Need advice from parents of teenagers!
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I'm going through a similar thing with my 18 year old son at the moment.
The problem is we may have gone through similar things ourselves or with our kids. We can even tell you what did or didn't work for us. However, every individual is... individual! You need to speak to a medical professional to get the help you need that's right for YOU!0 -
Um, my kids don't have that luxury of just not doing anything. They either contribute to the household, get decent grades ion school, or get a job. Period. Pull yourself up by the bootstraps and get busy. The longer you do it, the easier it becomes. Take it one day at a time.0
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Invite him on a walk or another activity. Get going and help him to get going, too. It'll give you time to talk about anything he might be bothered by and getting some fresh air usually helps lift me out of my SADS. I can get very down when it gets colder or drizzly rain. If it looks dark and dreary, that's when I need to make the most effort ir I end up in a weepy pity party for one.0
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I would say that you are 18 and going through a tough time... like most kids your age. I have two daughters (31 and 24 now) and went through lots of roller coasters with them. I always told them that life is about relationships and priorities and that if either one is out of whack, you will not be happy.... if you are depressed about your appearance, your image, then you need to decide if you want to do anything about it. If diet and exercise are too "painful" for you, then that simply means that staying how you are is more important than changing.
Until the status quo is more "painful" to you than changing, you will not change and no amount advice, therapy, medication will change that. It may take a while and you may have other issues that need to be resolved as well, but it will always come down to what is most important to you.0 -
I would say that you are 18 and going through a tough time... like most kids your age. I have two daughters (31 and 24 now) and went through lots of roller coasters with them. I always told them that life is about relationships and priorities and that if either one is out of whack, you will not be happy.... if you are depressed about your appearance, your image, then you need to decide if you want to do anything about it. If diet and exercise are too "painful" for you, then that simply means that staying how you are is more important than changing.
Until the status quo is more "painful" to you than changing, you will not change and no amount advice, therapy, medication will change that. It may take a while and you may have other issues that need to be resolved as well, but it will always come down to what is most important to you.
Smart man! this is so true for people of ALL ages.0 -
Well, you have gotten a lot of advice here, hope it will be helpful. It might not hurt just to talk to someone to make sure you aren't depressed, but sometimes they are very quick to prescribe medication as a first resort, and that is not always a good thing. So other than the advice you have already been given, I would give you this advice: Fake it till you make it. That means even if you care about nothing, put yourself out there doing things -- school, work, helping others, connecting with friends, photography, writing, whatever. Try to have fun where you can. As you are doing these things you don't "care" about, you may get caught up in something you do care about. Wishing you all the best!0
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Maybe I am missing the point here but I cannot see any reasons for depression or a thing else. There is no 'my parents are splitting up and my boyfriend has dumped me and I am 30 stone overweight' or such like. All you have said is that you quit MFP because you didn't want to log. Ergo, I see no reason to seek therapy or a doctor unless, as I say, I have missed the point. Your lethargy strikes me as a normal teenager, just like my own.
They get told to walk away from the XBox, computer etc and spend some time with some friends. In the same room!! Get to sleep before midnight and get up before 8:30. If they don't get out of the house, they get jobs. And sitting in front if the TV all day is not acceptable!!0 -
I will make an appointment with a counselor. Thanks to all those who replied.
Good. Understand it's quite normal to have some blue years while your hormones are going crazy but that it's also courageous and smart to enlist any help you can find to deal with the issue.0 -
Maybe I am missing the point here but I cannot see any reasons for depression or a thing else. There is no 'my parents are splitting up and my boyfriend has dumped me and I am 30 stone overweight' or such like. All you have said is that you quit MFP because you didn't want to log. Ergo, I see no reason to seek therapy or a doctor unless, as I say, I have missed the point. Your lethargy strikes me as a normal teenager, just like my own.
They get told to walk away from the XBox, computer etc and spend some time with some friends. In the same room!! Get to sleep before midnight and get up before 8:30. If they don't get out of the house, they get jobs. And sitting in front if the TV all day is not acceptable!!
You don't understand depression if you think you need a reason to be depressed.0 -
Um, my kids don't have that luxury of just not doing anything. They either contribute to the household, get decent grades ion school, or get a job. Period. Pull yourself up by the bootstraps and get busy. The longer you do it, the easier it becomes. Take it one day at a time.0
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I would say that you are 18 and going through a tough time... like most kids your age. I have two daughters (31 and 24 now) and went through lots of roller coasters with them. I always told them that life is about relationships and priorities and that if either one is out of whack, you will not be happy.... if you are depressed about your appearance, your image, then you need to decide if you want to do anything about it. If diet and exercise are too "painful" for you, then that simply means that staying how you are is more important than changing.
Until the status quo is more "painful" to you than changing, you will not change and no amount advice, therapy, medication will change that. It may take a while and you may have other issues that need to be resolved as well, but it will always come down to what is most important to you.
Smart man! this is so true for people of ALL ages.0
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