting people to say girls are mean, blah blah blah. And omg small people are weak and stuff. No, it's not helpful to continually encourage nonsense stereotypes. We are tired of her trolling.

Nope. Not fat.

Like another poster pointed out and based on your posting history you obviously have body image issues. Maybe some of your teammates are aware of this that that individual was looking to be a hateful as possible and knew saying something like that to hurt you.

Ignore those kind of people but also maybe try speaking to someone about your issues with your body image.

Yep, now I realize seeing these other postings.

OP, please talk with a professional as well as ignore this girl on your team. Never, NEVER, allow anyone else to define you.

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