Did he think I was hitting on him??

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  • kborton1122
    kborton1122 Posts: 914 Member
    Wear your wedding band so there's no question if you're available or not. Problem solved.
  • jwats8
    jwats8 Posts: 112
    Jeez I hope all the guys I am friendly to don't think I'm hitting on them..... I'd be like the town slut.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    Wear your wedding band so there's no question if you're available or not. Problem solved.

    Nope, my rings get in the way when I'm lifting. (I've lost enough weight that they are loose and slip around my fingers.)

    ETA: I'm pretty sure there are some married women who openly hit on men WHILE wearing their wedding bands.
  • sijomial
    sijomial Posts: 19,809 Member
    depends...how did you 'catch his eye'
    Winking while using the adductor machine was a step too far.....
  • 2_FitNFab
    2_FitNFab Posts: 163 Member
    depends...how did you 'catch his eye'
    Winking while using the adductor machine was a step too far.....

    ^^^Really??....Now you tell me! I thought it was because I licked my lips :P
  • hill8570
    hill8570 Posts: 1,466 Member
    Possibly. Or he may have just been waiting for you to end the conversation...after all, you initiated it. Had it been me you were talking to, I would've considered it rude to break off so after you started the conversation. But, then again, I have the social skills of a brick.

    Time will tell.
  • valkaree
    valkaree Posts: 519
    depends...how did you 'catch his eye'
    Winking while using the adductor machine was a step too far.....

    ^^^Really??....Now you tell me! I thought it was because I licked my lips :P

    Yeah, that would be one of those Hollywood slow-motion shots where guys are staring and dropping the weights on themselves. I know if you were at my gym and did that there would be casualties and I would be one of them :)
  • cranshinibon
    cranshinibon Posts: 129 Member
    he may have just found you attractive and that hello made him feel less of a creep asking you out rather than being that guy at the gym nomsayin?
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Wear your wedding band so there's no question if you're available or not. Problem solved.

    not so safe actually.
  • bezerkus
    bezerkus Posts: 79 Member
    depends...how did you 'catch his eye'
    Winking while using the adductor machine was a step too far.....

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  • cakebatter07
    cakebatter07 Posts: 814 Member
    I don't think so. You were just being friendly. But who knows...
  • rback1977
    rback1977 Posts: 8 Member
    I would think you're "hitting" on me if you come over and introduce yourself at the gym. It would be a different senerio if it was in the workforce or a neighbor.
  • 2_FitNFab
    2_FitNFab Posts: 163 Member
    depends...how did you 'catch his eye'
    Winking while using the adductor machine was a step too far.....

    ^^^Really??....Now you tell me! I thought it was because I licked my lips :P

    Yeah, that would be one of those Hollywood slow-motion shots where guys are staring and dropping the weights on themselves. I know if you were at my gym and did that there would be casualties and I would be one of them :)

    ^^
    Haha... a little exaggerated I'm sure! But you are certainly welcomed to my gym and we could test that theory! :)
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Why does it matter, though? Sometimes guys think I am flirting (maybe I am). The worst that happens is they ask me out. I just tell them I'm married. It's a little awkward. But, no big deal. I tell them I am flattered. Silences like that are normal and could mean anything.
  • cstroh13
    cstroh13 Posts: 24
    It's fine. Just say hi next time and move on.

    It's early- there is always the "well lots to lift and then gotta jet for work- so lets' get to it"

    Almost anyone there before 7 AM is invariably trying to get a workout in pre- day job. That's the easiest way to dodge the bullet.
    Continue to be friendly- but move it along.
    You're fine.

    This^^
  • headofphat
    headofphat Posts: 1,597 Member
    He probably did. Just wear your wedding ring the next few days he'll get the hint.
  • AdiabaticPerformance
    AdiabaticPerformance Posts: 170 Member
    Sadly I agree, If a woman takes the time to introduce herself I feel she has some interest in developing a relationship with me. Now if it's a friendship or a romantic relationship, who knows
  • George_Baileys_Ghost
    George_Baileys_Ghost Posts: 1,524 Member
    Why does it matter, though? Sometimes guys think I am flirting (maybe I am). The worst that happens is they ask me out. I just tell them I'm married. It's a little awkward. But, no big deal. I tell them I am flattered. Silences like that are normal and could mean anything.

    *flirting with you*
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  • lizzybathory
    lizzybathory Posts: 229
    Why does it matter, though? Sometimes guys think I am flirting (maybe I am). The worst that happens is they ask me out. I just tell them I'm married. It's a little awkward. But, no big deal. I tell them I am flattered. Silences like that are normal and could mean anything.

    This. If you are respectful and don't cross any lines in your words or actions, it's not your fault if they misinterpret it.

    You don't *have* to wear your wedding ring to work out if it's uncomfortable or dangerous. Just be straightforward about your status and disinterest if he asks you out or behaves inappropriately. Until that happens, I'd just leave it alone.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Maybe he's just always socially awkward.
  • Chain_Ring
    Chain_Ring Posts: 753 Member
    Yep, he totally did. What other conclusion could there be?
  • sheenarama
    sheenarama Posts: 733 Member
    Well.. that's a little different than my technique of flirting.

    I usually kinda stare at a guy awkwardly. Then he catches me, I look away quickly. This usually goes on until we go our separate ways. I'm sure you have much more success than I do.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    He probably thought that certain way you crook your lips meant you wanted to taste the serpent
  • imaginaryplant
    imaginaryplant Posts: 93 Member
    It's truly annoying when being polite is mistaken for flirting/hitting on.
  • JT_Taylor99
    JT_Taylor99 Posts: 148
    Maybe since you introduced yourself to him, he thought you were going to carry the conversation and when you stopped talking, he became umcomfortable.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    It's truly annoying when being polite is mistaken for flirting/hitting on.

    It doesn't bother me.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    It's truly annoying when being polite is mistaken for flirting/hitting on.

    It doesn't bother me.

    me neither- only bothers me when the entire conversation and every conversation from that point forward is about flirting and it's REAL.

    like fun flirting is one thing- but when the intention of EVERY conversation an angle? get to stepping. that's so annoying. take a f**king hint dude.
  • trojan_bb
    trojan_bb Posts: 699 Member
    When I was at the gym this morning, I saw the same guy I see every M-W-F. He is one of the very few people in the gym at 5:30-6:00am. Between sets of leg extensions, I caught his eye and he came over. I stuck my hand out and said “Hi, I see you every morning and just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Callie.” He introduced himself and we had about a 45 second conversation about our workout schedules.

    Then came that awkward moment when he just stood there. Was he waiting for me to say “you wanna grab a beer sometime?”

    I’m married, but I don’t wear any jewelry when I go to the gym, including my wedding band. Did he think I was hitting on him?

    Of course he did. You caught his eye and introduced yourself...Or at least he was expecting you to say something more substantial than a few seconds concerning workout schedules.

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