Did he think I was hitting on him??

Calliope610
Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
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When I was at the gym this morning, I saw the same guy I see every M-W-F. He is one of the very few people in the gym at 5:30-6:00am. Between sets of leg extensions, I caught his eye and he came over. I stuck my hand out and said “Hi, I see you every morning and just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Callie.” He introduced himself and we had about a 45 second conversation about our workout schedules.

Then came that awkward moment when he just stood there. Was he waiting for me to say “you wanna grab a beer sometime?”

I’m married, but I don’t wear any jewelry when I go to the gym, including my wedding band. Did he think I was hitting on him?
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  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
    probably
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    It's fine. Just say hi next time and move on.

    It's early- there is always the "well lots to lift and then gotta jet for work- so lets' get to it"

    Almost anyone there before 7 AM is invariably trying to get a workout in pre- day job. That's the easiest way to dodge the bullet.
    Continue to be friendly- but move it along.
    You're fine.
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    When I was at the gym this morning, I saw the same guy I see every M-W-F. He is one of the very few people in the gym at 5:30-6:00am. Between sets of leg extensions, I caught his eye and he came over. I stuck my hand out and said “Hi, I see you every morning and just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Callie.” He introduced himself and we had about a 45 second conversation about our workout schedules.

    Then came that awkward moment when he just stood there. Was he waiting for me to say “you wanna grab a beer sometime?”

    I’m married, but I don’t wear any jewelry when I go to the gym, including my wedding band. Did he think I was hitting on him?

    depends...how did you 'catch his eye'
  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    It's fine. Just say hi next time and move on.

    It's early- there is always the "well lots to lift and then gotta jet for work- so lets' get to it"

    Almost anyone there before 7 AM is invariably trying to get a workout in pre- day job. That's the easiest way to dodge the bullet.
    Continue to be friendly- but move it along.
    You're fine.
    This.
  • shellma00
    shellma00 Posts: 1,684 Member
    It's fine. Just say hi next time and move on.

    It's early- there is always the "well lots to lift and then gotta jet for work- so lets' get to it"

    Almost anyone there before 7 AM is invariably trying to get a workout in pre- day job. That's the easiest way to dodge the bullet.
    Continue to be friendly- but move it along.
    You're fine.

    Agree ^^^
  • thesupremeforce
    thesupremeforce Posts: 1,206 Member
    Are you hitting on me now?
  • CipherZero
    CipherZero Posts: 1,418 Member
    Twerking on him probably gave the wrong impression. :tongue:
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  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    depends...how did you 'catch his eye'

    When there are only 3 ppl in a small gym (less than 2000sqft) it's difficult not to catch someone's eye. Besides, we usually acknowledge each others' presence with a nod. I just decided to introduce myself instead on continue with the anonymous nod.
  • JG762
    JG762 Posts: 571 Member
    When I was at the gym this morning, I saw the same guy I see every M-W-F. He is one of the very few people in the gym at 5:30-6:00am. Between sets of leg extensions, I caught his eye and he came over. I stuck my hand out and said “Hi, I see you every morning and just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Callie.” He introduced himself and we had about a 45 second conversation about our workout schedules.

    Then came that awkward moment when he just stood there. Was he waiting for me to say “you wanna grab a beer sometime?”

    I’m married, but I don’t wear any jewelry when I go to the gym, including my wedding band. Did he think I was hitting on him?

    How many times do I have to tell you to stop flashing the guys in the gym it just never ends well!!!
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    When I was at the gym this morning, I saw the same guy I see every M-W-F. He is one of the very few people in the gym at 5:30-6:00am. Between sets of leg extensions, I caught his eye and he came over. I stuck my hand out and said “Hi, I see you every morning and just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Callie.” He introduced himself and we had about a 45 second conversation about our workout schedules.

    Then came that awkward moment when he just stood there. Was he waiting for me to say “you wanna grab a beer sometime?”

    I’m married, but I don’t wear any jewelry when I go to the gym, including my wedding band. Did he think I was hitting on him?

    How many times do I have to tell you to stop flashing the guys in the gym it just never ends well!!!

    Well, he reminded me of you. What can I say :wink:
  • 1HappyRedhead
    1HappyRedhead Posts: 413 Member
    Probably.... strangely enough, for some people, just being friendly is taken as a "sign" that you're interested.
    You did absolutely nothing that you or I would consider flirting in any way, and maybe he didn't take it that way either, he just didn't know what else to say after that.
    When I lived in Phoenix I couldn't even make eye contact with guys at the grocery store or they'd come up and ask me for my number. One guy even followed me home after a simple walking past glance in the parking lot... I thought he had gone into the store, I had no idea...I couldn't have even told you what he looked like, it was so fleeting. Luckily, my husband was coming out of the garage when I got home, so the guy just made up a story about me dropping my wallet and that he was coming to let me know. (Silly me, my husband was the one that pointed out what had actually happened, I'm so naive I thought I might have possibly dropped my wallet and was all concerned about that, lol) So I learned quickly not to make eye contact out there, and it made sense why people were so standoffish.
    But to reiterate.... If that happens it's not you... it's them. It's just sad that pure old simple kindness is such a rarity anymore that it's misread. I, on the other hand, never think that anyone is flirting with/hitting on me, so I don't get it... lol.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    It's fine. Just say hi next time and move on.

    It's early- there is always the "well lots to lift and then gotta jet for work- so lets' get to it"

    Almost anyone there before 7 AM is invariably trying to get a workout in pre- day job. That's the easiest way to dodge the bullet.
    Continue to be friendly- but move it along.
    You're fine.

    Agree ^^^

    +1
  • frood
    frood Posts: 295 Member
    So....can we go grab a beer sometime? :wink:
  • lizzybathory
    lizzybathory Posts: 229
    I think it's hard to accidentally hit on someone... but maybe he was waiting to see if you WOULD hit on him? And then you didn't, so he moved on. No harm done.

    Unless he said something inappropriate, or asked you out on a date, or leered at you from across the room, or did something else to make you uncomfortable, I'd count him as a new friend. If you continue to be friends, perhaps there would be a tactful moment to bring your spouse up in conversation?

    Generally I don't count hellos and brief, friendly chit-chat as a come-on.
  • funforsports
    funforsports Posts: 2,656 Member
    Whoa, whoa, whoa.....What was this one in a million talk.
  • Jpeezy85ny
    Jpeezy85ny Posts: 63
    he probably thought you were flirting or being friendly which a lot of fellow men see as a "in" to go ahead and engage in conversation or "hit" on you.

    Nothing to worry about just say hi and keep working out and do your thing.
  • lngbrd
    lngbrd Posts: 279 Member
    Of Course you were hitting on him! Any time a girl glances my way, I'm sure she wants me. Isn't that the way it is?
  • 2_FitNFab
    2_FitNFab Posts: 163 Member
    Of Course you were hitting on him! Any time a girl glances my way, I'm sure she wants me. Isn't that the way it is?

    ^^^Yep that's pretty much how it goes or so it seems!
  • fractalsphere
    fractalsphere Posts: 3 Member
    He probably thought you were, a lot of guys would. But hey, just wear your wedding ring occasionally when you go (guys notice those things - trust me!) and he'll get the idea you were just being friendly.
  • NotAResolution
    NotAResolution Posts: 58 Member
    Some people don't know how to end conversations. I used to work with someone like this. They never saw the end of a conversation, you have to be very clear it was over for them to get the hint. So, it could be that you didn't end the conversation in such a way to signal it was over, or that he didn't figure out that it was over.
  • MagnumBurrito
    MagnumBurrito Posts: 1,070 Member
    Yeah, probably, but who cares. If he asks you out, just say thanks, but you're married. No harm no foul.
  • WhatAnAss
    WhatAnAss Posts: 1,598 Member
    Whoa, whoa, whoa.....What was this one in a million talk.

    "So you're saying there's a chance"
  • sunglasses_and_ocean_waves
    sunglasses_and_ocean_waves Posts: 2,757 Member
    Whoa, whoa, whoa.....What was this one in a million talk.

    So you're saying there's a chance ....
  • sunglasses_and_ocean_waves
    sunglasses_and_ocean_waves Posts: 2,757 Member
    Whoa, whoa, whoa.....What was this one in a million talk.

    "So you're saying there's a chance"
    dumb and dumber =)


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  • WhatAnAss
    WhatAnAss Posts: 1,598 Member
    Whoa, whoa, whoa.....What was this one in a million talk.

    So you're saying there's a chance ....

    Great minds....and *kitten*....think alike i see :)
  • vmlabute
    vmlabute Posts: 311 Member
    most likely yes. I have a very outgoing personality and every people I talk to they think I'm hitting on them...I just tell them, hey this is how I am with everyone, even women
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    So far I like this thread
  • 1HappyRedhead
    1HappyRedhead Posts: 413 Member
    In for great *kitten*!!
    Oh, wait.... was that a different thread? :flowerforyou:
  • valkaree
    valkaree Posts: 519
    Listen, I am married too! I just wanted to have a beer, jeez. Did me asking you to have a beer make you think I was hitting on you? So how serious are you on this whole marriage thing...

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