Diet Judgement

It's not really about convincing other people of anything. It's more about convincing yourself that there opinions don't matter as much as your own when it comes to your body and your health.

I have a sweet tooth, too. My mom baked a cake and brought it over last night. I haven't thought about, didn't eat any last night (because I already met my calorie goal) and haven't touched it today because I started my day with a workout and, honestly, just felt better eating some protein and veggies afterwards. If you slowly eat less sugar, you will be less addicted to it, I promise. A couple days ago, I tried this Trader Joe salad. The dressing tasted disgustingly sweet to me. But, a couple of months ago, when I was making marshmallow fluff sandwiches, I doubt it would have tasted sweet at all.

Also, you can eat a cupcake. You just don't really need to eat 4 or 5 (I've been there, believe me!)

Say no. Get louder if you are made to repeat yourself. Get louder still if some fool tries again. By the time the neighbors can hear you, people will take the hint.

It's childish, but so is pushing food on someone who doesn't want or need it.

Double post for inspiration:

Or you could guarantee your family will NEVER push food on you again by looking at your husband, smiling, and then saying I can't, we want to try this new position with our bedroom swing, and I need to be a little thinner to bend a certain way.

Double post for inspiration:

Or you could guarantee your family will NEVER push food on you again by looking at your husband, smiling, and then saying I can't, we want to try this new position with our bedroom swing, and I need to be a little thinner to bend a certain way.

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Unless someone has the same goals and struggles as you, they won't understand. In some cases, won't care to understand. This isn't your problem. You just have to stick to your guns. If you want some, budget for it. Otherwise, don't eat it. No one can force you to eat if you truly don't want to do it.

Once you reach the "vanity pounds" stage, how do you all deal with haters?

I acknowledge that I am at a "healthy" weight by contemporary american standards - I range between 22 and 25% bodyfat at my lowest/highest. I hope to break into the 20% range someday, for a toned/athletic look. My husband is really supportive of the fat-loss thing. To the point of saying "are you sure?" before I eat something, or giving me the corresponding look. It's ok, he thinks he is being helpful.

EVERYONE else in my life consistently reacts the opposite way. If I say no thank you to a cupcakes/donuts/candy, they tell me I am thin enough and to EAT EAT EAT. This is hard because I actually really want said dessert - I have a ridiculous sweet tooth- so having it shoved in my face multiple times typically results in me eating it. Then being angry, then having an existential crisis and eating more.

What I am looking for is some tips for how to convince people to leave me alone and eat vegetables if I want- or the cake if it looks exceptionally good.
Tips on sweet-tooth mitigation would also be appreciated! It would be a lot easier to be strong when faced with cupcakes if I didn't love sugar so much.

Ive got a lot advice........One perhaps they think they are Complimenting you, or maybe there jealous. Ill normally only eat sweets if i KNOW every ingredient in it like for example something i made

Or you could guarantee your family will NEVER push food on you again by looking at your husband, smiling, and then saying I can't, we want to try this new position with our bedroom swing, and I need to be a little thinner to bend a certain way.

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People who want you to eat something are not "haters."

That's the root of this problem. Why concern yourself with them? You don't need to be rude, give reasons, or convince them of anything. Just say, "no thanks."

If they persist, ignore them. Or just say you are showing solidarity for (insert third world country) children. Then if they persist, it makes them the bad guy.

Exactly this.
So much drama momma in this thread!

Hangry people.

Just say "no thanks, I want to be ripped". Well, that's what I say.

There could be a number of reasons for this behavior. Sometimes it's fear or jealousy. But Dr. Yoni Freedhoff speculates in his recent book _The Diet Fix_ that people might be subconsciously worried by weight loss because it's associated with illness, which often causes wasting.

That's interesting. (I want to read that book.)

I seem to be in a social environment where people are much more reluctant to comment on each other's eating choices than many. Absolutely no one would suggest that someone is getting too thin or must eat, and hardly anyone not very close to me has said anything to me about my (obvious) weight loss (and one of the exceptions was our office's Polish cleaner, who comes from a different cultural background). Back when I lost lots of weight once before (and kept it off for some time), I got only positive comments (you are SO skinny, sometimes, but said in a way that was clearly meant positively and made me happy, whatever that means). The flip side of this is that it seems almost everyone has some dietary thing or another which they are happy to talk about and overweightness and certainly obesity seems much rarer than the stats for the US as a whole.

Anyway, although people mostly haven't said anything to me, a couple of those who did (both men, both good friends) were careful to ask if it was voluntary (I laughed and laughed), and I have also heard that another co-worker was asking about my weight loss, because (she allegedly said) she wanted to make sure it was voluntary and I wasn't sick. I get being uncomfortable asking about it or saying anything (I would be too) but I just found it odd that was even a thought given how fat I was and how much healthier I look now (no question), but maybe there's more to it, psychologically.

Now, I do get encouraged to eat more on occasion, but only when a friend wants to order something to share that she's not comfortable ordering on her own. It was a little socially awkward at first, but I've found it's really no big deal to say I'm just not interested/hungry/in the mood for whatever, although a couple of times I've gone along with it and just had a couple of bites.

I try to stay calm but it pisses me off so much. Finally I just lean in close and whisper, no means no. This works like a charm.

As to the sweet tooth, which I also have, I'm working on substituting fruit for sweets. It's nature's candy bar, right? Good luck! Let us know how the swing turns out :drinker:

Offense, is good defense. If offered food, politely decline. If pressed, state you are going completely sugar free, as a personal challenge. Discuss the health merits of going sugar free/vegetarian/vegan/raw, whatever fits the food offered. This usually shuts down any more discussion.

My Grandmother was a "guilt tripper", she would look down at the plate of cookies, sigh, state she made them special for me, and if I don't appreciate her any longer...blah blah blah....and I always would eat whatever it was, hence, my issues with food now.

At least, I learned, to never force food on others, especially my children, who are all a healthy weight.

Do you think it's often overweight people who seem to be the most upset when you say "no" because they are trying to make themselves feel less guilty for eating the dessert?

Do you think it's often overweight people who seem to be the most upset when you say "no" because they are trying to make themselves feel less guilty for eating the dessert?

Jeebus. If that isn't the most egocentric thing to think.

Maybe they like cupcakes and want to offer you a cupcake? It doesn't have to be justifying anything.

Obviously, if they're making remarks on how someone looks as a way to coerce someone into eating it, that's pretty stupid.

But I'm fairly fit and I would EAT THE DAMN CAKE.